Is it normal for my boyfriend’s brother to be jealous of him spending time with me?

[you_will_never_know]

i’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend not that long, aka 3 weeks, at first i told him i can’t wait to meet his brother and sister but he told me that his brother isn’t ready to meet me. i said it’s ok since we just met but recently i’ve been noticing that he just doesn’t like me. he told my boyfriend that he’s mad at him because my boyfriend is spending more time with me. i wanted to say to him that sounds controlling but i just let it slide. my boyfriend also told me i can’t meet his friends or go out with him whenever he goes out because his brother needs to invite me but i’m always invited on his end. this is driving me kinda crazy because i feel like i can’t even text him because his brother will get mad.

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by the way my boyfriend is 20 and his brother is 24

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i only get to spend time with him once a week im lucky if it’s 2 times a week. if y’all have some advise lmk cause i really need to sort this out.

[Saltystardust]

It would depend on the age of his brother. If his brother is a lot younger, and he doesn't understand the concept of a relationship yet, I can see it to be normal. I have a brother that's 10 years younger than I am, when I was in my teens he'd get upset that i wasn't able to play video games and spending time with my girlfriend at the time.

[you_will_never_know]

he’s 4 years older

[Saltystardust]

Then never mind that's not the case then.

[User3191989]

You ever watch Boy Meets World. Watch how much time Cory spends with Topanga as they grow older and how Eric feels about it, when it all leads up to both of them getting hurt from a stranger at a garage sale, that they were supposed to do together

[you_will_never_know]

i literally only spend time with him once a week the rest of the week we text and he hasn’t been wanting to call as much before soooo it’s definitely not the time we’re spending witch each other it’s clearly him being petty.

[User3191989]

It sounds like you want him to ONLY spend time with you when YOU want it

[you_will_never_know]

i literally don’t. i always let him plan everything around his schedule because he’s more busy but my problem is not us hanging out my problem is the brother who literally said and i quote “you are always on your phone texting her and calling her and you hang out with her to much” that’s why i’m saying we hang out once a fucking week and that’s if his brother even lets him.

[User3191989]

Then he's likely right. If you're ALWAYS with him, then you're likely ALWAYS with him, and his brother feels left out. I'm telling you, you should watch Boy Meets World, and really watch that scene

[you_will_never_know]

i’ve watched boy meets world and girl meets world it’s NOTHING like that scene also what part of we only see each other once a week do you not get.

[User3191989]

Yet, then you're ALWAYS talking.

Like I said, it's EXACTLY like Boy Meets World

[you_will_never_know]

how are we always talking?

explain to me

[User3191989]

You literally said you were

[you_will_never_know]

we text normally and we only see each other once a week so how is that a lot

[Guy13]

No that’s not normal to me.

[you_will_never_know]

really? i have to get the brothers approval to meet his friends and spend time with them.

[Guy13]

Not me…

[Nobileosun_9534]

His brother should not be angry, maybe if he became jealous so maybe he like you

[you_will_never_know]

ummmm his brother is gay lmao

[Iron_Man]

If he craves the brothers attention, yes it can be

[you_will_never_know]

he doesn’t at least he hasn’t told me.

[Iron_Man]

Brothers can be best friends

[you_will_never_know]

i know that but i just find it annoying that the brother told my boyfriend that he’s texting calling and spending too much time with me. we only see each other once a week

[Iron_Man]

Oh I see perhaps its jealousy involved

[Anonymous]

His brother sounds childish.

[you_will_never_know]

i was thinking the same thing tbh

[Summeroflove]

Nope not at all

[you_will_never_know]

exactly thank you

[Summeroflove]

You're welcome.

[In_Trance]

Yes it is

[you_will_never_know]

it doesn’t to me tbh. my boyfriend is 20 and his brother is 24