Guys, would you date a single mom?

[Anonymous]

I feel like no one would date me cause I have 2 year old.

[Paul_in_Indy]

Honestly, I usually assume that single moms are exhausted, really need a break, feel unappreciated, and are starved for sex. So, I always thinking dating a single mom is a good idea. Why go out with a girl who is bored of dating and not really interested when I could go out with a girl who REALLY needs to unwind?

I’ll pay for the babysitter. I’ll buy you a superb dinner, take you dancing, and have champaign chilling in a nice hotel room.

[SnowedIn]

Someone will absolutely date you. It will, yes, take time. I, personally, would date a single mom. The child wouldn't be a factor in choosing to date them unless the child was horrendous which would be some looking at. But, no, kids shouldn't be a deciding factor.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[Summeroflove]

As long as she seems like a good upstanding person with morals. It also depends on why she is a single mom.

Did she make bad choices and repent for it and has the same morals as me now? Did she come out or a bad marriage or her husband cheated and divorced? Was she raped?

I would at least date you don’t know who you’re compatible with unless you try. If i knew that she was promiscuous then probably not.

[Avicenna]

I‘ve done it twice. Won’t do it again.

More relevant to you situation, I never would have in my 20s or 30s.

[AviatorTom]

That would be better than dating a married mom. 😏

[MCheetah]

No' I'm not changing anyone's diapers or literally being a cuckold. I'm a teacher, I work with kids all day long. I don't want to go see a girl and deal with her bratty five year old running around and kicking me in the leg, either.

And unless she's a sh*tty mother (which would be a turn off in itself), she's ALWAYS going to expect you to like and get along with her kids. I don't want to deal with any of that crap. Hell, I don't even work with children under eight in my academy, cause that's also essentially just babysitting, as well. I don't want to be anyone's babysitter or cuck-daddy.

Not to mention, you are literally dead-last priority in a single mother's life. Dead last. And I'm not even saying it doesn't make sense. But why invest equal time, energy, and potentially money, into someone when you're getting less investment, value, and worth out of her? It's like paying twice the retail price for a used car.

And sorry (not sorry) if me comparing a single mother to a used car "offends" anyone out there, but it really truly is accurate. Except it's a used car you're paying more for, than the price of a new one. Who needs that?

There's plenty of old men and unwed fathers out there for single mothers to be with. But I'm childless.

[lightbulb27]

no, because I'm married... to single mom w 2 kids.

It's more about whom she is, but as well the overall family situation and whether I can handle that and if it fits into how I see my life.

It is a calling... there's pluses and minuses and have to choose your life. Things going really well right now.. because everyone pulled together... and the woman, my wife, put the emotional effort into forming a unified family experience for the kids, and got them on a good track. You have a big job...

Personnally, I like the idea of helping others including my step kids and watching the real parents deal with them, since I'm not really good at that. That's less stress on me. On down the road, I doubt the kids will care for me as they care for their parents, that's just nature. I can only hope I have some support. If not, it is what it is and I have to appreciate the good times I had. But that be true of my own kids if I had them, I know parents abandoned by their kids.

Lots of single moms find husbands, my relative married mom with 3 kids. Yes, you can find someone.

[JamesDiaz11]

No. Personally, I don't like women with baggage, and this wouldn't make you a good option for me- and I have options.

I fully understand the possibility that my dating adventures may end with me being single in my late 30's, but even if I wasn't able to find a suitable girl in the US, I could always just meet a girl overseas who didn't have baggage (e. g. The Philippines).

[Pyrofox]

I would consider it, HOWEVER it would heavily depend on how well the mother is taking care of the kid and even more so am I not being used to bail out the care for said kid. And don't assume that us dating automatically makes me the step dad either. Just give me a little space to baby step my way in. And no this doesn't mean I'm not gonna like your kid its just like don't overwhelm me. As ultimately I'm gonna be getting to know TWO people if the relationship is gonna work out.

[Owasso]

I have before, yes, and the experiences vary wildly. Generally, whatever her educational and social maturity level was prior to her having a kid will be illuminated after having the kid. So if she was a trailer trash wannabe gangsta hanging around baby daddies in and out of jail prior to her having a kid-you can just go check yourself into the nutshack, then jail NOW. But if she was formally educated and not all about that life beforehand... then the odds for smoother sailing with her are better after having the kid.

[inhua]

the circumstances behind how you became a single mom would dictate that. choices have consequences and bad choices lead to bad consequences thus men analytically see this as more bad consequences lumped onto them.

bad consequences that arise from no choice should be given a second chance but even then there's other factors to consider.

[normalice]

In general it's true guys don't even want the responsibility of raising their own kids, let alone raising someone else's. But as you get older guys will care less about that. In the short term I think people generally limit their dating pool to other single parents.

[Drumlin2001]

A few years ago I started dating a single mum of 3. Wasn't an issue for me, we took things slow (I wasn't going to meet kids till we knew we had something lasting).
Now I have kids kids myself. If I were single I would definitely date a single parent who would understand my priorities and limitations on time

[Spiritofn]

Depends. Honestly I grew up in a house as an only child and once there was a a second I had a biological understanding of how genetics work and how it is harmful on DNA 2 have another child with another person. There actually ended up being conflict in my home cause of it.

So to answer it simply no for me cause of my experience and attitude maybe if we forever lived in separate places I don't know. But I'm also forever in love with a woman already so ya..

[HighValue]

No. But instead of listing reasons why I won't, which wouldn't help you, I suggest you look for single fathers, or men that don't want to have kids of their own. They would be more open to dating someone in a similar situation as they are.

[Pegases]

It's rare to find a single mom that's healed from her past, isn't calloused from life, and is looking for love rather than just support. I think alleviating those concerns with the men you date will help.

[Weapon77]

Only if she had been widowed. But why does that matter? The only time you being a single mom id an issue is when you try to date guys who have no children. You should do well dating single fathers.

[AdithyaR]

Personally i wouldn't because I don't want kids of my own in the first place. I know i wouldn't be a good parent and i have no intention of doing anything about that. So i wouldn't want to introduce kids into my life.

[summiter]

Of course I would as long as I was also single. Don't overthink it... just be a good mom and the right guy will enter your life.

[DryGermanGuy]

It’s another difficulty to overcome, but in general, if the chemistry is right between me and her, why not? I know of a number of patchwork couples.

[Ian69]

Definitely, if the attraction was their and made a bond with the child/children. I wouldn’t hesitate. I’ve nothing against single mums.

[JamesDiaz11]

Yea, but you're also in your 50's...

[WeirdoFriendly]

I'd date a single mom. A child will just get me ready to be a good dad someday. And I don't mind helping out with taking care of a child that's not mine biologically. I've done it before, I'll do it again.

[TroyDT2]

Depends upon the specifics. "Single mom" could be anything from a self-sufficient and faithful widow to a meth addict with multiple children from multiple fathers.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Nope.

I don't want to raise someone else's kids, something I'd more than likely have to do.

[Berethor]

I rather not, even at my age I don't want to date a single mom, too much baggage.

[exitseven]

Years afgo I would ahve said no way. Now i guess I would if the kid was a at least 13 or 14 and did not need constant attention.

[SixFootSexy]

Have fun with, maybe. Have an instant family? No thanks.

[Alexandrubaschet08]

I did and her daughter whas 7.

She didn't want to keep going whit me

[Fireguy17]

you bet, and I have.
I had long-term relationships with 2 single mothers of 3 kids each.

[Paul09]

So then what ended it?

[DavidRaul]

Yes maybe i would if we have a connection and they are the same age as me.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope, I don't want kids, and I don't want my SO to be in contact with any of her exes.

[Hellraiser1984]

I'm fine with it. How about dating a guy who likes anime? I don't watch everyday or even every month.