When a girl cheats, we hear guys recount everything dollar her spent on her, from buying her a wedding ring, to taking her on vacations, to money spent on the kids.
When a guy cheats, we don't hear the same thing from girls, that she cooked for him, irreversibly changed her body to carry, birth, and feed his children, etc. While money can be earned again, the sacrifices a woman made cannot be restored.
given how the western gynocentric society likes to portray men as toxic, rude, selfish, manipulative oppressors and portray women as the sweet, innocent, caring, empathetic, loyal unicorns
when both men and women cheat, it's obvious that when women cheat, it's far worse than when a man cheats simply based on the societal portrayals of each gender
it's almost expected for dudes to cheat on their spouses and he's automatically a greedy scumbag when he does even though it's not really a surprise to anyone that he cheated
for women who cheat, it becomes a complete shocker like a gunshot to the chest, the spouse is blindsided and there's always an excuse for why she cheated e. g. "oh he was abusive, oh he didn't pay he enough attention, oh I was drunk, oh the other dude was so hot and raped me" etc.
people also like to "claim" that men cheat more than women quantitatively which would further solidate that it's worse when a woman cheats due to how rare it is
Actually women do go on about how they cooked for him, gave him plenty of sex/sucked his dick like he asked, etc. and how he still cheated.
I personally think women cheating is worse because they are usually the ones who proclaim themselves as more loyal, faithful, etc. and that men cheat more, but then women completely blow all that out of the water by doing the same thing. Even worse, so many women have been the mistresses in relationships with a cheating man, and they had no issue with that. A lot of women have also been cheated on and the guy discarded her, yet she still goes running back. So I definitely say women.
In my experience it’s usually the guy pushing for a committed or exclusive relationship, and it’s usually the guy trying to make rules and being possessive. So if he’s the one cheating, it’s worse. Also, most of the women I know are still in love with the guy they cheated on. Most men I know could give a shit about the women they’ve cheated on. Also most of the women I know who have cheated would be understanding if their partner cheated. Most of the men who cheat would still expect fidelity out of their partner which is wrong. Either way, most men and women who cheat don’t have much respect for their partner or themself. It’s horrible no matter what but I think it’s barely worse if a guy does it
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u What value is there in comparing your misery to the misery of others. Just suppose that you could determine a valid answer for this question and the is that it's worse for guys. Does that mean it's not so bad for guys to cheat on girls?
Are you joking? Women gripe about "giving the best years of [their] life" to men when they're mildly annoyed with them; cheating would probably make their heads explode.
I would also strongly suggest you look into the workplace injury rates in your country, compare them to the rates of serious childbirth complications, and then take a look at the gender disparity in those jobs with the highest injury rates.
Do you think that firefighters brain-damaged from lack of oxygen or burned so horribly that children scream at the sight of them, or lumberjacks who've lost limbs to woodcutting accidents can simply regenerate by magic, or that being left a vegetable when a factory explosion drives a metal rod through your brain isn't as bad as getting fat or developing stretch marks?
Cheating is cheating; despicable regardless of gender. Your appalling sexism doesn't change that.
Men.
Girls are often much more emotionally attached in relationships. I've been cheated by several girls because I'm attracting women with ultra huge libido. When my teen love cheated, it hurt me a month or two, but as she came back to to cheat on her current boyfriend, I realized it wasn't my fault. Later I didn't really care, just went away. Cheaters gonna cheat.
Girls especially if they aren't sl*ts and want relationships with deep intimacy, feel often very insecure after being cheated and suffer a lot because their imagination saw in their relationship more than there really was.
It's worse for either gender.. cheating hurts no matter if its a guy or a girl. That is why people need better communication. If you aren't happy tell them or leave. Don't try to build something before you leave or just being greedy with options its just cruel to the other person.
Suggesting that one is worse than the other implies there are "degrees" of betrayal.
There aren't. Anyone who cheats is a scum sucking piece of human garbage that deserves nothing but misery, contempt, and pain for the rest of their wretched, pathetic life.
When a guy cheats does he get away with saying “oh you weren’t there for me” or “she made me feel special” or some other gaslighting bs?
The guy is usually either 1) unapologetic sociopathic scumbag 2) guilt stricken and extremely remorseful.
However guys don’t get to use the “oh I was upset with you” bs as an excuse.
@wanderinglovewizard this reminds me of the question where you opinioned "This sums up the whole site." However Giuliani reminded me that the big ball sublimation program is exposed.
"... we hear guys recount everything dollar her spent on her, from buying her a wedding ring, to taking her on vacations, to money spent on the kids"
Really? I have literally never heard a guy talk about those things when his woman cheated, but whatever.
It is not better or worse for one gender or the other. Stop trying so hard to be a "victim".
Depends who loves who. The person who cheat doesn't love their partner or at least no constantly but partner who has been cheated on can't be in love with the cheater and I think it hurts no matter if the person is a girl or a boy.
Both is equally bad. People get hurt either way. You’re still backstabbing someone and you have no integrity whether you’re a man or a woman.
Didn't vote because you've only posted to have your agenda supported. The emotional damage is worse for the man when that cheating woman keeps his baby, and the house AND diminishes his future chances by claiming as much of him AND his cash as she possibly can whilst wearing her victims crown to get every drop of sympathy whilst vilifying him to normalise any of her own terrible behavior.
So while I don’t believe in general either is worse I said men because not only are they more likely to cheat in my opinion their reasons are usually worse.
Neither and people need to grow the fuck up. Cheating fucks both sexes heads up for their future partners. It not worse for one or the other, its bad all around for both sexes.
It's worse when a guy cheats on a girl. A gut will just cheat back and feel fine, unless he's one of those, "wait 'til marriage" Christians. But a girl will get messed up emotionally, unless she's one of those, "I'll fuck anything with a dick" people
It’s both bad. It’s a case by case thing. But I can’t help but think it can be more painful when the women cheats.
Cheating is just as bad no matter who does it and who the victim is
A man can love his woman and still cheat on her; a woman who cheats on her man has lost all respect for him.
I am a female and I can honestly say. Cheating is terrible on both accords. However, women tend to do it for the heart. They feel underappreciated, unloved, unwanted... men do it for sex. Attention.
what kind of an idiot would think its worse for one gender to cheat but not the other?
I think it's bad on both ends. Cheating is the worst violation of trust no matter who it's on.
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