Is it normal for my boyfriend to ignore my texts for a day because he’s mad?

[Anonymous]

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it's been two days now

[Summeroflove]

Not really. Depends on the situation. If he asked for space and your texts aren’t urgent. You’re not respecting his boundaries and letting him have time to cool down.


If you’re sending him something important or he won’t use his words. He has a proble. Also don’t know why he’s mad

[Sasquatch258]

Depends on a lot of context. Is he normally super-responsive, average, or slow/ flaky over text? When he's mad does he say or do mean things? Is he putting distance between you because he wants to be in a better headspace before he engages with you? Or is he doing it to punish you? Is he mad because you did something clearly and unambiguously wrong per your relationship? Or is there blame to go around? Or is he being a jerk over something minor?

With current info it could go either way. If he's punishing you, if he is mean when he's angry, if his anger is confusing to you, or if he tries to invalidate your feelings (eg "stop over-reacting!" or "why are you so crazy sometimes?"), those are big red flags.

If he is someone who has strong emotions and he's doing this because he wants to be able to manage them appropriately before engaging, that's probably good on his part.

Really need more info to evaluate.

[Asker]

Yeah usually he replies really fast or normal but on weekends he will be slower. When he’s jealous he says mean things. I don’t know why he’s mad for so long. It’s not even that big of a deal. He’s been really critical of me. The last time I saw him I accused him of cheating through text because his texting style changed like he would extend certain words. And he said he’s at families but didn’t text me. Then I was late meeting, he hates it. And then he asked about my ex so I told him.

[Labokachulaa]

It depends on how his personality is, that could be normal for him. Just give him time to cool off, don't double text him or start overthinking. That's one of the ways to lose him. My current partner told me that in the very beginning of our relationship. He always told me that when a guy gets upset, give them their space.

So, give it time, in the meantime just start focusing on yourself. Don't seek anymore answers because there's a lot of trolls on here and they will say things just to be douchebags.

[Asker]

Today is the second day 😭

[Labokachulaa]

Give him another day, if by then you don't hear back from him. I would say just keep it moving. You don't have to start dating again, but start doing your own thing. That way, he won't feel smothered.

[Asker]

I’m so sad

[Asker]

He seemed so in love with me and did a 180

[Labokachulaa]

Don't be sad. Message me and I'll try to give you more advice.

[Asker]

Okay thank you so much

[Labokachulaa]

You're welcome 🤗

[Sasquatch258]

I'm sorry to hear you're so sad. It sounds like he may have issues.

Try imagining that you've already broken up, imagine your life having moved-on, without all the stress. Lean in to the notion that you may be sad right now, but whatever happens, you will be ok!

You owe it to yourself to not wallow in dread for the rest of the weekend. Do things you enjoy and demand your attention, tell yourself that it's already over, maybe look at a dating sight or two, just to remind yourself that he's not the only man on earth.

You may end up just fine as a couple, but in times like this it's easy to forget that you'll be just fine if you break up, too. The quickest way to feel relief is to mentally imagine that it's already over, and then observe yourself being just fine on the other side of it.

[Clairebear799]

That’s definitely not normal. Though if he asked you to give him some time to calm down and you keep bothering him the problems with you as long as it’s not something important.


Many times it’s not just one or the other who has the problem you know. Many times it’s both. It also depends. Why is he angry? Did he ask you to leave him be and you keep spamming him with non urgent texts?


If it’s something important it’s a problem or if he won’t communicate it’s a problem.

[Asker]

No, he didn't tell me to leave him alone, he just disappeared. Also, prior to him getting mad, he said he wanted me to text him more, but from the last message I asked him a question and he ignored it. So it kinda contradicted what he said that I should text him more. He always tell me to text him more

[Clairebear799]

Yeah that’s not right

[BlueScorpio]

Usually it means the person needs to cool off for a bit. I would give it 3 days, if doesn't text by then then call him. If he doesn’t answer by the 4th or 5th tell him you consider this a silent breakup and you'll be moving on.

[Mewzinc]

She should call him 4 or 5 times?

[BlueScorpio]

@Mewzinc No, call him at least once or twice throughout the day. If it goes to voice-mail then leave one message. Do not go overboard with it cause then it will make him think it was the right thing to do in stop talking to you. Honestly if ine argument is enough to make him run away from the relationship, then he's not someone you really need in your life.

[Guy13]

No, that is not normal... unless he is really hot and does not want to say something he can not take back. I've been there...

[Asker]

It’s been a day now and I don’t know if he will reply today…

[Asker]

What should I do

[Asker]

Our relationship has already been rocky 😭

[Guy13]

You bother him and 👻👻

[Asker]

What do u mean

[Sasha0426]

@Guy13 Wait, you’ve been in the same situation with a guy?

[Guy13]

He will get back to you when ready. Text him double text him overrthink him into Crazy and he is gone... except when he wants to get laid..

[Asker]

I only texted his twice and that was it

[Guy13]

Well, i have exhausted all I know. Maybe it is one of those things. I have been in a "can't believe I did that" relationship. Maybe this is yours. You know, I don't know...

[Friendlybro79]

If someone is mad it is normal not to reply to someone they're not married to. It's frustrating but normal to understand. Unless they're mad at something unjustified.

[Friendlybro79]

For one day for sure.

[Bethany22]

Yes, but anything more than a day is not normal

[blackgaletiger]

Its normal. He needs bis space and needs time to air out his emotions. Some guys are not quick and open when it comes to emotions so a day is relatively reasonable depending on their nature. However, too much time is no good either because it becomes awkward and its tough to get the conversation going again

[Asker]

It’s been two days now lol fml

[kaylaS91]

No.
I mean.. how often does he do this? Does he do this exclusively after fights with you or any source of frustration? How’s your guys’ communication/transparency in general?


Either way, sounds like he has a ways to go in terms of understanding and actually dealing with emotions versus just bottling them up and hiding from people till he gets a better handle on himself/his emotions.

[Asker]

He did it a couple of time but those times he wasn't mad at me and would mostly start the convo. No he never did this after a fight. He says good morning and we texted almost everyday. Yeah sometimes i have to ask to get him to talk. And this time I can't even ask because I asked him a question and he never replied it.

[lalaloveee]

I'm sure that softy looks like this right now.

Say hi to your boyfriend

[Asker]

So he’s fucking other girls?

[Katyalov]

That’s not cool! That sounds manipulative. I can understand if he just needed to cool down for a couple hours before he talks to you again but two days is too long! He’s giving you the silent treatment and that’s not okay. Has he done this before? How long have you been dating him?

[Asker]

yeah he has done this before but usually he will be the one to talk to me again, and he's never done that when he's mad. We've been dating for like 2 months

[Katyalov]

I would consider that as a red flag. You’ve only been dating him for two months and his toxic traits are already coming out. Also sounds like he might be emotionally unavailable kind of guy, yikes. Be careful and be wise. Remember that true love is unconditional, it’s not manipulative.

[AdithyaR]

Depends on how he deals with it.
I have been that angry with friends before that I've not spoken for a day or more.
But I also do let them know that I am upset and need time to cool down before I can discuss. But this generally only happens for really bad fights.
If it's a very common thing then that's unhealthy.

[Asker]

Would you do that to your girlfriend?

[AdithyaR]

If i had a girlfriend, I'd communicate that I want space. I wouldn't directly go silent. I'd tell her rn I'm not in the mood to talk and ask for some space while I calm down. Then once I'm feeling cooler I'll contact her to talk about the situation and resolve it.

[Asker]

He didn’t tell me he just didn’t reply to my messages but it says read….

[AdithyaR]

Yep that's definitely immature. If it's for an hour or two it can be understandable as emotions can sometimes get the better of us. But entire days without any communication is immature.

[Asker]

Yeah i'm really worried now. I've never met a guy that into me, that nice and cute

[AdithyaR]

You may feel that now but do you really want to spend your life with someone who's gonna play hot and cold all the time?
Besides, you will meet someone else, perhaps someone better.

[Asker]

Yeah true, he told me he was really jealous person. But yeah honestly i feel rejected

[AdithyaR]

Jealous huh? Reminds me of friends boyfriend, he blocked her for two day cause she didn't text him back for a couple hours, while she was literally in college working on a project.
If I'm understanding that your boyfriend is the same kind, sis run.

[Friendlybro79]

If he's not replying back to you then I'd stop sending messages. Let him get back to you when he's ready. You're not married so if you don't like how long it takes him to get back then you can decide for yourself if the relationship is worth being in. I'd also take into consideration why he's mad and if it's a good reason or not. Whatever you do don't power text or call. It's his turn to reply.

[CelticSunshine]

Yes. Just go and have a day to yourself and leave him alone. It might take a few days even for him to reach out to you but he will. Then when he does do not be super quick to answer.

[Asker]

Yeah usually I do that he did it like twice.

[Fireguy17]

is he also holding his breath too?
That seems pretty immature.
Talk it out, otherwise he will find himself single and wondering what he did to deserve that.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

It’s normal so just give him a little time to cool off & see where things go from there. On the other hand text him you want to give him a blowjob & see if he responds to that.

[tenor55]

Not normal, but childish. I’d stop texting him. It only encourages childish behavior.

[all_hayl]

Sounds like your boyfriend is literally a BOYfriend.

[dustybiker]

Some people require space to heal. If you pester them you push them farther away. If you give them space you earn their trust and a bit of respect back.

[Spiritofn]

Seeking attention…. Unless you like really fuxking made him mad but usually people who are in a very committed stage are very forgiving.

[Asker]

Yeah, I know I am very forgiving towards him

[sheikalana]

It's a very passive-aggressive behavior and it's not okay. Even when I'm mad I'll let them know I'm mad and will get back to them after some time.

[CA4444]

If he’s really mad then this may be a way to ‘deal’ with the situation

[FilmGuy93]

Probably not. Every person and relationship is different though. So I would want to be careful about making a overly broad statements

[Kori1236]

No. He sounds like an immature child. Communicating is adult, ignoring is childish

[bbsbbsnsnskskd]

It can be normal because when me and my partner argue I ignore him purely because I want space and time on my own.

[CoolCatMar1]

It's not normal in my opinion. He must be super mad or he is just trying to ghost you

[Asker]

Yeah I agree, he's been very critical lately too, but he also said he wanted me to text more.

[Juxtapose]

Don't tolerate this! I had a girlfriend who used this tactic to manipulate me and a year later it still hurts. If he wanted to resolve the issue then he would talk to you.

[SlavicThor]

It's normal but not very communicative... Give him time and space for a few days before reaching out he may reach out first.

what did you say/do?

[iamnash]

No that’s not normal If he doesn’t text you by tomorrow I wouldn’t Ben worry about him because There are so many other things you can do than worry about him

[Sisters_Of_Time]

It must have been a real huge fight ya but it's not good to ignore texts. You should fix as fast as possible!

[OddBeMe]

Yeah that’s common. But how do you know he’s mad?


I sometimes ignore my wife just because. Bitch.

[Asker]

Cuz he made pissed off emoji and said whatever

[OddBeMe]

He’s a pussy. But sometimes we need space.

[ZenJen444]

He can do as he pleases he doesn't owe you anything. He doesn't like you

[Asker]

You think he doesn’t?

[ZenJen444]

Obviously, he doesn't care if he loses you.

[Asker]

😭 that hurts me so much

[ZenJen444]

Well I don't know why.

[Brando10222]

Looks like a big issue if he's that mad about something

[loveslongnails]

It is if he's an immature, pouty little baby.

[Matrix3003]

Maybe he feels a bit of madness about the lot of emotions he is experiencing

[christinerose28]

Yes it is normal if he's mad. He may want some space

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well it depends on what you argue or fought about and how much that ment to him

[BLP11520]

yep, he may be sending you a message by ignoring you.

[trina_x]

i think thats relaly bad

[In_Trance]

You tell us; how often does it happen

[Asker]

it did happen a couple of times, but he initiates 90% of the time and messaged me almost everyday

[Asker]

Usually he doesn’t ignore me when he’s mad

[Anonymous]

No, it's immature.

[Anonymous]

yes, if you're dating an immature boy lol

[Teriyaki70]

Yeah if he's immature

[tweety487]

For a day it’s cool but not for so long though.

[jshm2]

Sure

[Noahzaid]

Very normal.

[doubledutch234]

Do you like me