When you or when you were dating, what are Your own personal Dating Red Flags?

[humanearth]

Here is one of mine if I was still dating

I am a crossdresser and been crossdressing since the 1980s. Many women can't handle the concept of being with a crossdresser and that is their biggest red flag

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+1 y

Okay people maybe I worded the question wrong.
WHAT IS YOUR PERSONAL RED FLAG FOR YOURSELF?

NOT THE RED FLAGS YOU HAVE FOR THEM, BUT RED FLAGS THEY HAVE FOR YOU

I EVEN GAVE EXAMPLE OF MY OWN RED FLAG AS OTHERS WOULD SEE IT

I THOUGHT I WAS VERY CLEAR ON THIS

MAYBE NO ONE TOOK THE TIME TO FULLY READ EVERYTHING

[VIVANT]

If he can’t ask or answer questions, I’m out. Been there it’s not ‘cute or intriguing’ it’s just irritating and hard to trust anything by the time it does comes out bc the initial reticence makes it seem calculating. I just hate bullshit with a passion so I have a really low tolerance for veiled communication.

[exitseven]

Yes, I hate that too.

[VIVANT]

Ok to flip it around I guess it’s pretty much the same. I am very inquisitive & have very low tolerance for bs. This combo is off putting to people esp the ones who think they are direct.

Lots of guys think they ‘hate drama’ and are easily able to live that illusion — until they are dealing with someone who actually hates drama. Many people don’t realize games they think ‘other people’ are playing can only be played with two players… and they will resent anyone who holds up that mirror.

So in short, if he gets annoyed by being questioned —without mal intent— and or plays dodge ball with his answers, I’m out.

Do the red flag in me would be in direct. I’m not in kind but I don’t massage egos and I expect people to be what they claim to be.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't drive which means 98% of guys who don't know me will reject me if they do not know anything else about me. But I plan on earning enough to buy hired rides to places.

[NathanDavis]

how am I a red flag? lmao...

hmmmmmm

well, there's a HUGE ONE that insecure people do not like at all, yes I am FRIENDS with my ex... so if you're insecure and can't trust me with that, then I will be the most gigantic red flag, actually a red giant star at that

[snackthatsmilesback]

Violence, insecurity, and family issues. No wants the drama lol. That's prolly why I only ever dated other people with the same shit. To anyone else must been lotta red flags

[VIVANT]

😊 Hey you know what? the drama is really from being dodgy with your partner. It’s not automatically “drama” just bc you dealt with dark stuff. If you’re not jerking someone, it’s not drama, in my opinion, it’s just real life and life for a lot of us isn’t pretty rainbows and lollipops.

[Msputiton]

I get bored easily with someone I'm dating. I really don't like being in a relationship

I prefer to be with my friends more than the person I'm dating.

I'm not at all romantic.

I prefer to play basketball over going on a romantic date.

[VIVANT]

I think playing basketball on a date is very romantic ☺️

[TrueConfection]

I'm not dating, but I still have red flags. I can see it on their face.

1. I'm married.

2. I am a Christian and I wear a cross.

3. I have kids.

I got hit on in the grocery store today (why the grocery store, I don't know). I never even had a chance to talk. The guy saw my necklace and practically sprinted. He barely finished his last sentence.

[exitseven]

Maybe he was a vampire.

[TrueConfection]

@exitseven Maybe! He literally backed away. 😂

[exitseven]

You should have checked his reflection

[TrueConfection]

@exitseven Right! I could have moved in closer as he was getting away.

[Surely]

Probably because I am too independent for most people.

[Pete671]

Women totally freak when I tell them I have Asperger Syndrome, great way to break up with a girl that I no longer want to be with, too much of a coward to break up with them any other way,,,

[Likes2drive]

I guess if they were married a few times or were in prison

[humanearth]

You been to prison and that's your red flag.

How did you get your amateur radio license with a prison sentence

[exitseven]

You can vote for president but you can't get a ham radio license if you have been in the big house?

[Likes2drive]

Not me, I guess you mean my red flags , I had it wrong, meant their red flags

[humanearth]

@exitseven yes, A felon can't hold any FCC license

[Likes2drive]

I can’t think of any red flags for myself unless being too nice is one

[Likes2drive]

That’s news to me too, I don’t think you can get a hazmat endorsement either to drive a truck with that if you’re a felon, and I have the endorsement but I didn’t read the question properly apparently

[Likes2drive]

Maybe you need to clarify it more in the update , it’s easily mistaken as the date having red flags and not our own as being red flags to them

[humanearth]

Well that's what I tried to do

[Likes2drive]

Yeah I see you cleared it up, it was easy to confuse, same thing happens to me with text since you can’t always convey it how you meant it unless you’re speaking to someone

[exitseven]

If she was crazy that would be alarming.