My boyfriend says that he prefers blondes on his old dating profile. I'm a brunette. Should I leave him?

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I found his old okcupid profile where he says that he prefers to have kids of his own ethnicity and prefers "light hair". Mind you, he's a blonde. I feel bad about this because I'm a brunette Latina. What should I do? Does this mean I'm not good enough?

TechnoGirl · Accepted Answer

If your the first brunette girl he has ever dated, it means there is something about you that he couldnt resist so he asked you out and made you his girlfriend. He wouldn't be dating you if he didn't like you, and honestly, just because he prefers blondes over brunettes doesn't mean you have to break up with him (unless you want to) that reason/excuse of yours is just fucking stupid. Dont think so negatively about the things your boyfriend said, do you think he'd still be with you if he didn't like you? He likes you for who you are and not for what your pretending to be. If it worries you THAT much, ask him.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My guy prefers burnetts and I am blonde. I was worried when we got together, 11 years ago... in the end my thought was if he doesn't love me because my hair is the wrong color what am I doing? I felt bad for thinking it... How shallow am I accusing him of being? If he is so shallow surely I wouldn't have dated him in the first place! There is nothing wrong with wanting to preserve your race, however when love is true, skin color disappears.

ashleyrene · Accepted Answer

It's just hair. I think you should be more concerned about your self worth if this is a huge concern for you. Are you a good girlfriend? Does he seem happy to be with you?

I prefer red heads with green eyes who are really tall and skinny. Will I ever date this person? Unlikely. Would I be happy with someone who didn't meet those "preferred" standards? Absolutely.

ShortCircuit · Accepted Answer

It doesn't necessarily mean that you aren't good enough for him, but it does mean he doesn't think you're perfect. If that upsets you enough to break up with him over, then by all means. I actually wouldn't blame you. I personally would want my partner to think I'm perfect, and I'd be hurt to if I found out she thought otherwise.

ineverpayfordates · Accepted Answer

"Oh my God, I'm not a perfect 10/10 in the eyes of my boyfriend, should I dump him?"

Questions like these are an indication of how superficial and narcissistic people have become in recent times. What happened to actually falling in love with one's personality?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you think this is a sufficient reason to break up, you must not have much feeling for him.

natured · Answer

My man likes blondes too, but i am brunette and he would still not change me for any blonde in the world, usually men say this to make you jealous, because they think it's cute -_-
Tell me about it, who understands Men anyhow...

Good luck <3 AND HEY i wish i was a Latina, you guys are HOT! Your man is lucky.

wc444 · Answer

Sweet Jebus! You women worry over the silliest things sometimes. My preference is a brunette with dark skin. My girlfriend meets this description. If we were no longer together and a fair skinned blonde got my attention, I certainly wouldn't waste time wishing she were a brunette and I certainly wouldn't want her any less than I would if she were.

fueledbythc · Answer

The classic "am I not good enough for him?" I find so much humor at someone elses insecurities. Why bother getting into a relationship when you're insecure as fuck. He's with you. Just leave it be and if he actually does something worth confronting him for do that. Not cry about his old online dating profile. How pathetic. With your mindset you aren't good enough just because you managed to manifest such thoughts in your unstable brain.

Brooke_1713 · Answer

It's just his preference (which everybody all has, including you) plus, it's in the past. And tbh... preference is just preference, it doesn't mean that you're not good for him. plus it's just the outside, and sometimes it doesn't mean anything, what we all want is the inside of somebody (soul, personality) So if he's really in love with you, those things are just don't matter anymore, because you're unique and everybody loves unique, even when we have preference.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that means you are that much awesome that you even converted him ;) And even if it is not conversion, know that he finds something so strongly appealing on you that he chooses you over any blonde. Be proud ;) And if you still feel bad about it, ask him.. he can tell you himself.

Anonymous · Answer

That doesn't mean you are not good enough for him. I am pretty sure that he cherishes you and he considers you beautiful. Also, it was an old dating profile, it's not even a recent one.

Anonymous · Answer

I like guys with black or dark brown hair. If a really nice blonde guy with a fantastic personality and we clicked would start talking with me, would I not be attracted to him? Hell no!
Even if his preference is blondes, you probably are so amazing in other ways that he became attracted to you so much that physically it didn't matter to him!

Anonymous · Answer

As most other girls, I prefer brunette-haired men. This does not mean that I don't also like blonde men. I have actually liked blonde men a few times in my life. It's like preferring the color red... It doesn't mean you won't ever have anything but red on you.

JulieXO · Answer

No. It means he prefers blonde hair, but he fell in love with you for who you are. Hair color really doesn't matter. My boyfriend is into brunettes and I've always had blonde hair, it's never been an issue.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

How about you ask him instead of us about it? People often overlook minor details like hair colour for the ones they like.

faithandpixiedust · Answer

I wouldn't pay too much attention to the past and focus on the present. Tastes change over time and in the end, most guys prefer someone with a nice personality.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Prefer just means, "in a perfect world, I would have a blonde" life however isn't perfect for anyone, & if it were what would be the point if you get everything you want. No suspense at all

victoriameliegray · Answer

if he loves you enough, then the hair color you have shouldn't matter. Ask yourself. Does he truly love you and care about you? Then no, don't think about hair color as that important.

Blueye556 · Answer

Nah, everyone has their opinion, I like redheads but that doesn't mean I only like redheads. Just a preference

mntkp · Answer

It's just something he prefers. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. If he didn't, he wouldn't date you, would he? You can just let it go but if it really bothers you talk to him about it.

naomi10wylde · Answer

Just talk to him about it, but his opinions have probably changed considering he's dating you

AddictedGirl · Answer

It's just a preference! Even all girls prefer charming and a perfect man.. but still they stay happy with their imperfect one

Shutupman · Answer

He thinks you're hidious, you should totally break up over that.

bunanababa · Answer

seriously? just because of a hair colour you would leave your bf?

JustAnotha90skid · Answer

Just because it says that don't mean he doesn't find you attractive. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Means he changed his mind and open up his preferences a bit?

honeybo · Answer

The key word here is 'old' he might not still feel that way

OrangeBoy · Answer

Are you unhappy? He's unhappy with you? Those are just preferences. May also just mea he saw sometthing more in you than just your colors, wish is good.

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

No that was just his type at that time. You're still sexy to him even as a brunette. He isn't wholly biased on one hair color.

someguyyoumightknow · Answer

I'm surprised he hasn't deleted his profile. However, he's with you now. I think it matters that he's changed.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

If you weren't good enough, then he wouldn't be dating you. He clearly doesn't mind.

willwhitez · Answer

I preferred barbie dolls till my short thick brunette wife walked into my life

Anonymous · Answer

I put up on my profile years ago that I prefer dark haired/tan guys and am perfectly happy with my ghost pale, little mayo jar boyfriend.

jacquesvol · Answer

A brunette can become a blonde in one hour, using some shampoo

Ovidiu-Nicolae · Answer

If you feel like that do it.  It means she didn't met you yet, he may like that type of girls that doen't mean there can't be no exception

Anonymous · Answer

THAT is very rude. you should tell him that you prefer men with big cocks but you're settling for him

FroggyDoggy96 · Answer

Yes, you should leave him.

anaspie · Answer

Oh stop that nonsense, He still choose you!

TheFellowTraveler · Answer

Would be extremely shallow.

NerdInDenial · Answer

Have you talked to him about it?

TripleAce · Answer

You're one of those aren't ya

Nadzzz · Answer

That's where you guys base your love? Wow ok

Secretgardenblood · Answer

Is that Mostly important?

Teenwolf18 · Answer

first, why is he on okcupid when he's with you?

Itagnyn · Answer

I prefer blondes too, but I'm dark haired.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

he says he prefers, its not a requirement

Fox_McTag · Answer

answer: no

vintagegirl3 · Answer

No he thinks you are beautiful...

Anonymous · Answer

this is odd. i don't understand this

BronzedAdonis · Answer

triggered much?

Anonymous · Answer

no don't

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