
How Has Your Dating Experience Been For You This Year?


It’s been non existent because I refuse to allow someone to get that close to me. I’ve been single since 2018 and it’s going to stay that way. After 3 failed relationships, I’ve come to the conclusion that every relationship I get into will eventually result in me getting cheated on, replaced by someone better than me, or both. I know 3 isn’t a lot and that I’m still young, but the idea of getting into relationships trying to find this fairytale ass “the one” and getting hurt over and over and over again doesn’t sit right with me. My mental health is already bad enough as it is, the last thing I need is to be fooled into thinking I’m loved and cared about when in reality I’m just a temporary thing until something better comes along ☹️
I probably do need therapy, but I can’t afford it though so I’ll just have to continue on with whatever the hell is wrong with me until I finally pass away.
I definitely shouldn’t date right now and I don’t see myself dating ever again. Who in their right mind would date me anyways when there’s a countless amount of women out there that are better than me? If I am stupid enough to let someone get that close to me again, the guy will either get bored with me or find some obscure reason to leave my ass and get with someone else 🤷🏻♀️
There are free and low cost ways of getting therapy. Have you tried going to the local college psychology department? They offer low/no cost therapy with the students who are close to graduation. I you have no college in your county, contact your counties mental health department of your county health department. If they do not have social workers who could help you out, they will definitely refer you to someone/agency that will be able to help you out. We spent billions per year on mental health related services, take advantage of that, it’s why it’s there. Nobody should feel hopeless when it comes to their mental health.
Great! First time entering the dating scene (I started about a couple of weeks ago). I had dates with 3 guys so far. The first one ended up being an asshole who only wanted to use me for my body but was lying to me about it. The 2nd guy was not an asshole necessarily but our beliefs and values didn't match up and had to cut it off with him the next day. The third guy is a gem. We got along so well and approach relationships the same way. The only weird thing for me is how drastically tall he is next to me. He's 6'2 and I'm 5'1 1/2 ish. But he thinks it's cute and I guess I do as well.
Maybe because you think of yourself as a “nice guy”? 🌚
Yeah I definitely want my next boyfriend to be at least 6 feet
How do you have 3 dates already lol within a few weeks
That is not hard at all. Plenty of men and women do that
^So cringe, so wrong lmao. PSA, you listen to any guy who tries to give advice who says the word “rizz” that’s your own fault
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This year? I’ve been causal dating for the first time in my life, Usually I only pursue women who I click with. Finding a women like that takes me a few years at best but every single one of them have been long lasting relationships and each one has been a massive waste of time other than the few lessons I learned of course. So yeah this year I switched it up, I’ve dated about 8 women this year mainly all of them in a matter of weeks/months, I don’t know how I feel about it all tbh right now, I’d say a solid five of the women haven’t been worth any effort. They showed initial interest but wanted too much off the bat, the sixth thought she was in love with me deeply after two weeks but that was just OCD/Bipolar I know that because I have it but learned how to manage that with a structured plan after medication XD
The other two are recent, They both seem attracted to me physically but only one seems to want to get to know me over time personality wise. So yeah from 8 to 1 and that one is a little younger than I’d like,4 years younger than myself (I’m 23) at times I think she may be too young and tbh they thought still lingers as she’s a uni student yet to start finding her own way in the real world. But hey, I see where it goes although I’m yet to feel a spark as such. I suppose to summarise my experience this year has been okay, pretty meh tbh. I think I’ll probably stick to the long lasting relationships every couple of years though this casual shiz isn’t really for me, I don’t enjoy it. I’d rather continue working on myself until I meet the right women for me and hell if I don’t meet her I’ll at least be happy with the man I’d have become.
I meant to say I’m 23 but apparently putting a 3 next to a ) creates an emoji? I guess we learn something new everyday 🤣
I haven't been on a date in years. I did less, of course, with Covid lockdowns, but last year, when things were opening up a little, still was rough in my personal life, and this year has been so busy. I'm in such a big flux right now in my life, I'm not setting up dates with anyone - it makes little sense to try to start something up and then never see them again.
To be fair, though, I'm sure that even if things were not so busy, I probably would not be dating anyway. I meet very few single women, and the few I meet (who I get along with really well) either aren't interested, or they're busy, or they have some major change in their lives. Plus, with how dating is now, and has been for a long time, there's no flirting, and women are either ridiculously subtle, or not interested. I'd have to do most of the work anyway.
I've had more going on in the last 4 years that have kind of taken away time for trying to date, plus not being good at it... I'm terrible at "the game" and the game constantly changes its rules and outcomes. It's a game where I'm likely to lose... and it's not fun trying to play when I know I'm destined to lose horribly. And to get to a point where I might have a shot is a LOT of work for what reward there might be.
I met 5 really nice guys and spoke to 6 others that were just OK.
Anyways out of the 11 I have been seeing one now for 4 months and counting...
I couldn't tell you how things are going since I'm not the most secure person in the world it's just nice to have someone that wants to keep seeing me. I guess..
How long it will last I really don't know... Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one keeping things going.
On his birthday he seemed to keep pushing things back until I kind of backed him into a corner. Which isn't good.
We've spoken since but no plans to meet.
Maybe he's thinking casual and I'm thinking long term.
He doesn't seem to want to have that conversation.
Awww I'm sorry to here that
Yea don't waste your time on that one anymore. Cut him loose.
So then break it off, I would never bother pushing a guy into a corner for what? He clearly isn’t feeling the same way
Wow teach me how to get 11 dates in a year pls
^Ah ok you are one of those lol now your last response makes sense
@Aphrodite801 basically he booked time off but didn't tell me. I was working the Saturday at last minute notice. I thought he might want to see me on one of the days but he said he was waiting for his friends to confirm plans. I was also travelling and had a work event over three days the week after so I wasn't able to make plans for 2 weeks I wanted to give him his gift and celebrate with him so in the end I had to tell him the Wednesday night I travelled to him, and cooked. He didn't text me all day despite me saying that I was aiming to get to him for 6. It was only when I text him what bus that he said he had only just got home...
We ended up having a little tiff because he said I didn't text him all day. So I told him that I wasn't sure what he was getting at. I told him I would be doing food prep and it was for him to say that he was on his way home. Yes I took a risk going there but he finishes work at 5 and I didn't even get there until 6.30pm.
Now we've been talking back and forth this week and he has now said that he could divert plans he's made with his friends to meet me over the weekend but I'm really not over the moon to hear that. I hate that he cancels or squeezes me in.
I get I'm not the most exciting person in the world but I'm stable and reliable. I'm good with money and I'm a great cook, I'd never cheat. I'm not manipulative and I also don't try to stop my partner having a life of their own. I'd rather them want to be with me.
he's sending me mixed signals ie making me think that he's interested. But then he's 'busy' and having to 'fit' me in
Okay well yes definitely explore your other options and don’t lock in on this guy if you know what I mean. Too finicky
I just text him back, and I'm always honest. I told him that I didn't realise he was going to watch the football (he turned down free tickets when I invited him to an actual match)
And that we could meet another time. I also told him that I feel like I'm pushing myself on him and I'd rather not.
The balls in his court but I think I know where I stand.
I don't have friends and even my mum is pulling away because I noticed she was morphing into me after my dad passed away.
So I asked her to try and figure out who she is.
Anyways I probably am clinging and thinking this is more than it actually is.
Buying him Christmas gifts etc before Christmas.
I feel so stupid.
Society really has a weird curve. In the Fall, people start connecting together and forming relationships, in the Spring the relationships start to get weary, in the Summer people start to break up and fool around until fall comes again.
So overall, I have had an OK time and not experienced anything bad, but it seems harder to find women that want to have a genuine relationship. A lot of people in my area are either into friends with benefits, situationship, fooling around, or just have such a warped view of the term "relationship" that its like a minor anxiety attack just hearing the word. I'm not saying any of these are necessarily wrong or bad, because I'm sure people can have peace while participating. Just an interesting observation about the people in my area, and a deep sadness and compassion for people nowadays.
I think I read somewhere once, don't quote me ha, that the heat e. g. the summer you describe, makes human beings uhhh let's say, more promiscuous, supposedly. "Supposedly." But anyway, yeah I sort of fit into the categories of the anxiety versus the open to. I'm open to a relationship with a woman, but I'm not longing for one. And I'm anxious if I did get into a relationship, in case she turned me against myself, friends, family, or, just a gold digger, or that maybe i'd feel overwhelmed. Lol. Sometimes you know, a partner takes a lot of time and effort. Lol. Usually nowadays as a single man, even, work, family, friends, and my own time, I enjoy. I feel a wife or girlfriend would just sort of, strangely, just sort of feel like they'd get in my way or I'd get in her way. Lol. 😋
From good to bad. Since 2nd November we haven't spoken (Phone wise).
And the last time we texted was 15th November (1 week ago) because she asked for space for a month. We had bad arguments. Before I've always reached out every 4-5 days later when ever she took space. This time she said I mean it, I want my one month. So I'm holding tight not to disrespect her request. I know it's also a small test to see if I respect it at least this time. But fucked up thing is that it's her birthday 2 weeks later and I don't even know if I should text or anything. Feel so down and fucked. So for me it's been bad.
This year i dated a guy who was a true gentleman he always treated me with love and respect pulled chair for me open doors for me protected me in public places i am going to always remember him it's just that i couldn't fall in love with him but liked him for the kind of person he was
Why couldn’t you fall in love?
Women never fall in love with the guys that completely pedestalize them. It's just not in your nature to be attracted to a man without an edge, and most nice guys don't have one. Sexual attraction is what women need for love, and that is built by a man that isn't all that easy to figure out, and one that will walk away if necessary. Nice guys never walk away, so women most often grow bored with them and leave.
^Now why would you comment something so ignorant and stupid on my question? 😂😂😂
^What are you talking about? Actually the fact that you used the word nice guy makes me think you are trying to say something incredibly stupid
And men do the same. Like I said, you type of guys are very cringe. And delusional.
This is a rather odd answer to this question, as I don’t fit the singles criteria since I’m polyamorous, but I’ll put it bluntly:
- Had a breakup with one of my partners
- Got back with an ex after a really intimate few nights (emotionally intimate, obviously, I don’t think with what’s below the belt when it comes to relationships)
- Got together with two more people
- Broke up with my ex again after we realized that it wouldn’t work as lovers but as friends instead
- Broke up with one of my partners cause they just sorta fell out of love which is fine, it happens
So TL;DR it was interesting, eventful but nothing in particular to talk about unless you want like specifics? I could give that but only if asked
I'm an INFJ-A and females always have the wrong intensions bc of the aura i carry with me it's very calming and vibrant and relaxing so they feel at ease with me so some of them will try to fuck me before dating and that's usually a big no but sometimes i do it if i like their personality bc that's what i like about people their personalities and their appearance so i'm picky so it's not going that well but i also don't want to date atm so kinda a me problem bc i look good and am tall and have an amazing personality with great inner confidence.
It's been not so successful... besides acquaintaces. Well, it's a matter of time. Not an excuse. My personality doesn't match with theirs because I am living in the wrong Neighborhood. But I believe that I'll find her and she will find me. It's a matter of time. You keep up shaking until the apple falls from the tree
What else should I say? There is something wrong with me, me, me, do this and that. No be like this guy, change yourself for the sake of a girlfriend. Oh lol. If I was someone I am not, she'll notice it then look strange to me... which I could understand
Awesome it's like you are at your peak of life. Everything is sorted out and life's been good.
And then comes dating ohhh lord!
Imagine talking to a tree that's what's been.
You try and try to pull out words of their mouths and none. Or go on a date and that's it. It's like everyone wants to be forever alone. What is wrong with people.
Still can't really complain been busy with work so dating has been benched.
Yet I'd rather not waste time with people who don't know what they want.
It's been 2 years since I've dated anyone. Everyone has such high expectations for their partner. And apparently I don't meet any of their requirements. They seem to want a player or a whore rather than someone who gets no one. And then they are mad when they get cheated on or get left.
In my opinion, those of us who don't get anyone would be better for those who have high expectations for someone. I may not have a great job, I may look ugly, I may be a virgin, but my heart isn't looking for another. It's looking for just one.
I might end up alone. I might end up a virgin my entire life. I might never kiss a woman or share my life with her. But it's better than being hurt over and over again.
My dating experience this year? Haven't had one. Do I try? Yes.
Maybe I'll keep trying.
Someone out there for all of us, yes? I sure hope so.
You’re not making sense. They want a player or a whore what? Yeah I can definitely see why no one wants you as of rn. Very cringe thing to say
Might be because I'm high and not exactly thinking straight but I can't let myself know that
It's been okay, because I'm still single and haven't been on any dates. A number of reasons, mostly not enough hours in a day, and my weekends I prefer to spend doing chores and family time and friends. Lol, sometimes I wonder, where's the time for a significant other, lol.
So it's been okay, I voted. I sometimes think you know, relationships to me, maybe they're overrated. I mean friends and family and work colleagues and work itself even. Where's the time? 😆😆😆😋
Well, let's see..
Me at the start of the year : come on man... you need to get a girlfriend... You're young.. You're supposed to enjoy.. Live a little..
Me every time a girl I like shows interest / hit on me :
This too also sums me up to varying degrees of accuracy for me about me. 😈
I’ve been married for over 34 years. I’m not dating, but I’m sure I’m getting more action than people who are!
Well not more action with different people but yeah
Yeah, but my wife knows exactly what I like, and I know exactly what she likes!
Had two first dates and hung out with some other girl. No future with any of them. You could joke and say I "struck out". Heh? Get it? Three girls, no succes. I thought it was funny. But, those experiences made me realize that I'm fine being alone right now. There's a massive amount of freedom that I currently have and it feels great.
I don't bother , single dad to a teen daughter & the desire to date is not there for me. After the marriage I endured & ended , plus I am introverted , means I like being & staying single far too much I do feel sorry for younger guys , I know the vast majority will have zero options.
If younger guys had 0 options than younger girls would have 0. 💀 that’s how it works and young guys have no problem getting a girl
What dating relationship? I get friendezoned within a minute of meeting a woman and can't get out no matter what I do. I've never been anywhere other than the friendzone, even by professionals and even at a convention of nymphomaniacs. I've completely given up, and everyone who says there are ways out is just spouting bullshit.
I challenge anyone to change my mind.
Well you need to stop going after women that clearly don’t like you. Or you will get friendzoned or even ghosted
It’s been great! I’ve been sick for the past two months, but I'm getting better every day and it won’t be long before I’m back in the dating “saddle” so to speak.
I've got cheated on back in Feb. of '21. Took a long break of dating and got into a "relationship" in mid October of '22. That lasted like week and a half. Told myself I won't do it again until next year then a girl I've known for awhile (and really like!!) wanted to hangout and we are about to go on our second date next Sunday. So I guess it's not all bad for me 🤷🏼♂️
Sadly it isn't going well I've still yet to ever go on a date. I keep trying online dating but those that I do take to sadly nothing comes of it. But I am hopeful that il meet someone. It's just hard to continue with it at times. More so when it just comes as a result of them ghosting you but. It is what it is.
I understand that things don't work out and such i just prefer the openness of communicating.
It has been pretty bad. I got out of a very toxic relationship back in August. That was on and off from last September (2021) until August. But I changed jobs and I am getting my groove back. I started liking a girl but just finally got the courage to talk to her after a few months of just waving and walking off. Hopefully, 2023 has more for me.
Ok, talk to her about what?
Just talk to her about how her day is going and basic stuff. For months, I have been extremely nervous and couldn't have a basic conversation with her. I was thinking about telling her how I feel but i don't know seems a bit early.
Well just from you doing that I would think it’s pretty obvious you like her. To her anyway
Non existent so I must say that it is pretty ok! :)
Same😂
I'm going to change that though. I stay home a bit too much
As in you have a guy your interested in or you are going to go get one?
Going to go get one.
Hunting spear and net at the ready.
Lol! Oh this is going to be good!! I have a feeling your ass be a incorporated in to that trap some how too…
Good luck!!!
Thanks :)
Sucked. I barely had a decent conversation with my SO overseas and could date no one in person. I did kiss several people, though, but as they say, a ‘peck on the [cheek] isn’t really a kiss.’
Dumped one guy who was gay, dumped another guy cause he was abusive and insecure and dumped another one cause he was crazy for wanting to have 10+ kids so i wasn't sure if my body could give birth 10 times.
Well Haven’t had one but i wasn’t trying to so I guess it’s been okay!
It’s November already,😟
I was so busy I didn’t date no one
I did not have any dates for some years actually. Even if I would like a date, I did not meet any girls who shares some of my interests. So I prefer to be single than in a sad relationship.
Hmm really, do you haven’t been rejected by any girls you interested in this year?
No, because I did not flirt with any girls. I do have multiple female friends though.
Hmm... I have apps for that but not had any notifications from them.
Do I need to do anything?
Sounds like you aren’t using them
I was just being difficut 😀, I do the whole swiping thing just haven't exchanged more than a couple of messages all year. At least I've been sociable a few times this year... beats last year when I didn't speak to anyone outside my family apart from marketing calls.
My relationship is nit working, I am honestly trying
I can't find a partner who matches my standards amd is compatible with ne.. my dating pool is small
non existing.
I dont date, dating is are waste of time and most of all a waste of MONEY to me
Not good my dream of meeting a bfs family never came true I’m 25 no man wants give me experience 😓
Good things take time
@Satyromaniac I thought all men meet family fast after few dates.
Happens only if he's really serious about your relationship...
@Satyromaniac we r together always tho as partners? maybe some men would like to meet family til u get married?
Yes it's possible, marriage definitely makes it compulsory to meet the to be - in laws
@Satyromaniac cuz that’s what my boyfriend always tell me , u meet family wen u r getting married 🙁 or wen u have baby maybe
I’ve never met parents so I assume wen u meet then the parents ask if u plan to marry? which is why some men meet parents so fast as some couples marry quickly or sooner than others
You're right 🙂
Every person I show interested in were all taken but I didn't know at the time
There is no option to select I was not on date
That’s called bad lol
Yes but this is the truth
Inexistent is the right word...
Not great but that nothing new
Nonexistent...
I just broke up with my partner of two years. Does that answer your question? Lol
Pretty uneventful really
Good, I stayed away from it haha
Not yet. I'm going to ask him out. If he replies
It's been non existent.
4th answer: "It's been nothing"
I haven't been on any date
Solid.
Not good at get disappointed ☹️ twice
haven't dated yet
I haven't been able to find someone
Single and walking it well.
Not the best there's always next year
Horrible
Full of deceit lies and trauma
non existent
Not had one.
No experience
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