Extrovert dating an extreme Introvert. Can this work?

[Anonymous]

I love to go hiking, go outside, go to thrift stores, rock shops, music stores, grab errands, get coffee. My boyfriend likes to only stay inside & be on the computer. I always go off & do things alone, & he always asks about my day & how it was, but he never wants to come with. Are we doomed?

i’ve probably asked 5 or 6 times now if he wants to come out on the weekend boating or camping or such, just us, & he always wants to be at home on computer instead doing his own thing. I’ve been very lonely lately & I think it’s wearing on me.

The most we do is eat dinner together like once a week, & he thinks that’s enough.

I really do love him & im constantly getting him gifts from my trips or supporting him, but I think for him hanging 2/3 times a week at his house is enough. (While he’s on computer). What do I do?

We’ve only just recently started watching Netflix together instead of being on computer so I still feel odd.

Also, he's pretty low on affection but claims to be 100% content. I feel like im too much? How can I fix this?

[Louis-1]

ok first off, he loves you, he is happy with the relationship, i recognize a bit of my past self in him, even a bit of my current self, some people have trouble showing strong emotion, does not mean they don't feel it, they just have trouble expressing it

however how do you feel, would you be happier with an outgoing extroverted guy that goes to parties,
an introverted guy wil for instance be unlikely to cheat on you with anyone but the extroverted guy wil probably be more fun for you

ofcourse an introvert might be more fun to relax with at the end of the day,

basically, how do you feel because he probably loves you to high heaven

[Asker]

Thank you!! I really can’t tell that he loves me. He never goes out of his way for me & barely asks to see me. If we are at an event together, he will ignore me till the end of it.

I know that he says he loves me like you said, & is introvert, but I honestly can’t tell. He also never gives compliments or wants to spend real quality time, but he’ll listen if I bring up a complaint. Thanks for this!!

[Louis-1]

again though, you don't need to stay with someone if you feel like he is not working out, personally I do find that you can't stay in your comfort zone all the time and have a relationship,

maybe insist he tag along sometimes, say it wil make you happy.

[Zab5992]

Its not doomed, you need to have a heart to heart n make him realize you want him there with you sometimes n he needs to get over it if he really into you.. Gaming is his own thing but it's highly addictive n time consuming. Sit down together n try to plan stuff. should alternate in y'all likes. Try gaming with him aswell show interest.. he could have SAD so dont come to aggressive/demanding. If he not willing to change stuff even a little bit then he not to worry bout you cause you'll want to do stuff your partner like to do if you truly love em n make them happy

[Asker]

Thank u!!!

[EmmaMary]

Very sadly you need to start facing the facts and truth that this "relationship" was doomed from the beginning... It's time for you to seriously reconsider your position, before you waste too much time chasing something that will never be... Sorry.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[jshm2]

Well... seems like it's a one way relationship. You've got pretty terrible taste in men and went for the "opposites attract" malarkey, and it hasn't worked out for you.

Not saying you go for a park ranger or gang member next time. But what you have there is a damaged child you're going to have to nurse into a man - not an adult.

If you can make the commitment to him, you can probably turn him into a decent husband.

[horatiohornblower]

Yea, he's not putting in the effort. I'm a big introvert. Even though I'll be reluctant. If the girl wants to do something. I'll go do it. With exception of something I'm totally opposed to. But compromises have to be made both ways.

[mark000h]

It won't work. He's putting no effort in and you'll become more lonely, eventually finding someone else. Best to realize that now before it actually happens.

[Stan_Control_]

I think you're doomed once he says he doesn't want to get out of his comfort zone for your happiness.

[Stan_Control_]

I get being introverted. But for trying new things, it's no excuse.

[Asker]

Thank u!!!

[Miristheiss]

You two do not sound compatible. It is fine to like someone or love them... that doesn't mean you are a compatible long term match.

[EnglishEuropean]

You're not going to change him. If you're not happy with the relationship now it's unlikely to improve. I'm not going to ask what you see in the guy since it's none of my business, I'll just assume he has a huge penis.

[Anonymous]

Extroverts and introverts can work together but he needs to go out more and you need to stay in more. This much difference is too much for it to work out long term.

[PeterSmith1983]

If he is okay with you party Hardy while he is home alone , why not

[exitseven]

I think that you are not compatible.