Girls, how would you respond to a guy simply saying:Hey you. I find you hot. Want to go out with me? is it too direct? Too cocky? Something else?

[ObadiahTheFirst]

Furthermore, This scenario would play out in a bar, a party, a park. In other words, not while being in a state of rushing or anxiety.

[SueShe]

That is an instant red flag and a cause for me to worry about my safety.

A total stranger that approaches an unknown girl just to tell her how is is led by his testosterone and lets his genitals do the talking is not someone I would feel comfortable to be with.

I am very well aware what this sentence does mean and what the ultimate goal of that person is. It is simply to get into your pants and to drop you like a hot potato once he got what he wanted. Sorry but that kind of person is not the one I would be willing to start a conversation with in the first place.

It is definitely a person I would avoid at all costs in the future while at the same time, be very cautious of and never to turn my back on him.

[ObadiahTheFirst]

Oh my. Doesn't come off as desired at all. And even leads to false impressions, as I do not hold hookup culture in high regard at all and never enjoyed one night stands and the like. What about the modified version?

[SueShe]

The conflicting word in this scenario is the word "hot". To me, that indicates that the person is seen more as a prey than a human being because of it all boils down to wanting to fornicate more than anything else.

Sorry but the approach is wrong in my eyes mainly to a person that is not interested in dating. This person that approaches the potential victim is up to no good in my eyes.

[ObadiahTheFirst]

I posted the modified version as a comment to one of the answers to the question. I want your feedback on that one.

[SueShe]

The problem with total strangers approaching girls in general remains the same. They are just listening to their testosterone. You and I know what the ultimate goal, the final aim of such approaches are, right?

[ObadiahTheFirst]

Not quite. Yes, there are a lot whose goal is to simply enjoy their carnality. However others just want to test their luck, and see if they can find a compatible mate through random chance alone. As I said, the hookup culture is something that the weak do. I have no interest in it.

[Anonymous]

I would find it too cocky. With how direct he is, he doesn’t even make small talk first like “hi how are you, my name is ___, what’s yours? It’s nice to meet you”, and him only wanting to go on a date with me based on me being “hot” (which comes across as shallow). It would make me think he’s full of himself and thinks he’s gods gift.

[ObadiahTheFirst]

I see. Okay, we go back in time. And he asks this instead:
"Hey you, i find you hot. However, appearance deceives often and first impressions are illusions. Thus, I want to see if we can go beyond appearance and like each other for who we are. So I suggest a date and see if we are compatible. What say you?"

[Opinion Owner]

I would agree to a date if he asked me out like that.

[ObadiahTheFirst]

Very well.

[pewter_moon]

I don’t care if a man I don’t know finds me hot. Go ahead and feel free to think what you want but keep it to yourself. That is something I only want to hear in an established relationship. Outside of that it’s a turn off.

[ObadiahTheFirst]

How very unfortunate. I assume you are the type who gets into a relationship through friends and friends of friends, and is not fond of pick up and the like?

[pewter_moon]

Depends on the point of view. It’s not unfortunate for me.

[ObadiahTheFirst]

It is unfortunate for your potential soulmate who could be a stranger approaching you on the street. Thus, it is unfortunate for you as well. But alas, your life, your choices, your regrets.

[pewter_moon]

You assume I’m single.

[Anonymous]

I would it weird to hear that from a stranger.

[ObadiahTheFirst]

Fair enough