Why do boyfriends DM other girls complimenting how pretty they are?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend of 7 years has done this from 2015-2019 and i always asked him why and he always gives me different answers.

[FilmGuy93]

We find the women physically attractive; that’s all it is. Men know that women need need a lot more than a pretty face to be a romantic option, so we don’t think about it.

[Asker]

but why tell said girl when he has a girlfriend?

[FilmGuy93]

Because it's not serious and he wants to give her a compliment. Guys don't run around wanting to sleep with everyone they see.

[LazerBean]

Because he is a crappy boyfriend.

[Asker]

trust me, i know he is. i haven’t been happy in such a long time. i was looking at pictures 7 years ago and i looked so much happier. i look at pictures now and my eyes don’t seem happy. i look at pictures of us and he doesn’t even smile

[LazerBean]

So why are you with him? At this point you're the one at fault for your own unhappiness.

[Noahzaid]

Does he still compliment you?

[Asker]

not much, but very little

[Noahzaid]

Then you should over think this relationship and tell him what you think

[Asker]

oh i have. he stopped doing it supposedly but i can’t stop thinking about it so it makes our lives miserable. but why do guys compliment other girls for?

[Noahzaid]

Because they find them attractive but once a person is in a relationship they should tame themselves and be committed

[Asker]

he did this while we were in a relationship

[Noahzaid]

I know, this happens specially in long relationships that have their spark fade.

There must be something lost along those years

[Asker]

well when i asked him why he did it, he said he was stupid and dumb and didn’t really know if he wanted to be with me or not. then all of a sudden he knew i was a great person and “stopped”

[Noahzaid]

This guy has issues, the rest is up to you to decide

[Asker]

yes i agree. him and his family all are grateful for me because i changed who he was. according to him, he was a eff boy, never really had a serious relationship or anything and i came along and changed the way he was as a person. obviously not right away, it took him a few more years but yeah

[Noahzaid]

Its not your job to change a person, you should always find a person equal to you mentally

[Asker]

he changed on his own. i didn’t ask him or force him or anything. it was his time to grow up anyway. we did have a couple of things similar, but things between us have been going down hill fast. we barely talk to each other without arguing. all i can think about his the crappy things he has done to me. like my wounds are greater than our good times. i know it’s horrible, but i can’t stop thinking about it.

[Noahzaid]

This means your holding a lot of negative emotions towards him but you always hide it and never talk about it.
I think it’s the time for you to talk to him about everything

[Asker]

we have talked about it. we both have cried about it and we spent hours talking about it. he has apologized for being a crappy person at the beginning but he’s not the same person. those are sweet words, but i can’t help but still think about the wounds he left me.

[Anonymous]

Because they can.

[Anonymous]

He bored from you