my boyfriend compares me and his ex all the time.
he was with her more than 5 years. according to him, she cheated on him. we met 1 year later after they broke up, he mentioned the first day. soon we decided to be in a relationship, he said about his ex more than 3 times a day. I didn't say anything then cos he said "i was with her more than 5 years, so she was a part of my 20's life." so I tried to understand him.
but I couldn't stand it anymore, so asked him not to say about her.
he tried but I think he says even he doesn't realize what he says sometimes.one day, we were walking on the street, he said today is my ex's birthday. we were very fancy hotel, I dropped red wine..."
the other day, he says "my ex really wanted to get very expensive coat for Christmas present, she never pad for rent I paid 2/3 for it."
he complained but still talking about her.
i told him watching a woman walking on the street, I said, "she is very attractive." he said, "my ex is more attractive than her."
i asked why I am here he was still thinking his ex is attractive.
he said that he was with me, he didn't want to be with his ex. but I can't stand it.
when he gets angry, he compared with me and his ex like my ex was better than you or she never complained when I drink beer, she was drinking coke. so do I have to drink coke instead of saying anything?
is it normal to other people? or just my boyfriend?
he says he loves me, but I can't believe it.
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No, it isn't normal, and it isn't OK. Constantly being compared (especially negatively) to someone else will eventually damage your self-esteem. I'm not saying that he doesn't love you, but he can't truly give you all of himself if he is still so hung up on his ex. I don't think it's a healthy relationship for you to be in, especially if he ignores your requests to stop talking about her.0