What do I do when no one ever likes me back?

[Anonymous]

I have thought about this for quite some time. For a bit of backstory, I have had crushes throughout my whole life. I crush on people VERY easily, and all kinds of people. I am not picky when it comes to looks. I have liked blonde, bye eyed men, brown eyed, black and brown haired men, ginger men, tall men, men with the same height as me, men shorter than me, men the same age as me, men younger than me, men older than me, fat men, skinny men, fit men, average men, etc. You get the point, I do not have a physical type. What makes me like someone is different each time, I can find anyone attractive if I like their character.

Now what I have noticed is that no one has EVER liked me back, in fact no one has ever even had a crush on me, even if it was someone I did not like in that way. No one has ever had romantic feelings for me. I have not even been catcalled. I have never been asked out, been complimented by a man (unless it was a family member, but I have never been complimented on my physical appearance by a man, family or not)

I do not understand why no one has ever liked me back or not even had a crush on me. I mean, I would not say I am that horrible of a person to like. I am quite giving, I am talkative, I do not only talk about myself, I want to be a housewife and have many kids, I am traditional, I am religious, I dress modestly (I am not muslim), I am pretty funny (or well I think so at least), I am a v1rg1n saving for marriage, I am young, I have never been in a relationship, I have never had my first k1ss, I do not have high standards for looks or salary, but still no one likes me.

I am quite ugly physically, or average, depending on who you ask. It is my face who is ugly. It is not deformed, but it is unpleasant. I am not fat. I have long hair. My only problem is pretty much my face.

But are guys that shallow that they cannot like me because of my face, when I have so many other good qualities? What should I do? I always end up rejected or ignored.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't think your appearance is the problem and I don't think you are the problem, you sound like a highly respectable younglin, you have top tier qualities and you value yourself, it will attract a guy, trust me, I think maybe right now you are in the moment where teenagers don't care about anything but looks now and look for what physically looks best and don't even have an idea on what love is, you still have your adulthood to look forward to and I can assure you that's when men will stop noticing these top qualities of yours, be patient, don't overthink, there's still time.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Will start noticing*

[Asker]

Thank you, I appreciate it. I am 16, and I have noticed that guys my age are just h0rny bastards for the most part, who do not value qualities like the ones I have. They are quite shallow and do not think of the future or marriage, and they obviously do not like me because I am ugly.

Therefore I have started to take interest in older guys instead, in hope of them actually valuing and appreciating my good qualities and actually like me, but not even the older guys like me.
I have a sister who is 1 year younger than me, and she has all the qualities I have + more. She is intelligent, creative, talented, all the qualities I mentioned I had, and she has something I lack a lot which is a beautiful face. Not to mention she has a perfect facial structure, small nose, big lips, high cheekbones, round forehead and big blue eyes, straight long brown hair, I have an overbite, long face, small tired brown eyes, I look older than my age, I have black curly frizzy hair, small lips, BIG NOSE, I look middle eastern and she looks scandinavian. She also has a nicer body than mine. My body is average, she is fit, has a big butt and nice breasts, nice waist, etc. (naturally)

Guys have always liked her, and a lot of those guys were the ones I liked.

On the street guys turn their heads when they see her. They raise their eyebrows and their eyes widens, their mouths drop. A lot stare at her, makes lots of eye contact, some even approach her.
Countless of men has had a huge crush on her, I can almost name every single one.

Men do not notice me at all. They do not even look at me.

The only time I interact with men is if I approach them, and they are never interested in me. They are always interested in my sister though.

Are men really that shallow? WHat do I do?

[ChicoFromThe305]

No just the men you are around seem to be shallow, you are 16, it's possible you you still haven't had your glow up, don't focus so much about your sisters life, I'm sure there's improvements you can do to your appearance to make you feel more confident about yourself, you still have growing to do so don't feel so sure this is how it will always be, look the more society makes the wrong turns the more valuable you become as a woman, a virgin waiting for marriage, religious, funny, fun etc. There's actually a lot of attractive middle eastern women, if you look middle eastern then it might benefit you, to add more confidence Id say focus on yourself a bit and make some changes that will help grow your confidence, there's certain exercises for the glutes and thighs and you can work on giving yourself a better body, as you grow I'm sure will help, you are a lovable person, trust me, it's just our society makes good quality harder to see, look at it this way, all you need is one man that will see it, that's highly possible, good thing you don't need a million right? 😆

[Ironic_Method]

If you're in shape, then you definitely have people who would date you since you're a woman. Without actually witnessing what is going on, it's hard to see the reasoning behind it all. Maybe it's the way you act, maybe it's a rbf, maybe it's being too shy, maybe too confident. Could be a thousand reasons or just one, but there isn't enough info here to discern.

But again, unlikely it's your looks.

[alexiah]

Focus on yourself instead of guys. Love comes when it's ready. You're great, and if someone doesn't see that, it's their loss.

[war_daddy]

yes bad face kills it

[Asker]

Really? Why? Are men really that shallow?

[war_daddy]

yes.