What do I do? all my life I never had any guy attention no guys had crushes on me or even liked me I feel like everyone around me has but not me?

[laurlaur101]

I apologize for always bringing things like this up but I just want to relate to as many people as I can I don't know if I can relate to anyone I feel behind everyone else, I feel abandoned all my life guys simply do not like me so I chose to stop talking to people I can’t do this anymore I so I’ve been distant with a lot of people honestly. Guys are always inconsistent with me anyways actions don’t show I just can’t keep going back n forth with people like that I don’t even have any feelings for anyone I know for a fact they have none for me when will I find someone I just worry what if I don’t maybe I’m meant to be alone who knows but I’ll have to accept it

[Anonymous]

* warning I promise that this actually pertains to your question*

Growing up I was a very sheltered, homeschooled homebody whose mother always pushed the agenda on me that I was gay because I never had a boyfriend from lack of socialization and communication skills. Now being gay isn’t a bad thing by any means but your mother pegging you for a lesbian while being a young girl whose confidence at the time relied solely on the opinion of the male gender WAS a bad thing. From that moment on I basically shifted my entire life where the main focus was how to get a guys attention. I literally lost out on so many opportunities including going to college because I was so consumed with the idea of having a boyfriend. Fast forward 5 years and I’m 21 with a 28 year old ex boyfriend who literally has already moved on and I was left with severe trust issues. The problem is truly not you dude, it’s the fact that everyone around you is so ready to gain romantic experiences that they are failing to get to know themselves first. Now there is nothing wrong with finding someone at a young age and it being *true love* , but that sadly is just not the case for most people. Coming from someone who literally never thought they would get their first kiss before they were 30 you WILL find someone who literally cannot be without you ( in a healthy way of course)

[bowenw]

You are young and the guys your age are not always looking for anything serious. When you least expect it someone will come along.

[laurlaur101]

Yeah I know but no one comes along

[bowenw]

I was exactly the same as you but eventually people come along.

[TonyMetal___86]

All your life and you're only 20 🤣🤣
Don't rush things laur kaur

[laurlaur101]

Meant in school years high school and beyond that

[TonyMetal___86]

Better be with someone good instead of getting heartbroken!
It's not about how much crushes you had or how many guys fell for you, it's about the quality!

[laurlaur101]

Yeah that’s true but I feel like I can’t meet any good quality ones

[Billlewis]

I just started following you, and I'd like to invite you to follow or message me, as well. I'd be glad to discuss this with you.

[jahaims]

You are plenty attractive. It's probably a personality thing

[laurlaur101]

I have no idea honesty, but what could be wrong with it because I’m not sure

[jahaims]

I obviously don't know you as a person, so I wouldn't know.

[eagle1951]

how do you no, that some guy doesn't have a crush on you

[laurlaur101]

They don’t make it known give out hints or even voice it and their actions don’t show anything so I don't know

[Adogdog]

I have the same problem!

[jjj101010]

Abbé they did and didn’t tell u