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You need to stop putting yourself down,He clearly picked you because you are his type,just because he dated blondes doesn't mean he has to the rest of his life,they screwed him over,you need to have self esteem or he will not be attracted to u,keep being the you he fell in love with and don't worry about his past,now the pic on his laptop is another issue,do not stay angry long,you tell him that you saw that and it was very upsetting and to please explain it to u.He needs to know you are no puch over and you love yourself and respect yourself enough to know what you will put up with and not..communication is the key to a lasting relationship not hiolding things in and harboring resentment,speak your mind so this relationship can grow.0
Once you know your boyfriends ideal or ex girlfriend(s) looks. It's not easy to not compare yourself to them.
He obviously like the blondes. He dated a lot of them. Suddenly, half Asian. (What the f***?) - Yeah, I can understand why.
I mean, talk to him about it again. Heart to heart. If you can't face it or is still insecure I suggest you break up with him and go work on yourself. Or maybe, he'll help you.
Or perhaps, you are right. You're his rebound.
Also, he has been with you for 8 months now. Rebounds don't last very long.0
But brunettes are way hotter then blondes. I'm confused by what the problem is.1
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That inner voice we women have can be a fickle thing and I feel you. It was hard for me to wrap my mind around the fact that all of my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends shared something in common: they were tall, slim, light-skinned, and blonde. I, on the other hand, am petite, brunette, olive skinned, with boobs and an a**. Not to mention we are an interracial couple - the first he's ever been in. It just didn't make sense to me and I began to doubt if his interest in me was genuine.
Then I looked at my dilemma from a different angle. If something isn't working out, despite repeated attempts, then maybe a different approach is needed to find a solution. Then I saw it. My boyfriend had dated the same types of girls in the past with little success.
Perhaps your boyfriend is in a different place in his life and he has come to understand that what he was doing in the past was OBVIOUSLY not working out for him. Not that you are his "experiment" but if you have been together for that long its apparent that you are the solution. You are the missing piece to a happy and successful relationship.
Now, if the picture of his ex on his laptop bothers you, which it's totally understandable, address the issue. Staying mad at him and letting your feelings sizzle won't help the matter.
I agree with PoeticNinja. Give yourself a little TLC. Those insecurities you may have about yourself might end up doing more harm to your relationship than your boyfriend's sudden change in girlfriend formula. I mean, men aren't completely oblivious to a woman's lack of self-confidence. They might not know how to alleviate the problem, but they sense it and they'll eventually react. If you can love and embrace yourself for the beauty that you are don't be surprised when others follow suit (including your boyfriend). Same applies for when you don't like yourself.
Bottom line is...talk to your man. Be direct and don't beat around the bush. Also, don't be afraid to love yourself.