Guys, would you date a single mom? (Page 2)

Question

I'm 24 and have one kid from a previous relationship that ended badly. I've been trying to date recently and it seems no one is interested. I'm curious to know if it's because they think she'll somehow become their responsibility or am I being judged?

emsdan · Answer

I would date a single mom.
Honestly, I think some guys don't want to date single moms because they will feel it's their responsibility to help with the kid as well.
But in the end, there is always going to be that one person who wouldn't mind it. Good luck

logibear · Answer

Personally I would try and date you to see if you and I were compatible first. Knowing you have a child would in all honestly give me more to think about in terms of a relationship. But that wouldn't hurt my opinion of you as a person or if I would want to jump into a relationship with you.

Nomadic1973 · Answer

Try dating an older guy that has kids already.
I'd date a single mom because I find that if a woman has had a bad relationship they would cherish a decent man coming into their lives and respect him more.

lagendofdoom · Answer

Its a difficult situation...
the majority of younger people in the ages 20-30 won't want to deal with kids especially if the kid isn't their own. However there is always an exception and there are people who won't mind the kids as long as they have a pleasant relationship. Personally I won't want to get in a relationship with someone who already has a child simply because it will be too hard/difficult to deal with.

mr_ask · Answer

Look no one have any right to judge you in any parameters so you can just chill about that stuf i am i bit younger to your age but stull i would love to be in touch or in a relationship with a girl like you who knows her responsibilities have a graat day god bless you 😉

jata1234 · Answer

I would have no issues dating someone with a child from a previous relationship, but I also want children of my own so that probably colored my lens a little bit differently than other guys my age.

theharlequin · Answer

Personally, I would not. I know a lot of single moms, and they're some of the strongest people I know. But at least at this point in my life, they're not what I'm looking for.

themarkthatsdead · Answer

Unless she was a widow or the father was abusive or a criminal, it's a hard no. Otherwise, maybe but since her child will always come first it's still effectively a no.

TRexxx · Answer

Probably both, I would but I'm part of the 1%, lol. I would think that someone that wouldn't give someone a chance that has kids is not the kind of dude you would want to be with.

scuff1986 · Answer

See I don't see anything wrong with dating a single mom but I guess that's just me. People will judge others anyway regardless. Keep trying you'll find someone

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

I'm divorced and a full-time single parent. So I would definitely be interested in a woman that's a fellow single parent. However I also work full time and don't have a lot of free time, so I'm sure there'd be a lot of time juggling...

skyhand · Answer

It's because they will have to take on that responsibility and they don't necessarily have that kinda flow in their pocket. Although your doing it yourself it scares them... don't worry there will be someone who doesn't mind... like me haha

lordDitler · Answer

As a guy, I would say it's a bit too much for me at first, but here's the thing, if I were to really have feelings for her find her interesting, I wouldn't mind her having a child. just be patient and wait for the right guy.

scruby · Answer

It'd gonna be harsh, at this age guys wanna travel do stuff and enjoy life they ain't ready for this kind of commitment, look at the older ages becouse thoose who will agree in the ages 20-30 are probably fucked up

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know if you separate the kid from our relationship I think it could work but obviously if you told me you had a kid I'll instantly start thinking is she looking for me to be the dad? The best way to do it I think is only say You have a kid on the date not when messaging online (like tinder) but specify that you wanna separate the 2.

WhoDatGuy · Answer

Single mums are no fun. They can't go out much or stay out. Dint have much money and the kids is always there

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends on the status of the boyfriend/husband. But as a factor it is always nice to start a family fresh. But it is not a deal breaker

ero-sennin · Answer

Yes I would. Really just because I think kids are amazing, so if I'm attracted to the mom, the kid would definitely not be a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Do u really think people will give their own opinions here? Most people don’t want to look like an asshole so they say that they will. In reality they will probably not.

Venician · Answer

Yes... in case I am older than you but i Younger... Past life doesn't mean anything to me because the past is just a lesson which we had to remember for our whole life we don't have to judge somone's character with her/his past...

Chuckle · Answer

I probably would not. I have dated a girl with two kids, though, and it didn't go well because we were on different pages.

Danny-K · Answer

No, nowadays 24 is way too young to have a kid and the responsibilities. There so much more to do in live at this age

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Nope, I wouldn't. Not my responsibility. No offense.

curiousscorpio89 · Answer

I absolutely would. But I'm on the brink of being a single dad with 50-50 custody. I'm 28 years old. So I'll be in the same boat you are.

shephardjhon · Answer

I suggest finding a single dad or someone who takes care of their brother/sisters' kids or maybe a teacher or someone with experience with kids from family or job.

badsal · Answer

I have dated single mothers... That is completely Ok with me... It is a matter of understanding each other how they can share their lives. Dont worry.. you will find a nice guy to date

Anonymous · Answer

I've been there and done that dating a single mum. My exGFs exhusband caused a lot of trouble which in the end put strain on our relationship and things didn't work out. Not too mention her child was an absolute terror!

Naruto_Uzumaki · Answer

It's not easy taking care of a child that's why most guys stay away from single moms

Synttacks · Answer

I wouldn't date you but at this point in my life I don't want my own kids let alone someone else's. This may change later.

sammy1537 · Answer

Young men are afraid of responsibility. Older men a less so. Try for a man in his mid to late 30's.

Anonymous · Answer

I am 23 years old I don't care if you are a mother and I like kids, what I want is true love and serious relationship ! I hope we can talk and get know each other, please send me an Email here

o_lh94@yahoo. com

( O from Orange not 0 zero)

I am not saying lets be in relationship I am asking you to give each other a chance

Leo3572 · Answer

No. I'm only 19 years old and I'm not ready for a child. Not even if it's "just" the child of my girlfriend. That's a deal breaker.

YHL6965 · Answer

Meh, I don't want to raise the product of others' lack of responsibility.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

I'd think about it, certainly. Maybe just a few dates of me & her, just to get to know each other and the introduce the kid if things get serious. Simples...

vald9inches · Answer

i would date a single mom. if men are turned away it's because of the responsibility and or they don't want to share their mate with the children or deal with that drama.

superking75 · Answer

Personally. More than likely not, and that's not a personal thing. I just don't want kids at all.

JPimpin · Answer

As a single dad I would love to date a single mother! We would have so much in common

Zenurus · Answer

I have.  Yea some guys are afraid of kids, but that's a good thing. Removes the ones that ain't worth your time.

winterfox10 · Answer

Being a single mother would not deter me at all. Just make sure to let me know that you are a single mom upfront.

The_DK_Viking · Answer

At this point probably not tbh. A lot of priorities change once you have a kid and I'm not sure I'm quite ready for that. But then again if we really click who knows, it's not like I hate kids...

markony · Answer

This show the importance of prohibiting sex before marriage

Nik1hil · Answer

As long as you are in shape and have time for relationship, men out there will date you..

bendavies1999 · Answer

In my opinion I would not care if the woman I am dating has a kid because there situation would not influence my judgement of them asking as you Keep smiling and Keep strong you'll find someone out there for you

aditya2284 · Answer

Don't worry you will find some decent guy.. don't hurry up while choosing like you did earlier

AqibFarid · Answer

If i have feeling for her <3 Believe me i'll be willing to take responsibility of her parents along with her children.

Mikester100 · Answer

Dating a single mom is like continuing someone else’s campaign.. its just a turn off knowing its not your kids and you wanted some

Guanfei · Answer

Maybe. Depends on how the kid (s) and me get along. No matter how much you love the mom, if that doesn't go well with the kid, it's over.

Paulsuit · Answer

I guess guys your age is not looking for a girl with kids. I think look for someone in the 30-35 range. You will be very happy with the result

kinggoku · Answer

Yes There is no issue to date single mom. She will be the loyal one as she has been gone through such phase.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I'd really rather not. Nothing against the single moms, I'm just not ready for that kind of responsibility with kids.

kurdice7 · Answer

Personally, having a child or children doesn't affect wrather I would date someone or not. I love kids so I'm perfectly ok with it.

Christianlukey · Answer

Definitely just don't be those lazy moms I've been with cause I feel like I should do something about the kids behavior but can't cause I'm just a boy friend hahs

jabe36 · Answer

All about the connection. If a guy really likes you it shouldn't matter of you have a kid.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure why not dating her will let me know how she is and what a beautiful nature she have and also I will know about her past cause I don't like to judge without knowing anything about the person

hansukota · Answer

I would. but would want at least 1 hour a week for ourselves

icanthinkofauser · Answer

I respect single parents, but I'm not ready to be a co parent yet.

worldscolide · Answer

No, never, especially no, if the mother is alienating the father in any way

front2back · Answer

At my age (22 tomorrow)? No, I have enough to juggle already.

erica14 · Answer

Someone will date u. my mom 27 and she recently started datting m

itsme123456789 · Answer

It depends on the guy, but personally I would have no issues with it :)

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