Does it look lame to ask a girl out to date?

[Anonymous]

Its a simple question but I think like saying it make me look like a pervert or something

[SteveSmith1985]

No, it's... still the main way dates come about.

It's... not going to come about any other way. It's almost the same thing as asking "is dating lame". maybe (actually, don't even get me started on why dating sucks). But it's still the predominant way two people are likely to become romantically involved.

So, no asking a girl out on a date doesn't make you look lame.

There is, of course, the inherent risk of rejection when asking a girl out. And all you can do is to try and "read the room" to try and only ask out a girl who seems to be giving you signs she is inclined to say yes. Those signs can be anything to make you think she's interested (looks, smiles, how she interacts with you etc.).

Now... personally, (not speaking for 'guys' here), I do, in fact, think that cold-asking a girl out... without ANY indication she would be open to being asked out... is generally to be avoided. Maybe it's part not wanting to make anyone feel harassed, and maybe it's part not having enough guts, but I'm not going to go ask out the good-looking woman at the grocery store. For all I know she's married. That seems nuts to me. THAT is when you risk being taken as 'a pervert' or 'harassing'.

But when it comes to "that girl at work who seems like she might be interested in you"... reads the signs she's sending. And usually you can figure out pretty clearly whether or not she's hoping you'll ask her out, or if it might not be a wise thing for you to do, in that specific situation.

Basically, just choose WHO you ask out, using a bit of common-sense. Don't be aggressive or inappropriate about it. Other than that, you really have nothing to worry about (aside from the worry of being rejected... which is inescapable. But you can minimize that risk significantly by 'reading the room')

[SlavicThor]

No but If you hesitate, you come across as weird

If you bite the bullet and go for it because it's what you want, you'll be far more successful

[Random_g]

Why? Is she underage?

What happened to the world to the point where men are thinking this way .. If you're afraid of rejections I can understand your fears but if you're afraid of looking like a pervert then I don't understand...

But I'm curious, does this happen a lot where you live? I'm not trying to be rude I swear, I'm just curious, I never come across something like this

[Asker]

No I just want some confirmation so if she rejects me I won't be much disappointed in myself

[Random_g]

Rejection is part of life, it only means you two aren't meant to be so don't take it the hard way... And I would advise you not to make a move if you are not sure of the other's feelings

[clampfan101]

Guys and girls are both often nervous about asking someone out. Just ask. :)

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes, it is demeaning his own masculinity.

[Twalli]

How else do you get to date people?