What do I do to make him feel better?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend texted me this morning saying that he doesn’t feel well “ emotionally” and he’d try to text me here and there but he doesn’t feel like talking to anyone for a while. How can I make him feel better? I tried to make him laugh by sending him funny animals videos as it seemed to work last time i tried. But i still feel like i should do something to make him feel like I’m there for him. P. S: we’re long distance.

[quaranta]

I think you shouldn't do anything. The fact he needs to distance himself from you while he feels bad emotionally means that he doesn't see you like a relief or someone who could understand him or refill him of energies, but he sees you like someone taxing to manage or who couldn't understand him, and he can't manage that while he is out of energies, so he just stays away to recover alone. And that's why you shouldn't do anything.
Honestly, if I have bad issues and when I mention them to someone I get a funny video of animals in response, I'd feel not understood, not heard and a bit invalidated as if my problems are nothing so serious or worth listening, that can be just managed with something silly and that has nothing to do with it.
Why does he feel bad though? Did you have an argument? If so, he might need time and feels like things weren't fully resolved after that. Is there a chance he is talking with another girl, got turned down yesterday and now he feels like a failure both sides? Is there a chance you are clingy/needy and he feels suffocated and he is telling you he needs space in general but he actually means he needs space from you?
These are not questions for me, these are for yourself, and once you understand the cause of the problem then you also know the different steps you could take. I'm pretty sure meme videos are never the best choice you can pick, in any of the circumstances. It's too random and shallow, it works for 10 minutes and doesn't address the problem...

[Asker]

There is no problem. He has a lot of work to finish and when he doesn’t finish it all he gets kinda depressed cuz he’d feel unproductive. So usually he’d just stop talking to everyone but me he’d call and stay on call even if he doesn’t have anything to say cuz as he said my presence itself makes him feel at peace. so we would watch some funny videos to make him feel a little better then he’d open up and tell me what’s bothering him. But this time I couldn’t do that for some personal reasons. Never said these videos address the problem it just helps to make him open up.

[boggboss]

U can't really do anything if he dont feel like he wants to talk to people

[Guy13]

Wait on him to come out of it without pressure, help, or rushing him.

[Asker]

I don’t want him to think that I don’t care or anything like that. So I told him that I’m here for him whenever he feels like talking.

[Guy13]

There you go. Two eeeks…

[Asker]

It’s all good now. Thank you