Is Rip Wheeler the perfect man ladies?

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Anonymous

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It's funny it wasn't till the 3rd season that I even recognized that that was Cole Hauser. I'm used to seeing his red hair.

But, NO! I don't think RIP is the perfect man. I think he's the perfect man for Beth though. They both have had traumatic lives. And let's be honest, in real life one or both would be in prison.🤣 But it's a show. In real life you can't "take someone to the train station" everytime all else fails. And that valley would start getting pretty full of bodies after a while.

I reject this notion of yours coach that you have to be a "macho" man to be a perfect man. But what I do like about Rip's character is he's a solid guy, a man of his word, solid in his beliefs. He's not always right but he's more right than he is wrong. I still haven't decided what I think of John Dutton (even after 4 seasons). It may be Montana, they may do it a little different than L. A. or NYC as they like to drive home that message to every newcomer. But this ain't the wild west either. And I feel like John Dutton has been just as bad of an influence on RIP as he has good. I mean a REAL man is loyal. But as John Dutton put it so eloquently to Beth when she said "he thinks of you as a father". John replied, "But, I'm not his father". He asked RIP to risk his life playing decoy so he could rescue his grandson. What I'm saying is a father would not ask that of his son.

coachTanthony

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I have never said you need to be macho... You do need to lead and like you said be a solid guy, man of his word, etc. But also like Dr. Petersen has said you don't need to be a dangerous violent man but must be capable of it as a man. Rip isn't macho... costner's character calls him a teddy bear but he is violent if he needs to be to protect the ones he loves.
Opinion Owner

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You're right the show doesn't project a macho attitude at all.🤣
Sorry coach we're not going to agree on this. To me this doesn't even need to be talked about. Because this is common sense stuff. For one thing "lead" is a matter of perception. A MAN never has to ask if he's man. A man just IS. We can agree on some of the finer points that many guys today have forgotten that power. I'll always say that a woman cannot take this from a guy, he can only surrender it. But women are more aggressive today. Some simply are not worthy of a man. I think it's preposterous this "man always has to lead" nonsense. Guys are not always right. Again this is macho b. s. mentality. I think a better way to put it is a MAN should NEVER be afraid to lead. he should always be prepared to take the reigns in every situation.
I don't think we're far apart on our definitions here. But I reject this notion that a guy has to beat his chest.
coachTanthony

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I think what you are doing is splitting hairs. Example. I think a man needs to lead you think a man should never be afraid to lead. Not sure where we disconnect because I agree. Nobody is always right.. leading isn't about being right but being sure of your direction in life. Here is what I think you are saying and you won't like this. ... I want to be a man who leads but sometimes allows her too because I am afraid I won't make the right decision. Sorry man... if men lead they lead they don't doubt themselves or hand it over to the woman to make the decision. Agree to disagree but I appreciate the comments.
Opinion Owner

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I'm not splitting anything. As I've told you many times I'm not buying what you are selling. It's amusing to me your insistence on this "lead" thing. Because it's something you feel needs to be brought up in your sales pitch. I'm simply saying a man doesn't even need concern himself with that, because it's automatic. Also you "think I know what you are saying" couldn't be anymore off the mark. I think caught up in your sales pitches you try to hard getting guys to "prove" they are a man. As I said, in being a man, leading is automatic so to speak.🤣 I think rather than selling men some silly idea of control you should approach this in a healthier way and tell them the power they inherently possess. As always your posts entertain coach.
coachTanthony

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What am I selling? Be a grown up and debate human to human. I am not selling anything nor do I accuse of you of selling anything either.
Opinion Owner

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I am debating. Little hint, you've already lost. 🙂
coachTanthony

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I lost. awesome. Thanks for the comments.