What are ur biggest red flags while dating someone?

[athelete_7]

[jennifer_bloom]

A guy who is so serious he wants to kill you for annoying him or a guy who is so casual he has no confidence to confirm or maintain his connection with you.

[athelete_7]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Laila97]

-He wants to see netflix... (wants sex)
-Only talk about her ex
-Let me pay when he invites me
-Send me an uber

[Guy13]

Shakes my hand like a man. Knows more about cars, sports, alcohol, hunting, and grilling than I do, Unable to control tongue. Junked over exposed. Still interested in phone activity. Loves talking about herself Off top of my head

[petitedollbabee]

Controlling or possessive behaviour, talks badly and often about their exes, makes insulting and misogynistic jokes, makes fun of disabled people, has the mindset of a 16 year old (lack of emotional maturity), drinks a lot or wastes all their money on drugs, has severe mental health issues but refuses therapy or treatment, has manipulative behaviour and attention seeking behaviour ie “if you don’t do this I will just go k! ll myself” or “I bet you don’t even like me, I’m ugly, no one likes me”, has no independence - they rely on their parents to do everything for them.

[Vesuvius87]

Major red flags:

- Cruelty towards animals or children

- Controlling/narcissistic (''I'm the best, you'll never find better than me, etc''

- Anti-marriage and trying to convince me to only live together

- Lying and/or cheating

- Excessive drinking and/or smoking

- Flirting with other women

- Being disrespectful to my family

- Religious fanatic

[chicosuave]

Well your out of luck about the marriage thing. Single forever for most men tho. Most men don't believe in marriage or won't get married. Thanks to the given stats that women initiate 70 percent of divorces.

[Vesuvius87]

@chicosuave
I'm not even from the US. I'm from Peru. People are still getting married here, lesser but not at the rate of the US.

[Vesuvius87]

You're replying to a Latina with several traditional values (with the exception of being an atheist), not the modern type that breaks up for anything. I want full commitment and only believe in divorcing if it's abuse or infidelity.

[chicosuave]

bullshit. people from peru dont speak English. your probably live in the us adapted to the American culture and mentality.

[athelete_7]

👀dood stop blaming her she just posted her red flags shouldn't bother u man she wasn't targetting anyone unlike u.

[athelete_7]

Its her red flag. U said what u didn't feel was right stop blaming her she isn't even from ur nation.

[athelete_7]

Unlike u she wasn't targetting any person

[Vesuvius87]

@chicosuave
I've lived in the US long ago from ages 4-10 years old. That's why I speak fluent English.

[Vesuvius87]

@chicosuave
You are right that I've lived in the US before but I still kept some traditional values, with the exception of being an atheist.
If you don't my deal-breaker, why even bother trying to get me to agree with you? I don't care about other people's problem. I'm going after my goals, after what I want in life regardless of how difficult it is or what year it is. I will not follow a man's agenda of cohabitation.

[Vesuvius87]

**from ages 4-20 years old

[Steamnir]

1-he lies

2- he let me pay

3- he show narcissistic or dominant character

4- he wants to just hook up

5- he doesn't work

6- he look to other girls while i am sittjng with him

7- he make stupid disrespectful racial jokes

8- he isn't smart

[kr775_]

In regards to no. 2
Is it the same if you asked him out and it wasn’t him who asked you out? I am curious because some people say it depends on who does the inviting and others view it differently

[Steamnir]

@kr775_ i think if he asked him out, i need to pay

[Steamnir]

@kr775_ i think if i asked him out, i need to pay

[kr775_]

I have one more question out of curiosity what does your user name steamnir mean

[ThinkFitness23]

Dating is broad, this could simply mean pursuing someone for fun.


If your dating with romance and in hope of marriage then this is of course different.


This is wear things go wrong, there is a difference and respect for this difference is real yet currently there is no focus on this.

[Hairylegs222]

While on a date: on her phone too much, checking out other guys, says rude insulting jokes to me trying to play it off that they're "jokes", she barely says anything, gold digger, she keeps bringing up my exes.

Of course the basics: Slut, disloyal, irresponsible, stupid, fat, lazy, druggie, alcoholic, no self control, ginormous ego, bad with money, in debt, and other horrible things.

[TacosRAwesome]

- believes in a version of equality where it seems women do more work, eg refuses to do housework but wants women to ask him out type of thing

- obsessed with other women / not over an ex

- too much drinking / smokes indoors.

- needs to always be right and doesn't accept any answer he doesn't agree with.

[Iron_Man]

Unappreciative and always on their cell phone when new right in the middle of the date instead of talking. I have never experienced that before but I wouldn’t like it

[AddylynnNightingale]

Mentioning their ex. If he hasn't moved on, it's bad.

[chicosuave]

When she is on the phone and doesn't give any attentions. Liar and and a cheater. Has hundreds of guy friends. She is disrespectful and her beliefs are all fucked up.

[TroyDT2]

My insta-dumps are:

Manufactures drama.
Treats servers poorly.

[sweet-chocolate]

If he has no respect for other people but treats me like a queen.

[athelete_7]

That kinda shows tho that he likes u i guess. 🤷

[swettannie]

why?

[Tina19]

Possessiveness
Wanting to control
Make insulting jokes
Want to rush into relationship and starts to talk about future

[athelete_7]

Umm not gonna lie sounds like me tbh

[athelete_7]

I dont make insulting jokes. But yep i would make sure i give signs that i like u. Not gonna rush to relationship tho

[Bethany22]

They have very bad spelling, they schedule the date the same day, and they don't share much about themselves.

[Fuentes]

SJW/feminist/liberal - voted for Biden - Supports LGBTQ

Smokes weed

Brings up her ex

Any felonious charges

Says she has a huge history of DV with multiple men.

Different baby daddies

[Shy_Steve]

Usually when I see them talking to other People like in Groups sort of thing.

I know that's fairly common, But I'm more Attracted to them when they are just by themselves doing there own thing.

[OnlinePeanut22]

Controling rude disrespect ismaking fun of people with learning disability. Talking down like a kid. Immature cheating, being coky and do not listen.

[RandomGuy1032]

She wants to have sex too fast... she wants to pay... she has no job and not stressed about anything

[bamesjond0069]

Had casual sex

Biggest red flag of all red flags.

[Anonymous]

Maybe a few divorces, multiple kids with different fathers, past drug abuse and excessive drinking

[Blackcupcake]

selfishness

[athelete_7]

I still think not being honest or faithful or sinciere is bigger red flag. Selfishness could still be tolerated if someones faithful. But yep selfish is also a red flag.

[Blackcupcake]

lies, dishonesty and unfaithfulness can come from selfishness as well…

[athelete_7]

True selfishness does breed them 👀 not denying. Just saying my opinion for me dis honesty is a bigger red flag. but yep u are right it does breed lies and dishonesty.

[Blackcupcake]

fair enough

[Dnice1]

Mean, unloyal, not honest and abusive

[TonightYouu]

Two words: Dog Mom

[athelete_7]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[JohnK123]

Those pics hah