Who has a worse reaction to cheating - men or women?

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I think men have a worse reaction to finding out their partner cheated than women do.   Women can easily find another man and often do. Men cannot do that very easily at all.

SarahS98 · Accepted Answer

A man would have a worse reaction because unless he had a paternity test, there is a chance he can be raising someone else's child. In addition, men are stronger, have more testosterone and can get more violent. Meanwhile we will always conceive our child and what mainly hurts us more is him actually loving another woman and leaving us and our children for her; that means our resource is gone and from a biological evolution that would've meant the woman is left to die with the children in the further past.

Though there are women that can get just as a violent too when finding out they've been cheated on. Personally if I got cheated (doesn't matter if it's an affair or a ONS), I would leave and file for divorce right there. Besides abuse, cheating is my complete deal-breaker.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

For sure men. Just watch this video like I've never heard a woman freak out like that over cheating 😂

razelove · Accepted Answer

Well, women don't have to worry about if the kid is theirs. It's also more rare for a woman to wipe out the family. I think I'd just abandon everything and go to another country if I got cheated on now. Going any other route would hurt me, or the people I love too much.

That would probably be the main reason cheating hits guys more, especially if there is a family involved. Is it your family? How long has it been going on, and how often are you making out with the leftovers of someone else's cock in your wife's mouth.

I got cheated on in my first marriage, and that is not an experience I would like to have again.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Men generally love deeper than women and when a female cheats it causes him severe emotional trauma.
A female will simply go out and find new cock and get over her hurt by filling her mind, time, and orifices with someone new.

Summeroflove · Answer

I think it’s about the same. But it depends on the individual

Adaeva · Answer

When men cheat, they are only having fun similar to playing a video game. When women cheat, they are choosing the best available genes for their eggs, and thereby denying her husband to right to have children, and forcing him to pay $250,000 to raise another man's child. And, even if he discovers her cheating and get a divorce, he still must pay.

As @SarahS98 explained, prior to modern times, if the woman cheated, the man didn't have to pay because he could abandon the cheating wife and her children and let them die. Therefore, women had to pay the ultimate price for cheating. In modern times women are rewarded for cheating.

Therefore, in modern society, that means the top 10 to 20% of men get to sire the children and lower 80% to 90% of men must pay to support the children. With species such as horses and elephants where females can support themselves and their children the top10% of males sire all the babies. Since human females require the support of men, I don't know whether or not that is best in evolutionary terms.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

I'd argue that for men, infidelity is far more devastating for them than it is for women. Men have a lot more to lose in situations of infidelity, and it definitely cuts deeper into men than it does to women.

Men are also far more likely to forgive when they've been betrayed by a person who was supposed to love them and be by their side. We do not forget transgressions like that.

TheThingALing · Answer

Oh definitely men for good reason too. But consider this, he really only has a list of preferences that contains at the very most 10 things but probably closer to half that for most guys. Fidelity is on that list.

The girls list is never ending. If you ever hear a girl answer what she looks for in a man, she'll list off 15 things before she even took the next breathe. Fidelity is also on her list.

For sake of point, let's just say each requirement from guy and girl is of equal weight for all their others.

Then guy cares 20% in this area

If. girl had list of 20, then she cares 5%.

This should give you a basic idea of the significance of this trait in a woman.

Please don't reply that you put the same significance in this one trait because I could list of 10 traits that would disqualify him from even getting to mutter a word to you in the first place

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I voted same reaction, but I do recognize the circumstances are a bit different.

For instance, a man and a woman enter a committed relationship at 20... she's obviously going to be able to find someone new much easier than him. But what about when they're 40? She has hit the wall (which is undefeated) and her options have shriveled up as compared to his... so I would assume she's going to take it a lot harder if it hits her out of nowhere at that age.

Who has a worse reaction to cheating - men or women?

In short, I think men will freak out more at a younger age, and then it's the women at an older age.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Once my wife passed on, it hurt pretty bad, I knew dating would be difficult at my age and I was liable to be exposed to some women that could cheat. I knew I would never do that, so anyone I dated was safe that way.

If I found out whomever I was with cheated on me, then I vowed I would not react horribly to it, because it's not the end of the world. it just meant we weren't compatible and it was time to move on... no hard feelings. Obviously, I would prefer she be respectful and end things before she starts cheating, but, I learnt you can't be in control of other people and things that happen in your life, so why let it get the best of you. Sure I was sad they cheated, but it was more so from the perspective they should have had the guts to do it the right way. Which is something they have to work on in life, not me.

EricSummer · Answer

Men react worse. We are biologically wired like that. With a cheating woman you could end up raising another man's child which is very bad in evolutionary terms.

A woman will always only have her own children, and the fact that the guy spreads his wikd oats elsewhere does not really cause her much damage, by comparison.

By the "hot son" effect it could be good thing for her. If he can easily get women her son may, too.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Depends on the person. I'd move on. Four billion women out there, I'm not losing it over one. Some guys go crazy. Some women also go crazy:

Guanfei · Answer

Women. Because they immediately try to make themselves the victims and blame it on men, while trying to take everything away from them.

They're also very supported by other women even tho they're totally at fault.

When a man cheat, everyone considers him as a piece of shit, period.

exitseven · Answer

I think it depends on the person. I used to have the attitude that if you cheat it's one and done but now that I am older maybe there could be circumstances that led to cheating or that maybe if you have a lot invested in a relationship it might be possible to work through it. I voted that guys takeit worse.

David_Kek · Answer

I know i saw at least one video on reddit of CCTV footage showing a woman shooting her guy in the back right after he leaves her for another woman, so i'm not quite sure about that. Don't know what the answer is, but i don't think it's as cut and dry as you think it is

On_cloud_wine · Answer

It’s not something I’m used to because I don’t like getting into relationships in the first place so I think I would have a very bad reaction

Quigly · Answer

I'm going to say the woman. Most guys, by the time the cheating happens, are just done with all the drama and all the lies. He is somewhat grateful to walk away from the fraudulent whore and have his freedom back.

Anonymous · Answer

Men shut down completely when betrayed like that, less likely to forgive. Men cheat when sex is available, women cheat when they are planning to move on.

DermalPunch · Answer

Men by far have worse reaction, forgive far less and are more likely to be violent.

slatyb · Answer

Men are a lot more likely to kill their partner.

Nelaary · Answer

I think man cheating is more sexaual then emotional he can still love her but cheat on her but women in the other hand are more emotional we are emotional creatures so for me that's the different

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Agreed. Many women are willing to share an Alpha as opposed to having a beta simp all to themselves.

mommymommymommy · Answer

Women. I've seen some women do some pretty nasty things to cheaters

Anonymous · Answer

How do you define worse though? More loud/ dramatic?

Anonymous · Answer

I dont know about who has the worse reaction, but in my opinion women are judged way more if they cheat, by both other women and men. Men kinda get a “free pass”.

shades777 · Answer

depends on how deep the betrayal is, time invested, money invested, perception

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Neither handle it very well...

Anonymous · Answer

I think that lesbian couple react to cheating the most. They get jealous a lot more than any straight couple I see.

Molly1997 · Answer

Agreed

Anonymous · Answer

I say women have the worst reaction.

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