How would a guy feel if he saw someone from a dating app at his company workplace?

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I used two dating apps last year and liked this guy to try and match with him on both apps. He was my type and went to my college but he would not match with me. I deleted one of my apps to try matching with him again but he still didn't match with me. It was a very embarassing moment and quit dating apps. Now, i just found out the company i am joining for a new job.

I know for a fact he recognizes me because our college is small and we are in similar fields. I really regret being creepy and trying to match with him.

How would a guy feel about this? Would he try to avoid me or think i’m weird? I also don’t know how to approach this situation except act like I don’t know him.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s slightly embarrassing but there are lot worse ways you could of been “creepy”.

Most men don’t waste their time trash talking, gossiping and fretting about “creepy” women the same way many women do. Hell some of us had to deal with truly creepy/stalkerish women at some point in our lives but unless our lives were threatened it’s not something we lose sleep over.

Anyway he probably forgot about it in the next day. I get the embarrassment but given it’s digital he blew it off fast.

A few months ago asked at out a younger woman I knew at my local CF gym. I was careful to chat her up several times before I took the dive and asked her to get breakfast. She smiled and told me she had a boyfriend. I said I understood and wouldn’t ask again.

But now I have to run into her occasionally. One time only she showed up to a class. It was her, me and the instructor. It was awkward but I got through with it.

I also remember her wanting to chat me up the next time I saw her after she turned me down. I made small talk but didn’t engage. While I don’t want things being awkward I also don’t want her thinking I am okay with the friéndzone (sure as hell am not).

I also starting to believe she lied about having a boyfriend. She talks her life a lot with other members at the gym but she had never once mentioned him.

On one end I get her intention to lie of giving me a much less painful rejection for a legit reason (she’s taken). But on other end it’s a bit depressing she wasn’t interested in me at all. But it’s how it is.

Mega_illuminati · Accepted Answer

My recommendation, be a grown up about it. We are adults. We all need partners in our lives (unfortunately, evolution sucks). So, you thought on paper you two would be good. Its no big deal. He might not have felt the same.

If he is a mature dude, he will feel the same. And most probably there won't be any awkwardness, unless you yourself create it.

Otherwise, life is too short anyways. He is probably busy with his life. So you should be busy with yours as well. Keeping things civil because you guys work together is best.

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

Just act like he's a friend and like nothing is awkward, and he will do the same

Guy13 · Answer

Cool as long as he or she were not A-holes to one another etc... Were you?

Avicenna · Answer

Just act like it never happened if you cross paths with him. There's no need to.

UnknownSwede · Answer

But if you didn't match he wouldn't know that you liked him? Unless he paid for premium features at the app.

Now you have the chance to approach him in real life. Try to talk to him to get to know him and show interest.

I've seen sevral girls I kinda know, on tinder. I have swiped right on some, one of them were an old fling but didn't match. I even wrote something to her on Facebook or if it was Instagram as well, since she har been in a relationship for a long time and would've been fun to reconnect. She kinda ignored me so that's it and I guess that's a bit embarrassing.

Summeroflove · Answer

Eh. Not much personally other then think. I recognize this person, if I was not soliciting a date from her. If I was trying to get a date or we were talking over the dating app. Then I would probably talk to her.

But I don’t use dating apps. It’s a hypothetical question so I don’t know what I would do. Also… If depends on the guy.

I don’t know what goes on in other mens heads. Believe it or not

rflulling · Answer

It would be neat to see a profile for the girls i work with. But otyer that maybe learning a few thing about them. That as far as th8s goes. Odds are if we liked each other we would not need to happen to find a dating profile. Offs are the employer has a very strict no fraternizing rule, mine does.

ThinkFitness23 · Answer

Stay true to yourself, if you see him just smile. This will likely prompt him to smile back or say hi.

If you feel to at some point you could tell him you had a crush on him but you don’t need to use words it’s all in the eyes and the vibe you give off.

Adam1978 · Answer

He isn't interested so he will do absolutely nothing. Avoiding people is a task, he will just keep doing his job. If you try something he will most likely just ignore your attempts.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It's not creepy, even if we aren't interested. Only women go around calling people creepy for having a crush on someone.

Quitting the apps because you didn't match with one particular guy is dumb though.

spartan55 · Answer

Act like you don't know him? That will only make you look stupid. Hey might not know who you are.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I had a coworker swipe right on me. I wasn't interested and just went about things as normal. Neither of us ever brought it up. I imagine it will be the same.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Just because he may recognize you doesn’t mean he can place you. I wouldn’t worry about it.

bolverk · Answer

Personally I'd say absolutely nothing, what someone does on their own time is their business, unless it negatively affects Me and mine.

Twalli · Answer

I saw classmates on dating apps. We didn't match up, but we knew each other from highschool because each grade had under 60 students.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

I ask her out in person. There's nothing wrong with what she did. We're both human beings with needs beyond the money we get ar work

Anonymous · Answer

I swiped left. But she has a dog and I am allergic.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I wouldn't care.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

He's not gonna make something out of nothing

Jltakk · Answer

Happened several times, don't really feel anything

Baredog · Answer

If attractive (hopeful)

Anonymous · Answer

I would feel nothing.

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