My ex doest want me to let go of her and wants to remain freinds with me?

[Anonymous]

I wanna forget about her cuz she texted / flirtingly with someone who was her crush ( and that crush was in a relationship aparently ). And she has flirted 3 times before i gave her silent treatment before then i blocked her 3 times. She said sorry but repeatedly does this same thing i dont trust her so i wanna call it off what should i do?

[hahahmm]

She treats you this way because of who you are. In other words, your character allows for her to get away with it & that is not something that is easily changed. Your best move is to ignore her 100% and move on. Later you can develop the kind of character that approaches things differently and she'd then treat you different BUT I don't think you should ever give her another chance because I doubt she is worth it. Sometimes in life you may run into someone who is a borderline case but still, there's that old saying: you can do better.

Check out my My takes sometime.

[Asker]

True its better to change being nice and not let such people take advantage of me

[hahahmm]

The best approach is to set your life goals (short and long term) that are NOT about women but that will make you be the best man you can be and focus on achieving those goals. As you achieve goals your confidence will build and as a side effect you'll be more attractive to women too BUT the main thing is you will be in control of what happens and not feel like you need people who aren't interested in playing by your rules.

[Anonymous]

NEVER let an ex remain a friend.

Women do this because they want the benefits of everything they had with you but want to fuck and be in a relationship with someone they deem better than you.

Cut all ties.

[Asker]

👀 fucking i doubt i think its opposite. I have a great bod. I think she just wants benifits in other sense by being freinds. She flirts with other peeps for emotions i feel.

[misfittoy]

if you can't get past it, then i would move on. i mean she violated your trust only you know if you can decide to forgive her for that. remain friends? smh, if you are done with her be totally done with her make it clear you are not interested in her as friends or anything more, stick to it and block, forget her. move on

[Asker]

Gonna stick to block blocked her a week ago. Felt bad so asked for others how to handle it. 🤝

[Asker]

Thanks ur advice helped gonna stick to block

[misfittoy]

proud of you, you got this!

[AddylynnNightingale]

I read your description but I want you to tell me once more, what is it that YOU want?

[Asker]

I dont wanna talk to her ever again. Without hurting her. She made me call from her freinds to unblock her and to remain freinds while i dont wanna remain that. I ve blocked her and dont wanna think about her. I just felt bad for her thats why i posted the question to ask others did i do right or wrong.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Alright, good. Stay with me now, you're doing a very good job. How old are you, sir?

[Asker]

Am 21 soon to be 22 dont call me sir lol

[AddylynnNightingale]

I don't like to call you Asker. But thanks for answering the questions, I just want to walk you through this. Final question. Your ex, she wants to talk to you, but you don't. Will that hurt her, yes or no?

Bonus question. If you continue talking. Will that hurt you and your mental health, yes or no?

[Asker]

👀she tried to contact a lot but thinking what she did if it bothered to her she wouldn't have flirted many guys infront of me. I dont think it will hurt her its just be bothering too much. Yep talking about her did effect me 3 nonths ago i went blank for no reason now i ve reached a state it doesn't affect me anymore.

[Asker]

Its just the feeling tho u dont wanna disapoint someone who s making efforts. But those things are worthless when u know u alrdy gave chances and u ll be played again

[AddylynnNightingale]

But what... if it Does hurt her?

[Asker]

👀 that is the only reason i asked the question and opinion from others that did i do right or wrong

[AddylynnNightingale]

"But those things are worthless when u know u alrdy gave chances and u ll be played again"
Is what you said. The best course of action here would be to follow through on what's best for you and cut her out of your life, wouldn't you agree?

EVEN if it BREAKS her heart? Doyou agree?

[Asker]

Yep cutting her off is the best i can do

[AddylynnNightingale]

Good. Now you know what to do.
What ZenJen is trying to say is that you should think about yourself and what's best for you. You shouldn't look at best for others, as cruel as that sounds. We're gonna die someday, and life's too short to be living for others' happiness while you suffer under it. Bit harsh, but not untrue.

[Asker]

will try not to be a people pleaser or a simp ay thanks for the help. Better to live for myself and focus on myself.

[AddylynnNightingale]

It's okay to look after people, care for them and support them, but you've got to set clear boundaries to keep yourself safe. NEVER FORGET THAT.

[Guy13]

You’re smart… done ✅. If she does that once she’ll do it the second and third time as it is easier

[Asker]

Yep it is man. The more chances u give the more u ll end up looking like a fool.

[Asker]

Better to call it off and move on

[Guy13]

I think so and I do not like pushing separation and negative but seems like it...

[D_Bone_Steak]

She's keeping you around for a backup plan or as an emotional tampon. This is one of those situations where you should just ghost harder than any guy has ghosted a girl before.

If you don't shake her off the bullshit she's doing to current guy is the only thing you have to look forward to. An ex should be outside of the realm of anybody you should talk to.

[Twalli]

Tell her that at this time you can't be friends with her. Maybe you can be friends later, but now you can't.

[ZenJen444]

You need to stop being a weak simp. Man up and move on

[Asker]

👀 i am not being simp man i just dont like breaking other peoples hearts but yep i shouldn't be weak minded ur right on that point

[Asker]

👀 am not a simp tho for clarification.

[ZenJen444]

You're a weak simp. She's an ex that's using you to occupy her time until the she gets the man that she wants. Man up

[Anonymous]

Unless she has some hot friends you can hit on, then don't bother wasting your time.

[Softmani]

I think she is trying to take a revenge on you.

[Asker]

👀why do u think she wants a revenge on me? I dont think i ve done anything to have a revenge on? Pls tell why u tjink she wants a revenge on me?

[melanieeeB]

Block her