Guys, would you date a single mom?

Question

I'm 24 and have one kid from a previous relationship that ended badly. I've been trying to date recently and it seems no one is interested. I'm curious to know if it's because they think she'll somehow become their responsibility or am I being judged?

WritingHeart01 · Accepted Answer

Based on your responses saying how your kid wouldn't be their responibility, I have to respectfully disagree. Overtime the person involved will have to be involved with the childs life, as their going to be around a lot and eventually have to support them. Because when they do date you, they are in a relationship with YOU& THEM. your a packaged deal at this point. They'll have to accept you, the chiod, the ex, his family, your family, the kids needs, your needs, his schedule, etc.

Unless your looking for a fling type of relationship or friends with benefits. Are you saying that if you date a guy/girl or get married to someone else, you don't mind them completely ignoring your kid? Wouldn't you want them to love, play and support them out in everyway?

That's a lot of added responsibility for anyone to have to do when dating someone, especially at your age when people are still exploring themselves and finding their way in the world. Most guys would opt for a single girl without kids. Not because anything is wrong with the girl per say, but they aren't ready for the added things to come with having a long relationship with you. Some guys don't even want kids. Not to mention that caring for a kid with you could definitely halt any plans they have or wanted to do. And of course there are some people who view single moms as damaged goods. Not that its true, but some are ignorant that way.

But I'm not trying to discourage you, there are definitely guys who will want a relationship with you and your child. Maybe try looking into relationships with single dad's. As they are experiencing a similar situation as you. But most importantly, you have to think about you kid first. You can't date a guy who won't be prepared to appropriately love both of you. Of course for separate reasons. Don't date a guy who only wants to be with YOU. That could severely hurt your child in the future.

Comawhite666 · Accepted Answer

Could be for the same reason I won't date a single dad, I don't like children and don't ever want them. I know I couldn't handle the ex still being in the picture and i know I would never come 'first' with them and in their life, the child (rightfully so) would always be first.

nightdrot · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. If I were a single guy. (My girlfriend and I have lived together for ten years and have had three children together.)

Of course, I would have to like or care about the woman based on her other characteristics and personality. Motherhood, though, would not be a disqualifier.

In fact, quite the reverse. You have to admire a woman who is doing the hard work of parenting. Who can love a little person and find room in her heart to love you, too.

Maybe it is just because I think my girlfriend is such a wonderful mom - and yet she is my best friend and we love each other deeply. That said, my attitude is that if a guy does not want to date you because you are a mom, he is a guy whom you don't want to be with. He'll be a lot of fun at parties, but he won't be much of a partner in the hard parts of life.

Don't overread your own experience. You are finding it hard to date because - particularly with the advent of social media - people are dating less, and when they date are doing it at ages much older than they used to.

Keep it up, don't lose heart. There is a man out there. No assurances that you will meet him - life is not like that. Definite assurance that you WON'T meet him if you stop trying.

However, this much I can say. There are good and caring guys out there who will love you for you and who will love your child too. It is just hard work to find them. Then again, anything worth having is worth working for.

Logorithim · Answer

Here are the potential problems from my point of view:

1) Does the child's father have the kid at least some of the time so we can go out and for her to be more relaxed
2) Is there financial stability?
3) Is this kid going to get along with my kids when I have them with me?

blackisnotacolour · Answer

Not really. And it's less about the kid than the fact that she's, let's say, 25 and already divorced with a kid. Sure, shit happens, but from a man's perspective, some questions arise:
-didn't she know the guy she was marrying? apart from the extremes, you'd rather not marry somebody who doesn't value marriage and/or would divorce you on a whim; if he assaulted her, then she didn't know him well either, point being that she may not be a smart person, can be manipulated, easily fooled, blinded by feelings, etc.
-on top of that, getting a kid may be a woman's dream, but I've seen few stupid feeling-driven assumptions like "he has some flaws, but after marriage it will get better, and when there will be three of us, we'll become a perfect family", conclusions are a copy-paste from the 1st one, but even worse, because getting a divorce is one thing, but getting a divorce while there's a kid is... hard, not only for adults, but especially for the kid that may face the perspective of being raised by a single parent, so you can add selfishness, stupidity and lack of long-term thinking
-for a man, raising a child that's not his own, is in most cases considered a failure; you may not understand it or agree with it, but it's like that, deal with it
-woman can have trust issues, since one guy screwed her over, next one may have to bear that and hear whining if he meets his female friend, who he knows for half of his life or when he wants to drink beer with colleagues and she suspects that he's cheating on her, etc.
I could sting and point out few more, but from I've already written, you should have a fairly clear view.
I've seen few cases like around me (marriage went south after a year or so) and out of few only one was completely different. It's even funny that when family told women that something's wrong, that the guy isn't *that* guy, her parents signaled that something's not right, every woman went for it, because they either believed that they are marrying the right person or he will change to somebody better or they would rather marry the wrong guy than cancel the wedding, party, etc., because it would mean that they have failed at some point. Instead they fail soon after, blaming the guy only, because admitting that they were blind or stupid or naive it out of the option, but playing the victim is okay.

Yes' the opinion's harsh, but you asked and I replied honestly, no sugarcoaty-politically-correct type of reply, just sincerity.

Schnitzel · Answer

I wouldn't date for a number of reasons, and I'm going to be brutally honest here. I wouldn't date because I am not prepared to pay for another man's kid, I am not prepared to look after a child or have it interrupt our time together which will be limited with work, I don't want to be in a situation where I fall in love and then you get back together with the father for the good of the child, I don't want another man I don't know spending time at my house and I wouldn't want to get to know a man that has been intimate with my partner. I wouldn't want the child growing up not respecting me or having issues because I'm not the real father, I wouldn't be able to be fair if I had a child with you and the other child was giving mine a hard time. The only way I could put these thing aside is if I really loved you and cared for your current child, couldn't have my own children, or got desperate, you would also have to be in a good job/career, exceptionally beautiful, friendly and a perfect match to my personality. Other men won't care but those would be my reasons, plus I'm already married. Bring on the hate 😂

NoFcks2Give · Answer

It depends on the guy, You have to take into account that most men probably haven't looked past the best parts of the relationship with you. Which means most of those men haven't considered a future with you, past casually dating you.

It also depends on what you want and I could be wrong, but if you wanted something casual you would be on Tinder not here.

If you are looking for something serious with someone your age, it's not likely, and 95% of 24-year-old men aren't likely to embrace fatherhood, let alone being a stepfather. What they are looking for, doesn't match your expectation.

An older man (late 20's- early 30's), who is financially stable and settled into his career. If he has kids already, this would be optimal, as he may have already developed certain paternal instincts from his previous relationship. If he doesn't have kids and is looking to start a family. A man in this position may be looking for someone your age who has no children, but ready to settle down, so to speak, but let us say he doesn't mind, you'd still potentially run into two problems. That he wants a child of his own and the fact that you may not want to bear another child.

Your best bet is an older man in his late 30's who has a family from a past relationship. Trust me there are tons of them out there,

pasoccer · Answer

I've dated three people with kids, and married one if them. I like kids and get along with then easily. The one I married had two kids, and we had one together.
Getting in the same page about how to be the "step parent" takes some time, and lots of conversations.
I didn't like my ex's eldest, but treated him fairly and without prejudice. The second one still calls me dad even after two years of divorce, and our four year old has two great parents with different lives.
Sadly, like I've seen other people say; the kid will always be number 1. You can get close, possibly even if you have that good of a relationship. It's something anyone you date will have to deal with.
I'm on fairly good terms with my ex, and my last relationship kept holding it against me that the ex was part of our lives. She's a good mom, and we communicate well for our kid. There's not even a little interest on either side, but my ex couldn't handle it.
The short answer is yes, people date single mothers. It's a bit difficult, and only the right person will stay around. You may even have to sacrifice a good relationship if the kid doesn't like your partner.
Good luck. You'll find a good one.

kbbroiler · Answer

No I wouldn’t. Why? It’s because you would expect me to take care of your kid financially. That is the main reason. Look I’m not trying to be mean but did you know let’s say the biological father isn’t paying support. Okay then say you need government assistance. Now let’s say the biological father is in jail, or he might even be dead because if he were alive he’d be responsible first. Now the guy who you are potentially dating would be named father by default due to the fact he bonded with the child. He would have to pay child support. That’s how it is and this is the law. This is why more and more men are not dating single mothers so yes you are being judged by men. I judge all the time. Now you’d say this is selfish but isn’t it selfish on your behalf expecting a man who is not the father to pay for your kid. This is why we pass on single moms. We don’t want the burden, drama, and most importantly the financial responsibility.

waynej200 · Answer

I have dated a single mom, wouldn't date a married mom haha, but the mom I dated was 9 or 10 years older then me, her kids were 6 and 4. They were great kids what I didn't like is they would call me dad. She didn't like it, and corrected them. Kids make things really hard. Like disciplining them, or having that frisky first part of the relationship is hard. Plus the holidays are hard too. Its case by case. And im sure awful if you have a seprate kid with her. Then you would have a favorite. If I had kids too, itd be a lot better to be honest. I think single moms should look for single dads, to make things easy.

skiron · Answer

I think everybody wants to start clean like getting a new car instead of used car, but that's just first impulse in our psychology. I'm married I have experience with kids and if go through a divorce I would seek into a single mom. A single woman without a life baggage would unlikely to be a good wife to experienced man with bag. I would say forget single guys unless they are 28+ likely 30+
Now the basic factors still matter to any man any age/experience. They must find you attractive visually, fit mentally, and you must be good in sex. But there could be exception. In my case if you would fit visually and mentally, sex wouldn't matter because it already sucks with current partner so badly I don't think I could get worse deal so at least I would improve visual and mental fit ;) good luck you are young, you'll find someone, but watch out, sadly most men will use you for sex only, but if one shall fall in love with you he will accept your past and love your kid like his own.

NiceOrHonest · Answer

Overall i would not mind it.

but lately i would rather not since i took care of my younger brother and sister from diaper change to bringing them to school and nursing them when they ill i learnt kids are tough and i always feel like i am doing something wrong for them even if i have good intentions the moment i have to get angry with them i feel depressed after wards and now with my work being stressfull i jist know i would not be able to deal with kids aswell i think.

Which is my bad thing because a single mom should be able to date aswell and could be a really nice woman/girl.

looneymalooney · Answer

depends though how needy you seem to be in regards to what you want for your child, how preoccupied you seem to be about this mom role.
I have this co-worker that has a child and I wouldn't mind dating her because besides a discreet photo of her child on the desk, she barely talks about it.
To me it shows she can handle it all on herself and she can do other things besides that. It seems she still has some independence and time for me as well and that there are premises for her to try to understand me and my needs in the relationship, instead of expecting me to simply cut my life to mere existence just to please her and her child

Plus amazing eyes and great body equals I would def date.

On the other hand if I only hear about the child most of the time, then I wouldn't bother and rather let her take her of her girl or boy.
If it would be for serious reasons as in marrying,... hmmm... hard to say.

PillowThief · Answer

Honestly? Not really. You're largely right in thinking along the lines of responsibility for your child being extended to your would-be partner. A lot of men aren't all that interested in raisin someone else's child, a lot of childless men aren't interested in having kids in that instance, et etcera. Each guy has his own reason.

Most importantly, it's unlikely you being judged by guys. People have kids all the time, and a lot of them end up splitting on whatever terms. It happens.

You'll find a guy eventually, likely one more mature and well-of than most of us that would turn you down. He might even have kids of his own.

jp612612 · Answer

When I was younger, there was no way. A single mom was never viewed as serious dating material and the child was something I'd simply tolerate so that I could get to the girl. But now that I'm old, the single mom is actually preferred. I actually like kids and often like the kids every bit as much as the girl herself (if not more -- hee hee). I'm 41 now and this change didn't hit me until I turned 35 so while I can't possibly speak for all men out there, I sort of think you might want to lean more towards older, successful guys rather than guys your age if you don't want to get ghosted.

doglover77 · Answer

I'm in the Same boat girl. But I've had several guys interested and did not care one bit that I had a little one. I've ended it with a few guys because I'm not interested in anything serious right now, only with one person. I do have my shit together. I don't qualify for welfare assistance and I don't receive child support. I believe a man wants a girl that has her ducks in a row. I don't know your financial situation but if a man sees that you're dependent on the government then they may feel like you're looking for a handout to take care of another man's baby

jessture · Answer

For me it's three things. One, I never want kids, and I've made a very conscious choice to not procreate. Dating someone with kids would at some point make me a father figure, which I don't want. Second, if I'm in a serious relationship, she's my priority and I expect that in return. Dating someone with kids means I'm always in second place to a kid I never chose to create. I'm not saying she should prioritize me over her kid, but I'm also not putting myself in that situation either. Third, at some point my finances will go toward that kid if things get serious.

Andre__ · Answer

You will find few men interested in taking on the responsibility of someone else's child. And if they do you most likely don't want that guy. If you only want a date you must be clear on what you want. I made the conscious decision not to have children and found I skip any profile that mentioned a kid with some exceptions (to my surprise) I am seeing more and more profiles mentioning co-parenting. Meaning you are separated but taking equal parts in raising the child. So no bad breakups. In the long run though I'd end up as friends but not in a relationship with a woman who has a (dependant) child. Where I live you automatically become responsible (so financially) for the child when you commit to the relationship. Meaning moving in, getting married etc. I have no intention of doing that and neither will many of not any other guy. So be very clear in your communication what you expect on a date and after.

dizmuhjam · Answer

No, its not that you're judged. Usually...

I think -as sad as it is, its kinda understandable- that a lot of guys want to start a fresh family and be the father of all the children you two have. If there is the child of someone else, a lot of guys see this child as a memento that his wife had a story before him. A story that went so far, that she even already married and decided to get a child with that man and that you are simply a continuation of her story and not her whole story. This is hard to swallow for some guys.

weaponsdude · Answer

Being part of a relationship where you have baby daddy drama isn't the ideal situation for anybody. I get it, the father should be in his child's life, but when your guys bullshit becomes my bullshit, something will give. It's not about being a strong man and staying the course. It's about me not going to jail or prison because of your situation. You would have to be something very special for me to put up with that bs again. I wonder what percentage of taken women still give the cookie to their baby daddies? Care to take a guess? "Oh, honey your just being silly. I wouldn't ever cheat on you". Guys, did you know that a lot of women don't consider it cheating if it's with their baby daddy? My point is the kid is not the problem.

MLGbreezy · Answer

Me personally I would not at my age I wouldn't even consider it till I was at least around 28-30 maybe cause around that time I hope to have a stable job.28 and under I don't feel that I would be ready and able to help support a family and If I'm gonna be with a female with a child I wanna be able to help support her and the child. But at the age of around 25 just getting out of college And probably not having an immediate good source of income There is no way I could support myself her and a child. I'd never consider even at thirty while at that time I'd be ready and willing to have a child If I can't support one then I'm not gonna do that. It's not the female or the child but me wanting to be able to give them the best and help the most I possibiley can. hope this helped and good luck on finding a good guy to be with that will support you and your child 🙂

AANikko · Answer

I've dated a single mother and she was older than you.

Here's the thing, whatever baggage she had I took it on with her. From her kid, to her annoying baby daddy, to her past and present problems. I told her that from the get go, I understood what I was getting into and I'd carry along her baggage.

It is a lot and not for everyone. Really depends on the person and how you two feel towards one another, this kind of situation might take a while for them to get accustomed to if they really want you.

RationalMale · Answer

No, sorry.  1. At this point in my life I don't want kids. I for sure 100% don't want another man's kids or any responsibility for them.  2. My sister was a wild child who became a single mom. I wouldn't want to try to deal with that. Stressed out, drama, etc. 3. Most single moms, unsurprisingly, put their children as number 1 in their lives. I don't plan on starting a relationship with 2# as the most important I will ever be.  4. If I start a relationship with a woman, I don't want a 24/7 past reminder of her past lovers and bad choices.  5. There have literally never been this many child free women in the USA in recorded American history. So why not date a child free woman.

AynonOMouse · Answer

You would have better luck if you look for another single parent that is in the same situation.
Most single guys that want to find someone for long term and create a family together don't want someone that already has kids by someone else.
The one exception I can think of is in a situation where the father had died and that was the reason why she is single.
For a LTR, the kid would very much be a part of the new guy's life and he would have to deal with all that comes with it, including all the drama and problems too. Plus either the single mother would frequently be around her ex, which could lead to problems in her current relationship, or if she isn't, then she may be the type to think the father has no rights to his own kid. Either way it seems bad and like a situation most guys would want to avoid altogether.

Kkaos · Answer

Not at all and I guarantee half the guys saying they would are probably desperate virgins who would do anything to get laid. Most men that would legitimately be OK with that are probably older and probably fathers themselves, not some 15 year old on a random website who claims he's mature enough.

retro_fiyahhh · Answer

I have found it difficult as a single male to line up schedules with babysitters, etc.. single men are ready to go out with you as soon as they start talking to you, so you need to take advantage of your open opportunities and take some risks. Women are often bad at giving guys opportunities, subconsciously wanting them to "work" for you. This is a bad tactic. You need to make yourself way more available than a single parent because single men still want freedom as they didn't make the choice of having a kid.

Jealdo · Answer

Yes I would date a single mother there's nothing wrong with dating someone who has a kid but if you do Day song with a kid they come along with the person it is a package deal you cannot accept the woman and not the kid a lot of people these days I'm not looking for someone with a kid two or few who do not mind it like me if I was to become single again and I meant a woman who had a kid I would be perfectly fine with it I do not let that be a deciding factor and what I'm looking for what I look for in a woman is what kind of person is she and she is a mother if she's a good mother or not

Anonymous · Answer

I think it is a mixture of both. It sounds harsh but my honest view of the situation would be to think that it wasn't well thought through (assuming that the father is no longer in the equation) and I would feel like you would be prone to making big decisions without much rational thought put to it. I would also feel like at some point in the relationship I would feel like you expect me to raise the child as if she were my own, which I would look to avoid that being the case as I wouldn't know how I would feel so would avoid it altogether to save a future uncomfortable situation. It's a bit immature but it is my current outlook and potentially other guys in my age bracket. I would advise to not look for love though because it will most likely find you when you least expect. Sorry if my opinion hurt your feelings or anything else negative.

Miristheiss · Answer

Nope.

I would if I were a single dad. Since I'm not I don't want someone who already has a child with another man and her heart will always be focused on him. I want my own kids with my own wife and no one else's.

Like I said, if life events work out to where I'm older with kids from a previous marriage and I'm in the dating pool again I'd be open to a woman like that then, but now at this stage in my life.

Mustangboss429 · Answer

Personally, I would not. For me, It's an attachment thing. I feel that when a Man and a Women create life together, there will be and forever be a bond between those 2 individuals. So what i'm getting at, is that your bond has already been set in stone forever and enternity with that First Guy. I beleive in a "Heaven", so when you die you will be reconnected with your First Man. Again, this is just how I personally feel about the who thing. That's why I would only date Women who have never had children.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , kids are awesome you just got to put it out there that you are a package deal , don't hide it , the only thing you shouldn't do is bring your date around your child until you feel he is the one , you don't want to mess with your kids head because kids get attached quickly a lot of times , but yes date and lay it on the table that you have a child , it will save you time so you can ween out the bad ones

Anonymous · Answer

It's hard as a guy -- because many women's sexual strategy is to get pregnant by an alpha male (for good genes) and then find a beta male (for resources) to help her raise that child. So if a single mom approaches a guy, the guy thinks "is she actually into me, or is she just trying to use me for my resources in order to raise some other dude's child?"

KeyrunB · Answer

I think people want to live a little when they're younger, and a kid does add responsibility. I've seen people not want to feel responsible for things that aren't their problem. Honestly though, it depends on the happiness of the person I'm dating. If they're struggling and clearly aren't in the headspace to date, then it does complicate things. If they have it all figured out, then yeah, I'd date them.

jakeforfun · Answer

Sorry for your situation. It could be tough "finding someone". I don't think that most guys would see it as a responsibility or judgement thing. Instead, I think guys are leery because they're young, don't want to be in a "family" relationship at the moment (especially if it's not their kid), versus hookup sex, etc., and judging you has no bearing. Guys shy away from single moms, UNLESS the mom is "looking to hookup", with nsa.

NorCal_stud · Answer

I used to have 0 issues dating single moms, as I love kids. These days I don't, because I'm a sensitive guy, and when it doesn't work out I only get my heart broken twice, losing 2 people I loved. (or more) So that's why I no longer date single moms. Also, I'd like to have kids of my own, and the chances of someone already with kids wanting more tends to go down. That's my perspective.

Marinepilot · Answer

I wouldn't date a single mother. Most guys won't for a variety of reasons.
Not the least of which is never being # 1. Also dealing with the ex. And frankly most of us want our first child to be her first child. We view single mothers as damaged and used. I know this is harsh, but you opened that door.

PhillipDead · Answer

I wouldn't date a single mom bexause i would eventually be expected to help out or even love a kids that isn't mine. While its possible, its a lot of responsibility to take on when i could just find a girl that doesn't have a kid. Its not a judgement on your character, but if you get into a serious relationship with a single mom, you will eventually be expected to take partial responsibility for the kid.

Chaoseverywhere · Answer

hi but if the guy doesn't ask/or seems to dislike it when you bring out your kid. He probably has an issue with it even though in the beginning he might say he don't care. But after experiencing then we'll truly see if he cares or not (he might never dated a single mother before so don't take his answer seriously)

Rjking22 · Answer

Well it is a package deal its just more difficult and i think what a lot of guys think it not you or the child theyre worried about its what kind of bs is there gonna be with the father. Personally not an issue if your the one your the one. But try to think of it this way if theyre gonna write you off for having a kid theyre not worth your time if they can't handle the thought of it best to know upfront then to be let down later.

godofsuburbia · Answer

I think it is because they don’t want that responsibility, after all they are starting a relationship with you not with your kid. That and because having a kid means the options of going out on dates and stuff are way more reduced so they just think “oh well it’s not gonna work”

aaroncardenali · Answer

Most guys are looking for an honest and vigin girl. Sometimes, most guys can have different values, but marriage material guys are more interested in their girls, and babies are made from love and respect and a desire to make a family.

You are somewhere in between. There are some guys that can find a great girl with a kid that has learned from her mistakes.

When you find such a guy, latch on and do not let him go.

AmtgardJean · Answer

I have before. And if I was single I would again. No matter what you may want to think the child and mother are (and should be) a package deal. Some guys just do not want to get involved with a child. They are not ready for it or dont feel comfortable adding another human being into the equation. There are guys out there who are fine with it and some turn out to be amazing fathers to children who are not theirs.

Surely · Answer

Been there done that. What makes things difficult is a mother finding quality time to be with someone until the child is introduced or accepted by the boyfriend. I have been with women that I couldn't stand the kids and also with one that I fell in love with the 3 yo child and the mother dumped me. (Rebound relationship) Don't miss the mother , but have missed the child everyday for years.

diablito752 · Answer

It's not really about you it's more about their values. I wouldn't mind such a scenario but deoending on the guy, it's possible it messes with their head, reminds them constantly that they werent there first. I would think there's a chance a guy who has already had a kid will be more understanding.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Yeah, usually men don't want to inherit another man's child and deal with that responsibility. Usually unless they know it ahead of time have time and are willing to bare that responsibility. Usually, a woman doesn't tell a man about there child until the 3 or 4th meeting (per some of my friends) and so if they do that and the attachement is there it's bad... But there are a few men that are willing to do that... Just don't lose hope.

JacoH · Answer

I would. I think it depends on the type of guys you're dating. A guy that's ready to settle down moght be okay with you having a kid. But the guys around your age are mostly not ready to settle down and build a family

10dsw · Answer

A lot of guys here are saying "yes I totally would!".

You're getting a half-truth. The fact of the matter is that most guys wouldn't date a single mom. A lot of guys don't want to have to compete with the kid for their gf's attention.

chameleon3081 · Answer

Most guys I know would date a single mother, they just don't want to be made the father figure straight away. That can develop over time as the relationship builds.

I do also know many guys go on dating sites to get laid. A sad truth. It is possible the guys you are dating are just looking for sex? Having a kid means you won't have as much sex as a woman without a child (you have responsibilities).

mrirkre4y4u · Answer

Maybe some of each but I think it's just they don't want the hassle staying in dealing with babysitters and ex's and bratty kids not that yours is but that's a fear because they can't discipline the kid it's not their place to
So it's really very complicated. I wish you all the great things parent good brings a good man will find you.

Outlawed68 · Answer

You’ll find the right guy! My wife had a son from a previous relationship. I have 2 I get on the weekends. Some guys look for that motherly type, of course she was doing it on her own and living on her own. Busting her butt to make a good life for him. So that was also attractive to me. Doesn’t hurt that she’s completely gorgeous too though haha.

Sharky92 · Answer

To me.. I would date a single mom.. even if she have kids..
And yes some guys won't date you because you have a kid... but that means that they are irresponsible and can't handle responsibility...
But a lot of guys think its okay amd actually good

MrPassos · Answer

I wouldn't have a problem with that as long as the child is small like 3 year old max older kids is harder to deal with and explain to them the situation smaller ones will grow along side with me with time I would even consider the child my own depending on the relationship between me and the child's mum

mikesummer · Answer

My personal opinion is that no I wouldn't I don't want to start a relationship with someone who has a kid if the kid liked me and you and I didn't work out then I'd hate for the kid liked me feel bad about it. I want the best for the both of the mother and child.

Jamesthemistokleous · Answer

It all depends on the guy there's not many guys or women for that matter that will willingly take up the responsibility of caring for another persons child which if the relationship is going to be long-term they will end up shouldering some of the responsibility.
Many people will happily date a single parent, its kinda easier if the person you're dating happens to have children also..

madgoat · Answer

You're carrying a lot of baggage compared to all the single girls your age.  24 year old males probably just want to have fun. You may have more luck with older men.

ShadowSec · Answer

First off you have a child. I'm not telling you how to raise your child or what to do. But most guys will want you for sex and will completely disown that child. Basically fuck and go. Add my Snapchat Jacoblulz I'll help you.

sunshine31 · Answer

Im a single mum and I've never had a problem.

The people you have met just probably haven't been up for it, which is ok. It just means they are not right for you.

That is why its important not to introduce your child straight away.
There are plenty of men out there, from young men to older that wouldn't see a child as an issue.

Caaarl · Answer

Eventually the partner will have to become the kids step parent. It's too much baggage to get in a serious relationship with someone who has a child that's not even yours when you're young.

El_Desmadre92 · Answer

You should keep dating I'm a single father 25 my baby mama is 24 and we were young and dumb it ended badly 4 us too but we grew up and became close again now she's pregnant again with another mans baby and she is no longer with him but 4 some wired reason I still have so much love for her and her unborn child. What I'm mean by all this is if he's a real man and loves you he will love your child as they are a part of you. If u looking 4 a real 1 p. m. me 😘😘😘

tookind69 · Answer

It's more of you are going to put your child before consistently no matter what. That removes your attention from him and makes him feel that he is not good for you. More so if it's incredibly consistent. Men don't want to be consistently ignored.

ShaunHall · Answer

Ok in my opinion, I am not old enough, if I was a bit older like 24 it would not be a problem for me. You just need to find the right guy. Which is kind of hard because some guys don’t like single moms but if I was older and I dated a single mom it would be fine with me at least I get to give the child and the mom an awesome life

Eridan · Answer

Certainly not. I'm not willing to become either a father or a caregiver for someone else's child. Maybe I'll see it differently at some point in the future, but at this point in my life, I wouldn't even consider getting involved with a single mother.

FinalVow · Answer

sure if you are a good person when you want to meet up lol. kidding. In all seriousness yes I would date a single mom I love kids and as long as the mom is a good person it doesn't matter to me.

Guys, would you date a single mom?

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