How can you make an Introvert-Extrovert relationship work?

[Elena_Stewart]

Would it bother you if you were full of feelings and expressed them to your partner or s/o all the time and he or she did not do so in return because of their introverted personality?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

It works out very well between my wife (introvert) and me (extrovert). Actually it doesn't seem to make any difference in most cases.

The one thing is that we have to negotiate a bit on how long we stay out. When I'm at a party with friends, I want to stay as long as possible. My wife loves to socialize as well but she gets a bit tired after a couple of hours.

Her way of recharging her batteries is to drink wine in the bathtub reading a book. Mine is to party! Yet we compromise in this respect. If I want to stay 4 hours at a party and she's tired after 2, we settle on 3, for example.

That said, she's very open with her thoughts and feelings despite being an introvert. She's also not the slightest bit shy. I never had any difficulty communicating with her; actually she's one of the easiest people I've ever found to talk to (one of the top qualities that drew me to her in the first place).

[Tharithi]

Easy to talk to in sense? U guys sound cute. How do u both look

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Tharithi I think something that really helped is that we were both friends for almost a year before we started dating. We had a tendency to blow off our friends since we liked talking to each other so much, like we'd have a friend's home party but end up spending the whole time on the balcony of our friend's house talking to each other instead of joining in the rest of the party.

With women I dated before, I didn't know them nearly as well before I started dating them so I didn't get used to sharing everything with them as I did with my wife.

As for how we look, I'm generally very camera shy and try to keep a low profile on here. But I have a nice photo from a friends' reunion party a few years back together with my wife. I'm the one labeled idiot and my wife is the one in the bunny ears next to me. I hope you don't mind me covering our eyes just for some degree of anonymity but maybe you can get some impression of our character from it.

[Tharithi]

I meant how tall are u? Are u both physically compatible

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Tharithi Oh, I see! I'm only 173cm (around 5'7-5'8) while my wife is 164cm (between 5'4 and 5'5). I'm not very tall by Western standards but we're both from Japan where people are quite short on average.

Age-wise my wife is only a few months younger than me. That's always been my dating pattern; I tended to be most attracted to women my age or just slightly younger. I find them easiest to talk to being relatively around the same age with the same life experience.

[LiamJHayden]

I have dated introverts and while crowds energize me, those tend to drain the introverts I have dated. So we would balance it. Crowds in small doses, and I do not get offended when she wanders off to a quieter area to recuperate. And she would not get offended when I would chat up lots of people.

If done properly it can work out slendidly.

[AmyHew1tt]

Introverted doesn't mean unavailable. I'm extremely introverted but I love when the people I care about open up to me about how they feel. We can also be very extroverted in our homes, or comfort spaces, or close friends and family.

I'd like to have an extroverted partner. Or better yet, someone in between the two, so they can enjoy quite low time too. I like having someone guide me out of my shell sometimes and push me (within reason) out of my comfort zone.

[AmyHew1tt]

* You define introverts and extroverts more about the way they charge up. Extroverts get their batteries filled by being around people. Introverts charge by peaceful time alone.

[IslaTheWitch]

With a lot of respect, acceptance for differences, time for both partners, and open communication.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I consider myself an ambivert and my only relationship was also with an ambivert, so we matched.

[imtiaz45]

Building a successful Introvert-Extrovert relationship involves understanding and respecting each other's needs. Communication is key; introverts may need quiet time to recharge, while extroverts thrive on social interaction. Find a balance that allows both partners to feel fulfilled. Create a supportive environment where both can express themselves without judgment. Plan activities that cater to both preferences, alternating between quiet nights in and social outings. Recognize the value of individual strengths, appreciating the introvert's reflective nature and the extrovert's sociability. Foster empathy and compromise, acknowledging that differences can enrich the relationship. Ultimately, embracing each other's unique qualities forms the foundation for a harmonious partnership.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/TbeX17STel4

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't relate to the introvert/extrovert thing, whether I socialize or not has to do with subject matter and relatability, introvert/extrovert mentality doesn't exist in my brain.

As far as the specific topic goes, either you love the person or don't, and your own libido would force you to be affectionate and show that. When talking its mostly going to be about shared interests/hobbies, not uneeded reassurance, one would have to be very boring to have time to talk about that so often.

Also if she's touching my privates, hugging me, or kissing me, its assumed she loves me, if not she's a shitty person.

[Drew-1990]

I'm introverted but I would probably share my feelings with my partner. It would probably be good for me to date an extrovert honestly she probably break me out of my shell which would be good for me.

[RebelinSteel]

I have had a couple of relationships like that, it’s not a huge problem unless you let it become one. I tend to be more open than my partners and I don’t mind if they are reserved.

[sheikalana]

Be mindful of each other's personalities. Do not force your partner to act a certain way and do not force them into doing things they're comfortable with.

[slatyb]

That's not introversion. That's an unhealthy fear of expressing feelings and it's ruinous to a relationship.

[Massageman]

It's happening at my house. Well, maybe she just talks a lot more, since we are both rather introspective.

[Claire2002]

In my view that's easy. All the combinations work except for intravert-intravert.

[Anonymous]

Introverts don't go out. It would be boring to date one.