Would it be less hurtful if they cheat with the same gender?

[Anonymous]

Infidelity hurts badly but would it feel less of a betrayal, less hurtful if they cheat with the same gender. This means they were always bisexual. For some reason lesbian action isn't treated harshly as when it's between two men. Several men don't even consider a woman having intimacy with another woman as cheating.

For you, would that be less hurtful? You woman cheating with another woman... your man cheating with another guy.

[Berethor]

Girl on girls there is no penetration, it not real sex, clearly much less bad than with other man.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Girl-On-Girl_Is_Hot

[avery58]

Does that mean that lesbians never really have sex or lose their virginity?

[Berethor]

Yea gold star lesbian is technical virgin, also there is chance for FFM threesome. :)

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gold_star_(LGBT_slang)

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Technical_Virgin

[ArrowheadSW]

Funny that a friend of mine and I were just discussing this the other day. Someone who we know in common, was married and he found out that his wife was having an affair with another woman. My friend was joking that it isn't as much of a personal hit if the spouse is cheating with the same gender because she just swings that way and it isn't necessarily because he wasn't keeping her sexually fulfilled.

[DrPepper12]

The math maths!!

[avery58]

Maybe it would be even worse, for me.

I prefer my partner not to cheat, period.

[Berethor]

It because for woman if a man is not straight then she feel like he not real man.

[AI Opinion]

Treading into the spicy territory of love and desire, infidelity, regardless of the gender involved, can sting like a slap to the emotions. It's not the gender of the person your partner chooses to engage with that diminishes the hurt but rather the breach of trust and the act of stepping outside the agreed-upon boundaries of your relationship. Whether it's a man or a woman, it boils down to the same heartbreak hotel visit—feeling betrayed, disregarded, and undervalued. Every individual and relationship views the dynamics of cheating differently, and for some, the gender might play a role in how they perceive the betrayal. However, the essence of infidelity remains intact; it’s not about who it's with but the act itself that brings on the avalanche of heartache. Always keep the lines of communication open in your relationship to navigate through such choppy waters with as much understanding and grace as can be mustered. 😏💔

[Kaneki05]

I'm one of those who don't count it as cheating. If she's bi and wants to sleep with a woman that's don't bother me as I am not jealous towards that.

Though I am sure people who do see it no differently.

[DrPepper12]

This is the most surprising thing I found out about MYSELF that's still kind of "do I really believe that"? Yes, I would accept a bi curiosity easier than hetero cheating

[Curiousmike11]

cheating is wrong of course but as a man I wouldn’t be betrayed if my girlfriend cheated with a woman. But on the other hand if I fulfilled my own desires I’m sure she would feel betrayed and maybe more so then if it was with a girl

[Anonymous]

It's just as hurtful in my opinion. My ex cheated with another girl and her excuse was it wasn't real cheating because it wasn't with a man. I won't date another bisexual woman for that reason.

[RedInnocent69]

For me, sure. She wouldn’t need to hide it or sneak around. I wouldn’t say that about another guy though.

[jahaims]

Nah, cheating is cheating