Why are ultra masculine men unattractive?

[Anonymous]

[JessicaEarl]

Depends on how you’re measuring masculinity. If you’re talking about a gym rat, that’s someone who is going to be way too obsessed with themself and their routine and seems inflexible to me at first glance. I don’t want to have conversations about his workout and I don’t want him critiquing mine. If you’re talking about this guy with the big beard, why am I supposed to even interact with that.

basically my answer is these “ultra masculine” guys seem like they’ll be really hard to have serious and emotionally intimate discussions that a relationship requires. Not a fair generalization, but an answer to your question

[DEondeBeaumont]

Yes, but he will satisfy you in bed which you will like more than a chat over some coffee.

[JessicaEarl]

@DEondeBeaumont good sex doesn’t equal good relationship my friend. It sure helps! But not enough to make me fall in love with him

[MrOracle]

I agree with Jessica - gym rat people (and there are female gym rats) tend to be difficult to be in a relationship with unless you are also a gym rat - and even then sometimes.

People who spend several hours a day on their bodies, and also work a job, usually find it very difficult to prioritize anyone else.

[Aerissa_Jade]

My personal experience is those type of men are macho assholes, aggressive and violent. That is why it is unattractive, as I hate being with someone who gets in fights a lot and even if he doesn't, he ends up being angry all the time and I can be the target of it.

[KrakenAttackin]

What you describe is not inherently "masculine".

[Weapon77]

Depends on what you mean since there are several ways being ultra masculine can look. Most of them are very attractive to females. But if you are actually asking why so many girls go for pretty boys or effeminate guys, it's largely because hormonal birth control makes women like less masculine guys than they normally would, so they usually avoid the ultra masculine guys or just use them for hookups.

[lightbulb27]

Security. Women have to feel secure... what's the point of being wounded or dead? If the woman can "control" him.. e. g. he loves her, he's all good. If he's out of control male power that can go against her, she will run.

Women are going for emotional connection... e. g. she can control him. It's security... which helps ensure propagation of her genetics. life!

[BlueScorpio]

It's not his masculinity that's probably turning off a lot of women, it's the ultra long beard. Giving him a kiss would be like kissing your carpet lol He just needs to trim it up a bit.

[Guy13]

That pic is not masculine... that's West Virginia Hillbilly. Put that in a fine suit, shoes, belt, and wrist watch THEN you have something to Harley to Momma's Thanksgiving meal with !!!

[Desconhecida]

Not a rule. I think some of them tend to act like caveman but it's all about behaviors, not looks for me.

[JordynJayne]

I think attractiveness when it comes to stereotypes such as “ultra masculine men” is all based off one’s experience. However can you safely say that all super masculine men are unattractive?
I’m friends with a ton of the typical 6’ +, burly, long bearded, hulk looking guys, and most of the time you just have to understand the guy to know if you find him attractive or not. All of them have been big ole’ teddy bears if you ask me!


Now your own personal opinion on physical attractiveness is your own, and you’re fully entitled to that. However I don’t think attractiveness factors have anything to do with someone being good or bad.

[mobiusforniner]

Because being "masculine" doesn't equate to being mature... A lot of so-called "masculine" men are toddlers in adult form, lacking the capacity to forgive and forget, the ability to listen and compromise, and overall are guided by self interest. Which, for many women, isn't attractive.

[Nomina]

Is that guy ultra masculine? I thought it was a gnome come to life!

I'd do away with the beard, but... I like. He's not unattractive, the beard is.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Being bald and tattooed are not a sign of masculinity, they are a sign of bad health. Humans, as well as most other species, are drawn to signs of good health when picking mates.

That and women typically don't want to make out and end up with hair in their mouth.

[hahahmm]

How much time do you spend thinking about the attractiveness of other men? I remember when I was a teenager and some other boys insisted that I was ugly & yet, practically every female I ever met in my life disagreed with them.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Dudes that try to act super masculine or appear as super masculine scream "I'm insecure" which makes them unattractive to some women.

Acting like a normal man is masculine enough.

[bamesjond0069]

But are they though? I'm ultra masculine and get tons of women. Some of my social circle are less masculine men and they are always whining about not getting girls or just girl problems. The only girl problem I have had recently was figuring out which girl to put my dick in first when I had a threesome yesterday. Smh.

[Sevenpointfive]

i'm asking myself what an ultra feminine woman would look like and if i'd be attracted to her. i mean what would that look like?

[Weapon77]

Are you kidding or really not sure? lol

In case you're serious, scientifically, Emily Deschanel's character Jess in New Girl would be considered very feminine. Emmy Rossum, Emma Watson, Jessica Parker Kennedy, Selena Gomez are examples of actual people who look very feminine biologically speaking. Who knows if they behave ultra-feminine or not. Likely not, since most people aren't outliers (as the name suggests lol).

There are scientific specifics, but they're lengthy

[Sevenpointfive]

@Weapon77 in biology there are things as super males. they are xxy, so i'd assume that super feminines exist

[Weapon77]

No, it doesn't mean the women with XXX chromosomes to which you prefer.

You must not know about sexual dimorphism. That is what ultra-feminine or ultra-masculine refers to. Look it up; it's interesting.

[Sevenpointfive]

@Weapon77 yes. but i still don't know any examples of this in humans

[Weapon77]

I gave you multiple examples above. If you're too clueless to figure it out, tough.

[Cedman]

It depends on what you consider masculine. That is a broad term that can cover a wide variety of traits. Some people assume over the top aggression is masculine, others assuse the a ability to negotiate is masculine. Some will say drunkenness is masculine, while especially in the religious, being sober and refusing to drink at all in a sign a self discipline and seen as manly. Masculinity is a broad term that can mean anything depending on who you ask.

[purplepoppy]

That guys just a teddy bear. Probably just wants a beer and a hug.

[LazerBean]

They're not. There might be other aspects of individual masculine men that make them unattractive, but masculinity itself is very attractive on a man.

[MzAsh]

It’s unattractive because it’s obviously fake. It’s a show to look cool or get attention from women. It’s inauthentic and actually makes a man weak.

[MCheetah]

They're typically not. But many women nowadays are gay ("queer/bi"; same thing). Like 33% I've heard.

[Lionman95]

I don´t think a guy´s opinion matters much in this constellation.

[Lionman95]

Unless you´re gay or bi.

[Berethor]

Being ultra masculine has advantages and disadvantages, and many women are queer.

[Borntodie11]

I prefer men with a soft and sensitive side. Feels more well-balanced and safe.

[lucas262]

That's the kind of thing girls will tell you. That guys hear. What exactly does that mean. Surely it dosnt mean a guy who cries at a sunset stuff like that?

[Borntodie11]

@lucas262 It means that she feels she can trust you to take care of her and make her feel safe, appreciated, loved, etc. Crying at the sunset doesn't add or take away from a girl's life. But being sensitive to a girl's feelings does.

[lucas262]

Yes agreed about her feelings but thats called being a good partner

[dustybiker]

There’s only enough room in the relationship for them.