Girls, Can you pair bond or has your brain been fried from casual boyfriends?

[Anonymous]

Im fried

I can pairbond

[Anonymous]

No I can’t. It wasn’t from casual dating thougj. I’m completely broken from my first ever boyfriend who cheated on me and abused me emotionally. This was years ago and I’ve not gotten better and honestly I have zero interest in men and dating. I can’t even commit myself to talk to a guy like that. I feel nothing but disgust for men I don’t know and even just people in general that I don’t know and have a very cynical view of dating and relationships. Unfortunately it’s not irrational either. Most relationships end and/or suck. So not worth it.

[Asker]

They end because of people with attitudes like yours. People are like that because their parents didn't tell them that fun comes at a severe cost. Or they did, but their parents were just unrespectable, brainwashed religious freaks

[LazerBean]

Can you? The answer is no, but I'm just curious how honest and non hypocritical you are.

[Agape93]

Guys, can you insult women openly or have you lost the spine?

@PrettyPriya I miss when people like him actually had a backbone

[Asker]

This is a legitimate poll

[Agape93]

One who's premise is flawed and worthless. So no, it is not legitimate.

[PrettyPriya]

I don't even get the question...

[Asker]

@PrettyPriya the question is if you can pair bond with a mate or not.

[Agape93]

He's basically asking if we can be monogamous or are we too whore like due to casual dating

[Asker]

Thats not the question. Even nornal ladies can't pair bond after a number of boyfriends.

[Agape93]

Thats what you meant though. Don't play

[Asker]

No i didn't. I clearly said boyfriends not hookups or friends with benefits. You know even Taylor Swift has a song out, its like 14 minutes long or something insane, the subject of the song is how she lost her ability to care about her mate due to a prior romance.

[Agape93]

I know what you're implying, don't play games with me.

[Asker]

And she's just using marketing to grow her popularity. Maybe its true of her or maybe it isn't, but the fact is her fans. Billions of them, seem to be able to relate.

[Asker]

Obviously a girl who sleeps around doesn't care. What isn't so obvious is the innocent girl who bounces around from relationship to relationship is just as damaged. The damage depends on how deep the relationship went

[PrettyPriya]

I have had three boyfriends, including my current fiancé that I marry in 11 days if that answers the question.

[Asker]

@PrettyPriya so you had 2. I can't speak on if you're damaged or not. But if you truly love your husband then i suppose your prior romances werent too intense

[Agape93]

What makes you say they dont care? Where are you getting this premise?

[Asker]

Im making elementary observations

[Agape93]

You don't get to say how intense someone's prior relationships were when you have 0 idea. Stay in your lane.

[Agape93]

No, you're pulling things out your ass.

[Asker]

I dont want to pull up the studies. But the facts are the facts. Casual boyfriends you have for mere fun pretty much destroy any opportunity of a genuine commitment. And any shot of kids growing up with 2 parents.

[PrettyPriya]

1. He is not my husband yet. I said wedding in eleven days.

2. My previously relationships were one that was stupid teen "love" and the other was serious. He moved away or things might have been different. It was years until I met my current partner, whom I would not trade the world for.

[Asker]

You know when you're in love with someone your brain is literally high. And when youve done that even one time before, without a longterm goal with your partner, youve fried your brain. Period

[Asker]

@PrettyPriya so in a world of billions of men it took you years to find one. Years for your brain to recover. How many women do you think wait for years after their heart gets destroyed? They go right back out there and break it again. You definitely have scars from your prior romance and personally would anull the wedding

[Agape93]

You have no business talking about her prior or current relationships. Watch it boy.

[PrettyPriya]

It took two years mostly because of covid and the fact that meeting people was not really easy during lockdowns. So, wrong on that account.

The last thing I will say is that this will be the only warning I give about personal attacks. You do not know me or my partner. Nothing about our lives. For you to sit there and personally attack my life or anyone else's is unacceptable.

[Agape93]

Enough dude.

[Asker]

Let it stay up and let people judge me if im so wrong.

[Asker]

Im saving my energy for a pure heart.

[Agape93]

You've been warned twice by two mods. Fuck around and find out.

[Asker]

What do you want me to say? Cus im not sorry

[Agape93]

I don't give a fuck if you're sorry. Enough with the personal attacks. So if you can't stop, then don't talk.

[BlueScorpio]

With my husband yes