If a girl asks why you're single, is this a sure sign she's interested?

[noneoftheabove]

Does that mean she's surprised that you're available? Is she just being nosey? What do people think?

i told her why i was single and she then went onto to talk about what she's like. I am all for a committed relationship after struggling with committment issues for years. I haven't liked a girl like this in years. I get nervous everytime i know im going to see her. I really can't remember the last time i felt like this and everytime i have felt like this it hasn't always worked out. Im hoping this is it... I dont even consider other girls even on a night out. Its like my heart is set on this girl. I just dont want to miss the chance if there is one.

So back to the question is that a sure sign of interest?

[btbc92]

It could be all things that you are asking. She could be surprised, or she could be wanting to know your busy. It simple depends on how genuine she feels towards your situation. I think you would know if she was being nosey if she laughed, chuckled or giggled at your answer. But if she hasn't done that, and she shows that she is. Why not? You can try. Just don't sell yourself short just because your only interest is her. Because if your heart isn't in the right place, it can fool you.

[noneoftheabove]

Its hard to describe her reaction to my answer but it came across as if she was possibly gutted about my response. she went onto say how she's loyal and wants to feel wanted. I just dont want to make a tit of myself. I've asked other people what they think. Most people think i should make a move but im not sure

[btbc92]

@Asker ANYBODY can say their loyal. But they need to prove it with action. But the 'wants to feel wanted.' Tells me she is just advertising herself. And if she feels like she needs to, it is just desperation for a boyfriend, and she could be miserable being alone. Which is not a good sign. Because then that means she is going to emotionally and mentally drain you just to keep her happy. That is not a healthy relationship. You get into a relationship because you are already happy and want to share and spend that happiness with another person, not drain them to the point they can't function anywhere else in their lives.

[noneoftheabove]

@btbc92 interesting thoughts. A couple of other girls have said that or something similar. She had been in a relationship for a few years up until a couple of months ago so that is a sign she's committed and loyal. I just dont want to end up with a psycho cause I've been there before if she is indeed interested and i make a move.

[btbc92]

@Asker Years of commitment doesn't compare to what was actually been done in the relationship during the times she was in it with whoever she was with. Either way, my judgement still stands. I still believe she is not happy on her own. You don't know how her ex was either. Both could be psycho, and still make it work. The point is, does this sound like somebody who want to take a chance with. Because only you can make that decision, as this is for you.

[noneoftheabove]

@btbc92 i can't work it out to be honest and im even more confused lol she did actually say she's been in a few long term relationships since she was a certain age. I want to know why her most recent relationship ended because i know he ended it. Im gonna have to do some digging. She is a genuinely a respectable girl whos trying to make her life better and whos going through college. i asked her if she was a player and she said no and we made a joke out of it. Im ready for a committed relationship now. I've been single 3 and a half years as I've been trying to sort myself out. The reason why i like this girl she is stunning but there's a connection there and she even said she thought this relationship was it for her in terms of getting married.

[noneoftheabove]

The recent one that ended*

[btbc92]

Understandable. But she has to let it go and not make the same mistakes she did in the past. That means stop dwelling on them. So she is interested in marriage? Well all I can say is that she has to know what it is that really wants, and make sure that you two are indeed on the same page. Now that you know that she was to be married, I believe her spending all those years before actually getting married is the problem. I say don't wait so long, or you'll lose interest of each other. Marriage is a major step, and it's not all about games.

[btbc92]

If it's been less then 3 months. I say it is way too early for her to get right back into one.

[noneoftheabove]

@btbc92 yeah thats always been my way of thinking - never go for a girl on the rebound. leave it a while. if she meets someone else in that time then its not meant to be. if that happens ill keep looking

[btbc92]

Sounds like a rebound waiting to happen. And it's smart that your thinking this now. Some people just rush right into it, and become disappointed when they see it wasn't what they wanted. Because they were too busy fooling around instead of asking critical questions.

[noneoftheabove]

i think she potentially liked me before her relationship ended. like she always wanted me around at this place we both go to. made a point of it if i was gonna be somewhere else. she's come on a bit stronger since the break up
im still 50/50 whether or not she does. i need it to be more obvious before i make my move and time needs to heal her fully.

[btbc92]

@Asker So apparently she already loss interest in her ex, before the break up. That's call fickle. At this point there is no right or wrong answers. But I say take your time. And make sure you don't feel rushed. If you do, that means this isn't right.

[noneoftheabove]

well i think she knew her relationship was over. i saw her one day a week or two before it ended and i asked if things were okay but she wouldn't tell. she just said she didn't sleep well cause she had stuff on her mind. i dont know what it is whether she sees me as a potential boyfriend or she's thinking something else. there's defo a connection between us and thats all i feel right now. I've only known her a few months. need to get to know her a bit more to be honest and we will see what happens. i dont have any of her contact details or social media yet

[btbc92]

@ Asker Even if she knew it was going to be over, It's not respectful to be doing that. He was still her fiancé. For all you know, the guys probably knew she was looking elsewhere so he ended it. And when he did, it stunned her so badly and she became really confused about what she really wants. She does see you as that, otherwise she wouldn't tell you all of her interest in you. I just think that she was desperate to get away from him. That is a rebound. She found hope in you as the one. Mind you, there is no such thing as the one. So whatever she is thinking in her head, you may just need to be prepared.

[noneoftheabove]

they werent actually engaged. they probably talked about it - sorry to get the wires crossed there. she just mentioned that she though he was it. she's made it pretty clear to me that she wants to get married one day. she was hurt by the fact he ended it but part of me thinks she knew it was coming or she wanted it to happen. she seems like she's over it already which i find a bit odd but lets see through time. nah i dont believe in the one either.

[btbc92]

@Asker Okay, no prob. Just be watchful for any signs if she is truly ready to commit in a relationship with you. That's all you can do. Hope things work out.

[noneoftheabove]

thanks for your advice. its spot on tbh

[SoAddicted]

No, it's not a 'sure' sign.

[noneoftheabove]

Thats why i asked this question. there's been other signs, like for example a moody looking face when im flirting with other women or having banter

[SoAddicted]

Those are signs of immaturity.

[noneoftheabove]

Fair enough

[Pacificblue62]

SoAddicted when you say signs of immaturity you are referring to the girl, correct?

[SoAddicted]

@Pacificblue62 Yes

[bcromartie]

Nosy