My boyfriend has been stressed recently. How can I make him feel better?

[Anonymous]

Hi. My (18) boyfriend (19) has been distant lately. Not only with me but with his friends too. I talked with him, it's basically his college. He has been lacking behind and his deciding to drop out and get a job. Regardless of what his decision will be, I will support him.

He has become very nonchalant, someone who doesn't care about things anymore and if something bad happens, he shrugs it off by saying "i deserve it", this is NOT who he is. He has become very quiet. He has no motivation anymore, He literally said "Im done". Im trying my best to be there for him but i dont know what to do or say to motivate him.

Please help me out. I dont like seeing my boy upset.

[chloeaimeejensen]

Sounds like your boyfriend is suffering from severe depression. Has something traumatic happened in his life recently such as a parent dying or failing an important exam. Has he turned to alcohol or drugs more than he usually would. These are all signs of depression. And from what you’ve said, unfortunately it sounds to me that he’s borderline suicidal. You need to get him to go to his doctor as soon possible and request for him to see a therapist and get some antidepressants prescribed for him.

Here are some songs that may help him out as well as show him that you’re there to help whatever he needs:

One More Light - Linkin Park

Lullaby - Nickelback

Savin’ Me - Nickelback

The Light - Disturbed

A Reason To Fight - Disturbed

When The Seasons Change - Five Finger Death Punch

[springxxx]

You can continue to support him by giving him words of encouragement or by just being there for him but don't forget to take of yourself too and to not lose yourself in the process

[WanderingLoveWizard]

He's lucky to have a girl who actually gives a sweet flying fuck.

As someone who lost a partner to suicide, this is the optimal time for you to be as supportive as possible. Encourage him, make him feel good about himself, take him out to do fun things, and most importantly, have a serious talk with him about what's going on and make him let you help him.

And VERY important: if he seems happy out of nowhere, like a switch just flipped in his brain and he's all better now, but his behavior doesn't indicate that he is, watch him like a hawk. That's usually when people have decided they're gonna kill themselves

[MrOracle]

It sounds like he's feeling overwhelmed by life and the pressures of school. College has always been challenging, but over the last 40 years, school in general and college in particular has been increasingly hostile to men, and all instruction has been changed to be optimized around the way that women learn, and while some men can adapt and thrive, many others struggle, and many don't bother. Not every man is cut out for college and an office job - many are happier out in the world and working with their hands.

Of course I don't know why he is struggling, but those are common contributing factors.

[Billlewis]

Most guys love it when they know that other guys are jealous of them for having an attractive woman as their girlfriend. You could try telling him that you've been driving a guy you work with crazy, because he wants to have sex with you so badly, and that you've been teasing him, just for fun. That's an easy way to boost your boyfriend's ego and make him feel better.

[BoopBoopBeep]

That's gotta be the worst advice I've seen on here. You don't tell someone who may be suicidal that someone at work is moving in on their lady. You got your fetishes bro and that's cool... you do you, but that was really irresponsible.

[Aminigiraffe]

Absolutely do NOT do this! If he's spiraling this will make it SO much worse! Good lord.

[_no_one_]

He really needs positive things happening in his life. Keep blasting him with your positivity and things will eventually get better. It'll take time and a lot of patience.

[strateguy632]

those are worrisome signs, but spend time talking with eye contact while hand in hand.

[imfreeze95]

Do something for him or with him. No it does not have to be sexual.

[Luckycharms12]

Food cuddles and a bj or sex

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Hug'm and kiss'm.

[Abdulwahh]

Go out to a park or beach and chill.

[Anonymous]

Offer to give him a massage.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well and a BJ wouldn't hurt.

[Opinion Owner]

@BoopBoopBeep Hell yeah!

[Hotboy_booblover]

Give him. a blow job