Do you fear other's opinions about you?

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AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Couldn't have picked a better example pic, Coach? Sheesh that guy's ugly. I almost had to walk away. Anyway...

I wouldn't exactly use the word "fear", but all right, I guess. I get the gist. And my answer is - only when I really like and respect them, I guess. Before that, or barring that, I don't care that much anymore. My opinion is honestly more important than theirs is; most people. I am a very harsh judge and critic of myself; usually the harshest. So my own voice is louder and more damaging than others' can be. Unless they are very dear to me.

I really like what @aaron210419 said (on another topic), in describing someone. "... He doesn't care what others think about him because he usually knows more about them than they know themselves, he's good at reading people and can sense your intentions. He's loyal and doesn't tolerate dishonesty, he'll fight someone to the death to protect those weaker than him but he knows in the back of his mind that no one would do the same for him." This has stuck with me. I'm glad there's a legit (well, semi-legit) reason to reference it today.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Nope. Others can have their opinion of me but my opinion of myself is what matters most🤷‍♀️

Nileviewboy · Accepted Answer

I dont fear it or resent it.

I actually like it when people lie about what kind of person i am. More often than not i will let them carry on for months lying about me. Then it just makes it so easy for me to destroy them. Someone can say im failure... i won't argue it, ill let it go. After 6 months someone else call me something, again i won't argue it, it just drains energy. Eventually enough is said that i can respond with something, and that i won't spend anywhere near as much energy destroying that person as i originally would have.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Great question, Coach! Most people, no. If there's someone who is a friend or someone whose opinion I value, then it isn't fear but a deep respect. And a sort of "oh crap" if that opinion falls short of where I wanted it to. I'm willing to own when I miss the mark and it's hard to miss the mark. But if someone just thinks I'm [fill in the blank] then, no, not concerned with that at all. They're welcome to their opinion.

Weapon77 · Answer

I used to, but I don't anymore. I think now what I deal with is the fear that others opinions about me will keep me from the things I want. Does that make sense? Like, why the fuck would I care if people don't like me because I'm balding? But I am worried that my hair loss will keeo girls I like from liking me back.

Price511 · Answer

I don’t fear other’s opinions, I fear other’s actions someone will take to affirm their opinion’s dominance. Whether by slander, libel, assault, harassment, or even murder, it is sometimes scary what lengths someone will go to if they ingrain their ideals to their core identity.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Hahahaha! Of course not. Even when i cared more for others’ opinions of me than i cared for my own opinion, i’m not sure “fear” is the appropriate term. At least not in hindsight. I did fear rejection for most of my youth. I suppose that’s akin to what you’re asking; not so much their opinion as the potential result of a negative one though.
I’m beyond that now. I know my worth. Nobody can take that from me.

jongreat46 · Answer

Usually no but if someone says something negative to my bosses and it isn't true then it turns into slander and that is something I don't tolerate because if I get fired or my hours cut because of slander against me then they will hear it from me and will give my honest opinion.

FreyaRed · Answer

No. I don't even care about opinions of people who don't know me. Skilled professional psychologist who asked me 200-400 specific personal questions could have an opinion about my personality but not a person who just has read few of my posts.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

No! I am extremely secure in who I am, and NO stranger online is going to make me feel bad about being who I am! No sir, next question please. This was a really good one.

Beatrix7 · Answer

no cause i know what iam and what am not and anyway awl get them back by telling opinions about them if they dont like it i would say ha see dont give what you can recieve mate

JosyJosy · Answer

I don't fear other's opinions. I just hope they're not rude about it, but since it's the internet, that is bound to happen at some point.
Some people don't hold back. I care about it when talking about people who I look up to.

TheVigilantOne · Answer

I used to, I wouldn’t say anything due to people thinking I was stupid, but as I’ve gotten older I don’t care anymore I just say it and if you don’t like it that’s your problem not mine, I wasn’t put on this earth to please people.

seni951 · Answer

absolutely not! i am who i am i can be a handful at times and i know it. but opinions are like buttholes everyone has one. you can't please everyone so it would be easier to just please yourself

ChiTown33 · Answer

Nope. As long as the villagers aren't chasing me with pitchforks and torches I could care less. My family, the people who I hold dear to me are the only people's who opinions really matter to me.

Red-Blaze · Answer

A little from everyone, but mostly from pepole I respect and/or admire then means a lot, even that my own self got the big veto

NathanDavis · Answer

no, I have no reasons to... nor afraid either to express mine, about things though... rather than them

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

LOL... They can think the absolute worse of me. I seriously don't give a damn.  Only people I care about what they think of me is my mom and the people responsible that I get my check to pay my bills.

mstbooblover · Answer

Honestly? No, I don't give a damn. Things were different when I was young, but now, really, I don't care at all.

Multi_personality · Answer

No. I have over come all those opinions that don't do anything for me.

Sour-rose · Answer

Nah. They'll probably die faster than me or never seen again... so fuk 'em.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Not particularly. Sometimes, I'm pleasantly surprised.

Tracker1958 · Answer

I'm old enough that I don't care about anyone opinions, not even my wife's opinion. The world can kiss my a$$.

Ninania · Answer

Usually no, but if they choose to weaponize their hostility, they could do some social damage that would affect me negatively.

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