im friends with a guy and we jus started doing more, and at first it was clear that were jus friends with benefits, but now things have the vibe that it could be more. How could i move things along? like what could i do to help guide us to that point?
Ahh nice, it's always fun when you start catchin feelings for a friends with benefits! Here's some things you could try:
- Suggest doin more like actual date type stuff, not just hookin up. Cook for each other, have a picnic, go to an event, etc. Show you want quality time too.
- Compliment him more on who he is, not just his looks. Like say what you appreciate about how funny/sweet/thoughtful he can be.
-casually bring up things you'd like in a relationship to see if he seems interested. Like "Wouldn't it be nice to have someone to go to holidays with..."
-spend the night cuddling after instead of just leavin right after. Cuddles make things feels more intimate.
-Flirt more outside the bedroom too through texts. Send cute selfies when you're thinkin about him.
-Straight up just tell him you're startin to really like him! Guys like it when you're direct instead of beat around the bush. Then see where his heads at.
Hope some of those help move things in the right direction! Let me know if you need any other tips. Fingers crossed it turns into something real.
Just be honest with him and tell him you would like to be more than just FWB’s with him. Tell him you don’t want anyone else , most guys’ Love when a girl tells him she only wants him , trust me and ask him if he feels the same way? Make sure that’s really what you want? , don’t just assume that’s what you want. Most you girls’ think you know what you want but than you easily change your minds when things don’t go your way. Why I prefer FWB’s with a girl first , to give her and I time to really get to know each other before making the big decision of commitment. Me personally takes commitment seriously , if she isn’t
On the same page with me , than that relationship will not last and it’s sadly just a waste of time. So really ask yourself if you want to be with him for the long haul and not the short haul ,
If you didn’t establish that you’re in a “lease with the option to buy” sort of situation, the guy is unlikely to move past friends with benefits. After all, why commit when you’re giving him what he wants when he wants without the commitment?
Sit down and have a serious talk with him. If he seems like he’s flaking, step away and go find a proper guy who is relationship material.
Do not rush. Go with the flow and enjoy what you have for now. Ask him he if sees your situation moving forward in the future but if you really want things to get serious I'd say be patient and do not pressure him. It's very possible to move from friends with benefits to a serious relationship as long as the both of you share similar values on what you want in a relationship.
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You have to earn commitment from a man by being feminine, submissive, cooperative, and proactively proving your loyalty by not going out to bars/clubs, posting slutty thirst trap pictures on social media, having contact with previous sexual partners, or having male friends.
u You don’t move along with it after the guy finished getting what he gets and when he’s tired of it, he moves onto the next victim then he drops you. That’s how they work friends with benefits. I know it’s absolutely disgusting but you should not be a part of it. These things never work out and they’re dangerous he could be having sex with five different girls and you could catch a disease
You've failed in your role. No matter how much society has fooled you into thinking such a thing as casual sex exists, it doesn't. This guy will not be interested in a relationship. There may be exceptions to the rule but I doubt it.
by speaking clearly, say "we have the vibe, we should be exclusive only us" maybe agree, if not, can't trust so dump.
It's up to him to decide. You can only ask and hope he says yes.
Women are the gatekeepers of sex.
Men are the gatekeepers on commitment.
By the way it's not true that men don't get attached with sex, we absolutely do.
Just tell him you are interested in more and ask if he is.
Does he want the same thing?
If not, you might be wasting your time.
Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is what freedom and equality looks like.
I thought that the whole idea of a friend with benefits is you have sex with no commitment.
You could put the idea out there, but don't be surprised if he doesn't go for it.
He will never see a fuck buddy as true relationship material. No quality man would.
Sex is blinding you into thinking you're a match , maybe?
I wouldn’t say anything to him. Part ways and wish him well.
Then move forward open minded knowing you’re ready for a relationship.
See how he feels about relationships.
