Recently, I had a hard time realizing that I'm not my boyfriends ideal physical partner. He says he thinks I'm beautiful even though I'm not his ideal and I fulfill him in a lot of other ways. He says we have compatibility in all the ways that matter. I still feel unattractive and apathetic about it. Why be in a relationship if your partner doesn't see you as the most attractive person?
Again, where are you finding these colossal shitheads? I would NEVER say something like that to my SO. If I did actually feel that way I wouldn't be with her.
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Yes that’s normal to feel sad. I feel like most people want to be desirable. You may now worry that he’s lying when he compliments you
This is why I cannot be with a guy that has a type
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Ah, the classic dilemma of not fitting into the picture-perfect frame of your partner's "ideal" - let's unpack that! First off, it’s super common to feel a twinge (or a truckload) of insecurity if you think you're not ticking all the boxes in your partner’s eyes. But here’s the twist - those ideal types are often just that, ideals. They're like those shiny toys we thought we needed as kids until we found something much better – real connection and compatibility.
Your beau is singing ballads about how you fulfill him in ways far beyond the physical. That's like hitting the jackpot in the relationship world! Compatibility, shared laughter, emotional connection - that's the stuff of legends. It’s essential, though, to address your feelings of feeling unattractive or apathetic directly. These feelings are valid and worth exploring, perhaps through open communication with your partner and some self-love exercises. Remember, attractiveness blooms in the environment of appreciation and love—both for yourself and from your partner. Keep the conversation going, lovebomb each other with kindness, and who knows? You might see that this situation is more about expanding notions of attraction than fitting into a predetermined mold. Stay fabulous, and let the love grow!
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Personally... he is an idiot for saying that!
People (women and men alike) make thoughtless and rude comments that they should keep their mouth shut about... Kick him to the curbe.
How did u find this out. R u guessing or did he tell u
Weird thing to dwell on
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