Ahh caregiver burnout; every caregiver has been there. Maybe it would be good to shop around for some in-home eldercare services.
People in your boyfriend's position often feel a sense of duty or obligation to care for the elder. It's not always easy to recognize when you need to take a break and let someone else do the cooking and cleaning. Even if it's only a couple times per week.
What you really need to do is come up with some options, then, the next time a fight happens, just show him the list and tell him he needs to take some time for himself.
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You are clearly making this all about you. Your boyfriend, on the other hand, is selfless and giving, the opposite of your nature.
If you really need to be the center of a man's attention, leave this poor guy alone so he can do what he knows is right. And you can find another man who will spoil you and allow you to be self-centered.
Your boyfriend is selfless, but needs to take care of himself and his personal life, too. I would just be open and say something like, “X, I love you, but I can tell that you’re frazzled by your hectic work demands and taking care of your roommate. You are a very kind person for helping him so much, but I wish I could spend more time with you too. I want to be prioritized more, and it’s important to have this to me in a relationship.”
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