There's also the case of my Nan she's so desperate for love, that she ends up going with the first guy who tells her that. And there's been 5+ cases of times where the guy has ended up beating her, broken bones for her etc. And she was finally in a good relationship a little while ago and spent his money and then ended up leaving him for one reason or another. Has since dated a black guy younger than myself, and is now with a loser who she knew 30 odd years ago, he was on the doll then and is on the doll now and practically nothing has changed about him in 30 years.
Tbh the whole thing has had a negative impact on myself, as for years I've vowed to not allow myself to be like that. So I've never let myself get in deep, I met this really sweet guy before, and we really hit it off and that scared me, so I stole some change off of him, to scare him away. 🙄 Stupid really, but then that's why next time I'm going to work out my problems, so I don't run when things look good as I'm constantly looking for the other shoe to drop.
But one thing I'll never do is beat my kid like my mother did to me, I remember being locked in a cupboard, I also remember not being fed and being slapped across the face and whipped with a belt. And I'll never do that to her, same as dragging her up the stairs by her hair, I'll never do that. It terrified me as a kid and gave me nightmares for weeks.