When a woman asks if you are single is she interested?

[Anonymous]

Anything in the form of “are you single/do you have a girlfriend/wife?”. And assuming its a girl you dont know well.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

It could be, but not necessarily, no.

Key here is context - what's the setting? Workplace, bar, supermarket? Who is this woman - a coworker, a random stranger, a cashier? Depending on those and other factors, she might be "testing the waters" so to say, or just making small talk. Third possibility, like someone else here has already said, they might be see if they can fix you up for a friend of theirs.

In my life, both work and private business, I do stumble into women who ask about my marital status - usually just as a way to frame me better and understand who they are doing business with. It's kind of peculiar because men don't really pop this question as often as women do.

[Asker]

I can give some context and what happened the next day after she asked me the girlfriend question.

I was eating lunch during work break. She came into the room and sat down on the chair. She notices that i get nervous around her (i have a crush on her).

Conversation:
Her : “(my name), why do you get so nervous?(She has asked me that same question a few weeks ago)

Me : “I dont know”

Her : “you don’t know? Do you feel nervous around girls? Have you never talked to one? Dont you have a girlfriend?”

Me : “No”

Then the next day our company went to the club and she told me to come with her outside. It was me, her, and her girl friend. Me and the girl i like were talking normally and a bit later she pulled my arm and pulled me towards her and the wall behind us. We were really close physically, our waists were almost touching. Then she put her hand on my abdomen and just looked at me and stopped talking.

I got really nervous and leaned away, she noticed that and put her hand again on my abdomen and closed the gap. She just looked at me while i was looking at the ground. All of this happened while her girl friend was standing behind her. When she noticed what was happening she walked a bit away. Then someone else came and the girl who touched me backed off.

[Guy13]

Yes and how much more do you want from here. If the guy is that thick not to GO after that then the women I know would XXXXX that name out the Contacts. 👦 👨🏻‍🦱👶…. Nahhhhh. If he can’t figure “are you single”…. Nay Nay Nay….
Truth

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[Rose89]

Well I asked my crush recently if he’s seeing someone … I brought it up in a convo where we were talking about relationships. And we were walking home from work together. But my main reason for asking is because I like him. But there is obviously other reasons to ask. But I’d say it’s the main one.

[Sorrento-Sun]

Not necesarily. I've asked guy that who I'm not interested in. It can be just a generic question.

If you're single, tell her you are, then see how she responds after she knows. The question itself doesn't determine her interest, but how she behaves and responds after your answer will.

[Asker]

I don't know if this counts as her responding to that question but i will write what i wrote to someone else:

Our circle was at the club and she took me outside with her girl friend. Me and her were talking about normal stuff.

What happened then is that the girl who asked me if i have a girlfriend grabbed my arm and pulled me towards her so that we were very close to each other, about an inch or two of space. She then put her hand on my tummy.

When she did that i got really nervous and leaned away so her hand didn't touch me anymore. She noticed the gap and put her hand back on my tummy. While all of this happened she wasn't talking and just looked at me.

[coachTanthony]

You can never assume but fire right back with yes and how about you? Don't miss this chance to make sure if she is single or not then at least you will know.

[Asker]

Thing is that some people lie about that.

[coachTanthony]

So some people lie so let’s not do it? You could say some people do “whatever” for any issue just so you do t have to engage in anything in life …so I suggest always say it

[BlueScorpio]

Possible? Sometimes I ask people that as a conversation starter or to a know a fact about them.

[Asker]

Know what fact?

[BlueScorpio]

The fact if they are married or single?

[Avicenna]

Usually, yes. Or maybe she wants to hook a friend or relative of hers up with you.

[Weapon77]

Not necessarily. She might just be curious/nosy. Some women also love to fish around to find out if you are a virgin for some reason, and asking of you are single is one way to get to that info. Some girls just ask to screw with you 🤷‍♂️ But in most cases, it probably indicatea interest or that she has a friend she'd like to introduce you to

[Asker]

Why does she want to know if I’ma virgin?

[Weapon77]

Several possoble reasons. The most likely is that she is a whore who likes to take virgins' virginities. Be cautious

[ShellyB]

Sometimes but not necessarily, the main three reasons off the top of my head would be, first, she is interested, second, she is thinking about trying to fix you up with a friend, third, she is just making smalltalk or wondering about a social situation (for example a double date or if you would have a plus one at a party).

[hahahmm]

Maybe but it doesn't matter. You're better off having standards for the kind of woman you want (that go beyond looks) and rejecting ALL women who don't meet that standard, regardless of whether they beg you for attention or ask random questions or whatever. Check out some of my mytakes.

[TheorionMage]

Because SO MANY people we encounter hide their intentions behind deliberate ambiguity, she's asking for YOU to define IN WHAT CONTEXT, she should understand how you answer your (pl) discussions.
She's seeking to AVOID mis-communicationed intent of your replies...
No one values the dread "Oh, I didn't mean that you take it THAT way!" ;)

[dustybiker]

I’ve had elderly woman ask me if I’m single. They can’t imagine a woman who rides motorcycles as in a solid relationship with a family. lmao So, no. (And yes I know this isn’t what you mean, just couldn’t resist sharing and teasing)

[dustybiker]

She might be. Just ask the woman.

[Asker]

Ask her what?

[Vegasrunner]

Not necessarily be very careful w/ this. A lot of times women are saying that not to get info for themselves ɓut too get info for others. Word of advice never answer a question like that. If at all appropriate answer back with something like "why, are you asking me out? lol"

[Red-Blaze]

Depends on context
And they may be intrested or want to contact to someone else
As a responce I think can ask for there status and with there answer possible get a better idea

[Asker]

I have some context, I’ll paste it from another reply.

I was eating lunch during work break. She came into the room and sat down on the chair. She notices that i get nervous around her (i have a crush on her).

Conversation:
Her : “(my name), why do you get so nervous?(She has asked me that same question a few weeks ago)

Me : “I dont know”

Her : “you don’t know? Do you feel nervous around girls? Have you never talked to one? Dont you have a girlfriend?”

Me : “No”

Then the next day our company went to the club and she told me to come with her outside. It was me, her, and her girl friend. Me and the girl i like were talking normally and a bit later she pulled my arm and pulled me towards her and the wall behind us. We were really close physically, our waists were almost touching. Then she put her hand on my abdomen and just looked at me and stopped talking.

I got really nervous and leaned away, she noticed that and put her hand again on my abdomen and closed the gap. She just looked at me while i was looking at the ground. All of this happened while her girl friend was standing behind her. When she noticed what was happening she walked a bit away. Then someone else came and the girl who touched me backed off.

[Red-Blaze]

awww... ok.. so sounds like she is interested, or am I missing something? it sounds almost like she kind of where going to rape you? if you just talk nowmally and that happen
I am some what lost on the question here then

[Red-Blaze]

no may be miss reading, but the way you put it sounds like she basically grab you out of no where almost forcing you

[Asker]

I can shorten up what i wrote about the touching part.

She took me outside with her girl friend. Me and her were talking about normal stuff.

What happened then is that the girl who asked me if i have a girlfriend grabbed my arm and pulled me towards her so that we were very close to each other, about an inch or two of space. She then put her hand on my tummy.

When she did that i got really nervous and leaned away so her hand didn't touch me anymore. She noticed the gap and put her hand back on my tummy. While all of this happened she wasn't talking and just looked at me.

[Asker]

She didn’t really force anything, she just touched me. And regarding your first reply, my question would be why she touched me and if that was a sign that she likes me.

[Red-Blaze]

I think it is yes, sounds like it, even that is a pretty to the face way to show it, maybe a culture thing just really sound like invasion of personal space to me going a little too far
But ya sounds they they are intrested

[Asker]

Sorry wdym by “pretty to the face way”?

[Red-Blaze]

Very very direct

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I can easily drop the “are you single/do you have a girlfriend/wife?” question into a conversation despite being completely disinterested on the guy (or guys) I'm talking to. But, that's me. I can't speak on behalf of the other women.

[CrazyGirl2]

Yeah, I can see why so many guys can see it that way, but I’ve asked guys that because I thought he would be perfect for a friend of mine, so be careful you not just assume that it’s she who is interested. You really should ask her.

[Helllo123]

she could he interested or just curious about your love life and if you don’t know her well then that just means she might want to explore her options either to hook up or be friends with you.

[Knoxmandz19]

I would assume that she is interested in you and that she could be looking for a new partner OR she she looking for a guy to cheat on a current partner or husband with and have a affair with.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yes and no. She's probably curious just out of conversation, she may have someone she's trying to match you with, or she might like you.
Sometimes it's best to ask these days since people cheat too much

[PhenomenalQueen]

Yes I’d like to think so or maybe she has someone in mind for you?

[Asker]

There isn't really any other girl i know of.

[FilmGuy93]

Sometimes, but I wouldn't assume anything from that. I've had a number of situations when women ask me stuff like that as a social thing. They weren't romantically interested in me at all.

[SnowedIn]

In general, at a younger age, yes. At my age, I'm not sure it's interested as much as it is curious.

[ElovieMe]

She’s likely interested in you, or she’s trying to figure out if she is.

[Chill_Meta]

I concur

[Asker]

Any way to find out?

[ElovieMe]

Talk to her more, hang out with her, get a feel from other things said or actions. Or flat out ask directly or indirectly what her focus or intentions are in life right now. Learn more about her.

[mobiusforniner]

I like how guys comments are like "YES DUH" and girls comments are like "meh, not necessarily"

[mstbooblover]

Maybe she's interested when asking if I'm single, but probably not for what I'm wishing for...

[AsaKyo]

I'll answer from personal experience as being the girl asking those questions...


Yes, they are interested

[Asker]

So you ask guys you like that question? Is it hard to ask that? If i get asked a girl that it would be very gutsy from me.

[AsaKyo]

Yes, if I have some kind of interest in the guy, I will ask if he has a girlfriend or something, but I always feel kind of embarrassed after asking it lmao.. so I assume in the moment, I'm not really thinking about it, but afterwards, it hits me like a ton of bricks

[Asker]

Damn i see, pretty ballsy to ask someone that in my opinion.

[rachel776]

i get the impression guys think if we talk to them at all we are "interested"

[Charliefretz329]

Lol Yep

[whirled_up_girl]

Or she’s trying to set you up with one if her friends.

[shyonehere]

Means nothing really. She might be interested, but maybe just curious.

[Sasha0426]

Not always. Sometimes she’s just curious by making small talk. If she was interested, there would’ve been signs.

[Asker]

I don’t know if this counts as a sign but the next day after her asking me that question, our friend group was at the club and she started to put her hand on my abdomen and was very close to me while the 2 of us were standing outside. Like our waists were touching.

[loveslongnails]

Generally speaking, when a woman asks that it's because she's interested. Obviously it's not always the case, but in general. When a man asks a woman that, it could mean most anything! lol

[es20490446e]

Potentially interested. Not interested, but curious.

[Asker]

What would make a girl curious about me if she doesn't even know me?

[es20490446e]

That you are a man, and women are attracted to men just for being men.

[Asker]

I mean, there has to be something she liked about me or no? If she is interested that is

[es20490446e]

I see it the other way around: being liked is the default.

If someone is not liked it means they are doing something else for not being liked.

[Asker]

Yes but being killed isn’t always the same as having feelings for someone right? You cash like someone platonically

[Asker]

Can*

[es20490446e]

It's just a matter of time.

[Fireguy17]

I think that she is.

Would you be interested in her, if so see where it goes.

[Pudsmucker]

Yes she might be interested step forward and ask her out. Lot of women will ask if you're single you're not going to be cheating on them.

[Mangospacho]

Either she’s interested in you or she’s about to tell you something that may make you think twice about dating her.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily some women will do that just to make you think she's interested and she actually just baiting you. All she might be asking for someone else.

[Kinkyhubby]

Either she likes youn or she is thinking of a friend of a. Similar type of person as you.

[Cedman]

Yes and no. Sometimes women will ask for themselves other times they will try to fix you up with a friend. It really depends on the woman.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

No she just want to set you up with her single cute (fat) friend

[disgustingweebtrash]

Whenever anyone ever asks this usually there's interest

[In_Trance]

No but she does want to know what you're single or not

[OddBeMe]

Interested in the answer not necessarily dating. But it’s a good start. Don’t get revved up.

[MadKez]

Maybe or she has someone else in mind you could meet

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Potentially yes it all depends on context

[all_hayl]

We can’t read minds.

[Nikki1989]

That is usually what it means.

[goaded]

Maybe, but maybe for a friend of hers.

[JPresidente]

More than likely, yes.

[HaveNoName]

May be. And perhaps not for herself.

[Heolurt]

Nope it's a shit test.

[driven159]

yes she wants to get to know you

[Guardian45]

Depends. They may be asking for someone else.

[Chill_Meta]

Either that or she's asking for a friend

[LaineyLuiza]

Yes, definitely

[Faith18letsgo]

Definitely flirting

[melanieeeB]

Not necessarily

[lalaloveee]

Yes.

[slatyb]

It's highly likely.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Probably.

[Batz2u]

Yup!

[Anonymous]

Probably yes

[Anonymous]

Not really