Why does dating seem so complicated in real life after high school or college ( if you attended college)?

[Paulalove98]

[WindAtMyBack]

After you are out of school and college, you will never be around that many people again. You will be around even less people in your age group. Plus, depending on the type of work you do, your work place may be made up of people who are mostly one sex.

To meet people and arrange dates becomes significantly harder after college. It's not really more complicated, it's just that you have a lot less opportunities. There aren't hundreds of potential partners right in your face like there is in school and college.

After college, there are lots of places to meet people, but you need to put in more effort. I spent a lot of years working in both construction and engineering. Both fields are almost entirely men. If I wanted to meet women, I had to go out of my way to do it. I didn't meet ANY women naturally in my typical day.

[DenizLikesTennis]

Hello dear,

I can feel your pain. It isn't easy for us either. We undergo the same phase. I can't find a woman that I feel emotionally and spiritually connected to either.

It is because the pool of candidate shrinks as we get older, thus meet fewer people.

Therefore you might consider meeting your partner online.. otherwise through mutual friends.

Never give your hopes up😊 you will make it one day

[mandyfire98]

I know from my experience in college a lot of "dating" is very superficial. Most of college to be honest was clubs and bars and house parties. It was beer pong and sex. Most of these relationships were shallow and college is mainly hookup culture. It was a bunch of stressed out young people who would let loose on the weekends with personal freedom that they have never had before.

After college the relationships are a bit more serious in my opinion. Now it's not all fun and games, we are in the "real world" now. Everything is more serious. You now have a career and not some part time throw away college job. The same can be viewed as far as relationships.

[Decoded93]

Lol your experience sounds really fun

[bubblegunnn]

Cuz they are adults with value, unlike teenager who still want to play around

[OlderAndWiser]

What is complicated about dating after college?

[ZXCwWRQWz]

This. Loads of wisdom here. Life isn't so complicated as you see it now. It's way simple. I hope I did okay.

[HighValue]

In high school or college you meet lots of different people and if they either like or dislike you, it doesn't really affect important parts of your life. After college you meet far less people on average and if you get involved with someone at work it can affect your employment and your future employment opportunities.

[NathanDavis]

I thought it was easier... lol

but I don't date much either, so I don't really have a broad reference

[that1guy19]

Because it became a statistic. People always have options and try to rack up as many points as they can so they can say they've done things

[exitseven]

You will never have a better opportunity to date than when you are in school. It gets hard for everyone and the older you get the harder it gets.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Nah but there is the maturity issue tho. Most young people aren’t mentally fit for relationships

[Noahzaid]

Because dating in that age gap starts to be more materialistic and your importance in society.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I don't know but I’m in college rn and the dating scene is still pretty shitty just as it was in college in my opinion

[Anonymous]

No one is in a setting like school or college afterwards except at job with lots of people but it’s not a good idea to date people at work

[Anonymous]

But it is not complicated at all.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Then give her suggestions

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Embrace single as long as you can

[Debbie14217]

its what you make ut out to be...

[BLP11520]

Dating was never easy, still is not.