How do introverts find the one for them?

[KrayZJ]

Not 100% sure I'm a introvert but life wise I am, I've been single for a while now and have pretty much tried all possible options I know... well except asking on G@G.

[quaranta]

They surely find someone. Half of my exes were introverts, my current partner is an introvert too. I'm more of an extrovert and not fond of introversion itself but it usually comes with good qualities that come with it such as very good introspection (that means good communication skills during conflicts), empathy, usually a stronger artistic sense, culture and intelligence too over subtle aspects of the things. Not saying it's always like that but I expect these qualities more in an introvert than in an extrovert.
As an introvert, most likely you won't go approaching girls on the beach or in clubs, but that's definitely not the only channel to find a woman. Rather, if you are an introvert, you might want a woman who could understand you better and a bit intellectual, who would not be anyway found in those places to flirt with random guys, probably.
The lack of success with women is for sure not caused by introversion, but by something else you aren't identifying. It must to be something in what you communicate of yourself when you talk with them, something indirect of your personality or of your intentions, or of the role you are putting yourself into.
Rather than apps you could search a girl by compatibility and not by the looks, so a girl who shares a similar interest or mindset as yours. Going to courses of things you are interested into, events, online communities, for sure the women there have something compatible with you already. Are they single? Are they looking for someone? Not granted, but talking with them should sound easier because it doesn't start on dating terms (and you shouldn't put it like that or you would sound desperate).
I started dating this guy in a context of mutual interests, after talking in friendship terms for some months.

[BlueScorpio]

As a introvert I wonder that myself, I've only been in two relationships my entire life.

[KrayZJ]

Most would say that's a rookie number, me... that's saying you're lucky. 15+ and still getting hurt by the ones promoting onlyfans on Snapchat

[nolabels]

I'm a once extremely introverted, extremely shy person who deliberately remolded myself into being a not shy ambivert.

It took much practice to be able to say that I've succeeded in doing so to a great extent.

After fumbling terribly many times when important opportunities were on the line, I realized that continually making efforts to practice being more outgoing when there was little or nothing to be lost would take the pressure off of myself.

It worked for me.

I'm no longer shy and although I still tend towards introversion, I'm able to flip an internal switch and become more extroverted when I find it to be to my liking.

Good luck to you.

[art84]

I knew someone from my church who never talked to anyone and he was an old man (50's or 60's). It wasn't until he was older that he broke out of his comfort zone. I myself an a introvert but do talk more when around my nephew and his friends as before I would be afraid that say anything for fear of speaking. It's gotten easier though of you threw me with family members I would just say hello as I get socially awkward around huge groups. I done things like going to Six Flags Fiesta Texas with my brother where before I wouldn't even sports games and movies. It's just putting yourself out there and not being afraid of people.

[RealMarek]

Traditional online dating worked for me. I read up on how to make a high quality profile, put thought into what I wrote for it, and then tried to match with those women who I thought were both attractive and a good match for me. I would lead with a message that showed I read their profile. In the case of a mutual match, I would only message back and forth a few times before asking for a casual coffee or lunch date.

[LazerBean]

Like anyone else. Introversion and social inadequacy are not the same thing and are not interchangeable words.

[KrayZJ]

I guess I should've been asking about the latter then, but now I know the difference.

[Looksnicholas]

I'm guessing introverts just eventually happen across other introverts, maybe that's all dating apps, I dunno :P

[altaboy]

If I knew the answer to that, my life would have been very different. Of course, I am still undecided whether I actually want someone around or not.

[KrayZJ]

I mean I'm in no position to opinionate but it never hurts for companionship. Having the morale support and a helping hand through rough times does wonders.

[es20490446e]

The only effective way I know of is by going to places of interest, and just normally talk with people.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

want to know that too, been single since birth

[Twalli]

Try to join a social group. That's how I met my girlfriend.

[dustybiker]

Communication. Lots of it.

[KrayZJ]

Kinda hard to get into public when you're comfortable at home, then again social media these days is no man's land

[dustybiker]

I mean more when you find someone. Be transparent. Don’t leave anything up to guessing on their part. People tend to assume the worst as defense, especially in a new relationship. If you are happy, say so, etc. Specifics help too ie what makes you happy. Try to purposely be extrovert when it comes to sharing those things.

[KrayZJ]

In that sense I'm pretty much extrovert until I get hurt, then I usually close up tighter than a clogged carburetor... note the bike engine reference

[dustybiker]

😁 Have to break that “cycle”. It's not fair to new people to be held in the same light as a past relationship. Hard to do sometimes.

[KrayZJ]

That's true, it's just... trying to find someone. Dodging flak guns at this point but 95% of the ones who text me are promoting their onlyfans or anything site of the such. Honestly I had 3 try it on me yesterday alone

[dustybiker]

They smell money.

[KrayZJ]

Like blood and sharks. Funny part is, money isn't in my five card hand

[Anonymous]

Life is not made for introverts.

[KrayZJ]

Sad but true, ngl you made me hesitate to give a reply

[Subarugirl]

Like anyone else.

[RangerBlue22]

Male introverts face a different set of challenges most women will never comprehend.

A female introvert can have her own difficulties. But just as long she is at least semi attractive she will be approached by men and won’t have trouble getting dates.

[Subarugirl]

@RangerBlue22 I mean it’s actually very easy to comprehend

[RangerBlue22]

No it isn’t. Especially for you when it comes to this one.

I do not expect you ever to admit it but in general women do and always have had an advantage in the early stages of dating. If they’re at least naturally semi attractive, keep themselves in shape and dress well men will always approach them sooner or later. It might not be exact man they want but still they have options.

That’s not how it works for most men. Men are still expected to approach women in modern society. If you don’t believe me then why do you see all these women on GAG complaining about not being approached? They still expect it.

Personally I am an introvert but I got over my fear of approaching women a very long time ago. I might take my time more than other guys (try to find out if she’s available or is giving me “signals”) but I will approach. I figure I miss every shot I don’t take.

But for young introverted men this harder. They are paranoid of how women will react. Besides the typical rude rejection there are some lingering after affects of your beloved #metoo movement to thank when it comes to making these guys paranoid.

[Subarugirl]

@RangerBlue22 Actually I makes perfect sense to me and isn't at all difficult to understand.

[RangerBlue22]

Alright. But it seems whenever there is a societal dynamic that favors women and is difficult for men you usually conveniently go with “oh its hard for everybody” and avoiding acknowledge that men are at a disadvantage.

Admitting women have unchecked privileges is not going to take away from other equal rights arguments you have. That doesn’t automatically make you MGTOW or something.

[Subarugirl]

@RangerBlue22 Well you are more than welcome to believe that but there are millions of rape, sexual abuse, trafficking victims that would probably disagree with you.
Yes, men experience different issues than women, we can all agree on that. Men and women experience different disadvantages. In this situation the disadvantage for some men is not being able to attract a romantic partner, for women it's about trying to avoid being raped and killed by a man.

[Anonymous]

They typically don't.

[Jmmmfi4]

In my case I haven't & don't expect to