What are your red flags while on a date?

[LemiaOfThunder]

Bad Manners

Rudeness (Like Farting and Burping)

Checking Phone

Being Ignored

Other

[FunkyMonkee]

I took a girl out on a date about 9 years ago and we went out for a pizza. Not just some run-down dive, this is high-end pizza!! This one shop has been in business on the exact same spot since the `50's!! People in California order 20 or 30 pizzas at a time and have them flown via FedEx all the way across the country!! Their small is almost as big as anybody else's large!!
So, she and I are sitting at one of the many tables there eating our pizza, talking and having a fairly nice time together. She's sitting directly across the table from me and in the middle of the meal, she lets out this fairly loud burp!! Except for this old Italian lady that used to live next door in the mid `70's, I've never heard a woman burp before!! A few minutes later, she took another bite and there was this 6 or 8 inch long strand of onion hanging out of the side of her mouth!! Rather than try to bite it off, pull it out or suck it in, she left it waving in the breeze as she continued to talk! What's she gonna do next, start biting her toenails? Scratching her asshole and smelling it her fingers?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Checking phone / texting to friends

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :) :-)

[Anemone978]

Being ignored bothers me the most.. I wouldn't see them again if that happened anytime in the date.. but they are all read flags I wouldn't want to see..
This is why I will never date again even if I divorce, I hate people, I rather be a cat lady..

[Pinay_ako]

Attitude towards the server and phone etiquette

[2willi]

thats a good one too , attitude towards server is awful

[Pinay_ako]

@2willi yes, if they’re straight up rude, that’s my cue to not ever see them again. I will not tolerate shit like that. In fact, I’ll pay for my own bill and tell them the date is over.

[Pinay_ako]

Thanks for the MHO

[razelove]

Checking phone and being ignored. I mean, the only point of going on a date is to get to know each other. The other ones can come up, be not so great, acceptable, unacceptable, whatever, but it's still part of getting to know each other.

If I'm taking my time to get to know them, or even with someone I'm with, or have been with go out on a date to spend time together and they're texting and tuning me out, that shit isn't flying.

That's when they can pay, and I can walk.

[Avicenna]

All of the above. Listening poorly, being disinterested and self-centered.

[Paris13]

Other Like: All of the Above PLus Telling you They Love you. xxoo

[AviatorTom]

Bring ignored is bad, in particular if she pays more attention to other guys than to me.

[kespethdude]

I'll sum up each of the options:
1. Bad Manners: This is subjective, and one who insists on good manners is likely to be a control freak anyway. That type of relationship is toxic when one can't be themselves so I didn't pick that one.
2. Rudeness (like farting or burping): Only a prude on an incel would be immature enough to pick this option.
3. Checking phone: Depends on how often. If to see what time it is, or if the individual is known to be on the clock or on call, it is expected. If the person is checking the time because they are bored, it's not working out. But this isn't the one I chose either.
4. Being ignored: This is the one I chose. If someone is not listening to you, and this includes ghosting (without good reason), cherry picking and other toxic things narcissists do, you're not in a relationship in the first place. Only choice here is to move on.

[loveslongnails]

Pretty much all of the above, except that burping can done, if necessary, without it being gross. There ARE acceptable reasons for leaving a phone on during a date:
* if you're on call, i. e. doctor, nurse, health care worker, EMT, or your job requires it
(if any of these are the case the case, the person you're dating should know in advance)
* if you're a single parent and there's a sitter, and an emergency arises
* if you're a caregiver for a elder parent

If these don't apply and your phone is on, it's a back door for a rescue call and it's bullshit.

[marrk]

I hate it when someone checks their phone unless they tell me they have a good reason. I’m a millennial! It makes me feel unimportant.

i also went on a date one time and this guy coughed to his right…I think he was attempting to cough into his shoulder, but couldn’t. So, bad hygiene/manners…whatever you want to call that. I work with kids and if they have better manners than you…thank you, next.

[Reem12345reem]

I don't think farting/burping is rude , it's literally a reflex action u can't control unless u feel it before it comes but most people are distracted while talking or doing something else they can't know when they'll burp :) just don't be close to me when u do it

[Andres77]

Being late, caked on makeup, dressed inappropriately, rude to the servers, complains about everything, on her phone constantly…. granted, I never would have waited so long. If she was doing all of these I would have left as soon as she was rude the first time.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Too people today have horrible manners

I just get frustrated with people who have awful communication skills in general

do you realize how much of life’s problems would be solved if we took the time to learn how to talk to people and treat people with basic human decency

Make eye contact and acknowledge people, ask them how they are doing , practice introducing yourself instead of just asking people for their names

[Johnny4473]

Attitude towards the servers and pretty much anyone who is serving you as part of their jobs. That means security guards, shopkeepers.

I might sound like a hobo, but love and kindness is the key to life mates. And why be rude to someone without a reason.

[mandyfire98]

All of these. Bad hygiene. Bad presentation of themselves, so being a slob. Being narcissistic, anything misogynistic. Messing with their phone too much.

[strateguy632]

other, because none of these are IMPORTANT instead get used to EACH of them. instead insults are red flag and name calling, including racist and phobe-s show they do personal attack. say bye bye then straight away.

[rosemilk]

i'm sorry but i canNOT stand when people burp. it's the most disgusting, rudest, disrespectful thing you can do around a date.

as for the being ignored, checking phone, which are both bad manners, just end the date there.

[NathanDavis]

being rude with the staff...

BIG NO

[CuriousMufuxka]

Checking the goddamn phone! That counts as ignoring, bad manners, and completely rude. If I had the power and ability to resurrect Steve Jobs in the late 90's I'd show the aftermath of some bitch distracted. Which I'd probably be escorted out and time would not be affected..

[catiecatie]

I mean most of these are red flags. Now if it was like hey I’m expecting some news from my family so I need to have my phone on then I’d understand. But not saying anything and being mean and no manners and shit like that I draw the line.

[CubsterShura]

Honestly, all of the above.

The way he treats the servers, the way he treats me, how much he uses his phone. They all matter so much.

[Yannishka]

If he is still thinking about his crush who moved countries, but that guy is still torn thinking about her. Based on a question I answered here earlier.

[thatshydork]

I hate people being rude (both to me and to others around me) and being ignored. Checking your phone is fine just as long as it’s not like every few minutes.