Why am I getting tired of my boyfriend?

Question

We are two months into being in a relationship. He works with me but in a completely different department. We hardly see each other but we do take our break together. So in a sense I do see him everyday. We go on dates every Saturday but it's always dinner and a movie. There isn't much to do in my town or his. But I feel bored and have actually put off seeing him today. I don't feel good but still I don't mind not seeing him today. A month ago, he was texting this girl (she sent nudes and was flirting with him) and was entertaining it even though he didn't send nudes or flirt. But since then, I backed off emotionally and don't want to get too close. I also have depression and anxiety so I don't know if all of this is because of that. What's happening?

JayAlexander688 · Accepted Answer

I think what you are going through is normal. When a guy shows red flags ESPECIALLY in the beginning, it shows that right from the beginning something is off. I think he just doesn’t know how to treat his girl yet, which isn’t his fault. Everyone is different when they’re younger. I think maybe you don’t like confrontation, or don’t know how to stand for what you want and deserve, which can cause anxiety and depression. The good news is, I feel like the anxiety and depression you’re facing isn’t a physical part of you, it just comes up with the situation you’re facing, so that’s good. I’m guessing you’re pretty young, which means there’s so much time for you and so much more you can see in this world! Everything will work out for you sweetheart, shoot for the moon, or the stars, or both ;).

LadiesFavoriteToy · Accepted Answer

Well... You are working it out, but communication is key in everything. You should explain to him what it bothering you plain and simple like black and white. Men tend to not think of things the same way as women do so black and white no grey otherwise it might not go over so well. Maybe try going for walks in the woods? Mix it up, dinner and movies gets old but he needs to be spontaneous. Relationships have to be exiting, like make blind fold you to a surprise etc... Keep in mind that you have not said if you lived together?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe he’s not a good match for you. Sometimes we don’t realize that until we are actually in a relationship with the person and seeing how they behave as a boyfriend vs how they are as you build up to the relationship. It also doesn’t help that he was being unfaithful in the first month, to your knowledge he wasn’t sending her anything back but if he entertained her to where it got the that level then who knows what he said in order to save his ass a bit. Now that the trust was broken so soon, I’d leave him.

BlackBeauty90 · Accepted Answer

Gut instinct is a powerful emotion. It is why our forefathers, many thousands of years ago, survived situations (e. g. being a predator's prey) that we can only dream of today.

You're not bored. Your gut instinct is telling you that this guy is NOT the one for you. Listen to it and end things before you get hurt.

cryscrys1 · Answer

He mentally cheated on you. If he was already in contact with another girl chatting for a month and yeah I get it it was her sharing nudes apparently your boyfriend “didn’t” send her nudes ( like delete button exist if you aren’t aware) etc still counts as abnormal to me.

You are not tired of your boyfriend

You lost RESPECT for him. To me that’s what love is about. Your boyfriend isn’t a toddler to not tell another women to stop contacting him and not sending him nudes and whatever.. so In a way your eyes don’t shine bright when you see him but rather a.. petty like wtf is wrong with this dude.
That’s why maybe you don’t know how to express it in better words and you are expressing it but saying you are now -tired - of him. It’s like yourself your inner self knows you can do better.
Same as you know when you get tired of a job or tired of being fat something you know it’s time to
change that shit. Something like this.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Sounds like you’ve emotionally withdrawn from him because he mentally cheated on you, you’ve lost respect for him, and the honeymoon phase could’ve ended aswell which puts a more serious tone on your relationship. If it’s only been 2 months, it’s not too late to break up and move on.

Tiger71 · Answer

All these people that use terms like “cheated” are brainwashed. All of this is socially constructed to keep people in line. Woman get bored because they are hypergamous. Men become boring because they stop trying once they are where they want to be. You don’t keep racing after you get to the finish line. Woman need to be more of a challenge to keep a man, and men need to be less nice to keep a woman interested. If you tret them “too well” they start looking around. If “she” thinks she is better than you, she loses respect.

Also, any “man” that sends nude photos of himself to a woman has really no idea what woman want. Woman don’t want to see your junk. The biggest whore you know, doesn’t care about seeing your junk. They aren’t wired that way.

Adaeva · Answer

If you are bored, just find another boyfriend. There are lots of boys so it is easy to find a new boyfriend. That's what I do. I change boyfriends every month or two. After all, who wants to the same boyfriend. I think it is fun and exciting to find another cute boy.

PonyCar · Answer

This guy isn't the one for you (& quite frankly if he's fishing for nudes from women while he's in a relationship, I don't think he's the right guy for anyone who wants to be monogamous).

Anxiety & depression don't force your partner to do anything. He's demonstrated that he's willing to step out on you, so either accept that, stay with him (& don't complain about it) or leave his a$$.

Sanamina · Answer

Because media teaches women that the Ideal man would put her first

When he does not do that and especially if he is entertaining other girls u get put off because this is not what u were promised as a girl growing up.

That makes u really question whether u actually even want this relationship in the first place?

Why did u want to be in a relationship? Clearly u are not getting what u wanted so dont bother wasting time and look for someone else.

Prof_Don · Answer

Your boyfriend senses you being emotionally withdrawn , & his emotional needs are neglected. That’s why he entertained the other girl.

You do this. You need to fix this by opening up about your anxiety/depression flaring up to safe this relationship.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Two months in and getting nudes from another woman... Is he really your boyfriend or do you want him to be your boyfriend?
You sound like you're tired of the relationship already but I don't believe your communication is strong. Express your needs and desires

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It sounds like you've gotten into a pattern of familiarity with one another. Everything is the same and predictable. That's why you're both bored. You need to sit down together and do a vision mapping session. Talk about your future goals and dreams, but also talk about the goals and dreams you have for the present, for your relationship. Be creative. Think outside the box. You need to regain the spark and regain the FUN!

rienna888 · Answer

yeah it's good that you're emotionally shutting yourself out of the relationship because although he didn't message her back, he should've blocked her

Alex8736 · Answer

best bet is end it but in the workplace keep it professional in passing as in saying "good morning" and keep going on with your day. paycheck is more important than stress, anxiety and ppls self induced issues. I'm not telling you what to do but just offering an opinion. hope All goes well 😃

Sukaaa · Answer

Only you can answer that sit with yourself and face it it's ok if it is defecult and annoying and frustrating but I need to to sit with yourself and ask yourself the question why am I getting tired of my boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

Ultimately it's because there 2 things that make a woman unhappy. 1) Getting what she wants. 2) Not getting what she wants. This is why I simply do not bother with relationships.

dustybiker · Answer

Happy people aren’t entertained by other woman. Sounds like you are holding onto something thar ended a while back.

fembotnpc777 · Answer

This is why you're bored. His emotions are shallow. Let him have miss nudeypants and let him break his own heart.

supercutebutt · Answer

Maybe next time u have coitus, do it with a buttplug installed? That's all I got. Good luck! :)

fred_durst · Answer

because it is not like what you expect , so you learned that relationships are overrated , which is good , everyone never stop to learn until they dead

the fact that he filirted with other girl is more reason why you should dump him

ZenJen444 · Answer

1. You answered your own question. So what are you expecting from us?

2. You're bored because he doesn't put effort into you because he's not interested. His effort is being put towards another women.

3. Proves my point he cheated

RealMarek · Answer

I suspect you answered your own question when you brought up his texting with a different woman. He lost your trust at that moment.

Spiritofn · Answer

Life's hard it will give you bumps and bruises.. Dad always said life's hard wear a helmet but im not special enough to do that so I wear a hat ;)

artsy_dragon · Answer

Just happens and the same thing is happening with me

FilmGuy93 · Answer

The bubble and has burst and you’re finding that the routine of the relationship kinda blows

Strangerdanger2120 · Answer

Your over him, because he broke the image of him you had. I'd just move on if I were you.

User3191989 · Answer

Because you see him ALL the time This is one of the reasons you should NOT date coworkers

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Are you going through his phone? I dunno but this sounds made up.

XLBBC4White · Answer

Miss, you seriously need to see a charming, dominant, very blessed black man for guidance. -Roger

msc545 · Answer

You sound depressed. See a professional, please.

Anonymous · Answer

Could it be that he is bored of you as well?

NerdInDenial · Answer

You don’t love him.

Anonymous · Answer

because you need to break up.

888theGreat · Answer

I think he is going to replace you with her

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Sounds like he lost interest in you.

jimmy2 · Answer

Well time to be an ex

In_Trance · Answer

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