I always end up disinterested in to guys I talk to online/through dating apps but I don’t meet any guys in person. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I go on dating apps i could meet the most attractive guy ever with the bet personality and hate him after a few days of talking. On the other hand a guy in person can say like 3 words to me and I’m head over heels.

Problem is I get tons of guys online who are interested and my type but none in real life!

[Guy13]

I would text and email less and meet more. I have a 3 day rule. I do not want to know too much about you. It is the equivalent of the people who S O and move in togetehr. They quickly discover the negatives about another and go "not this one". Not realizing that the same thing will happen with the next partner that you move-in with...

That's you... learning too much via a false paradigm of communication such as SM, text, email, DM etc. It is the wrong way to decide or gauge another. Meet in person and if you need practice or an idea or a safe place then www.meetup.com.

I have done a Meets at one of these events... It worked very well as the vibe of the person presents on its own IMMEDIATELY !!! Try it !

[kylee2437]

It’s probably because you spend so much time online instead of experiencing real life situations that can potentially get you to meet a guy that you are attracted to. Most overly attractive men on social media are piles of shit

[Asker]

I mean I’m in college and go out a lot but, I never seem to get in any situations where I’m even talking to guys at all. Like I could go to party and only talk to girls all night even if it’s full of men.

[kylee2437]

@asker that’s because most guys in college aren’t ready to settle down, especially ones that consistently go to parties lol when I mean actual real life situations, I don’t mean parties.

[kylee2437]

I don’t mean college parties*

[Asker]

I mean I go to classes, coffee shops, museums, real life stuff. Stuff barely interact with guys and the definetly don’t show interest aside from the playboys talk to everyone and the friendly one's

[Asker]

the friendly ones aren’t showing interest they’re just being nice *

[kylee2437]

@asker well maybe try going for someone online that you wouldn’t initially go for. He doesn’t have to be ugly, but I think sometimes dating requires you to go out of your comfort zone in certain aspects. I’m planning to go on a date on Saturday with a man that has long hair and I never thought I’d do that. As superficial as it sounds, he seems like an overall nice guy, who knows where it will go

[Anonymous]

The amount of success stories with online dating vs bullshit outcomes is massively different! For majority of my 20s I was the sort of girl who had VIP club access on the weekends and went out to the bar a few nights a week, and somehow never had success meeting men in person. But when I’d re-activate a dating profile or make a new one I’d be flooded with potential matches and every single one fell through. I think that was a result of men being so insincere online. They say what needs to be said to give themselves a shot with you then start showing their true nature, which will usually be something you don’t like. Online dating can work for some but in general it’s such a scam. I met my current boyfriend in person!