How can I stop my friend trying to steal men?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who (I think) is in competition with me. She’s a good friend in some ways but there’s one thing that annoys me. It seems like every guy I like or am talking to or dating she will go behind my back and try to flirt with him. she is currently dating someone I used to talk to. When I started seeing my current, who she’s never met, she found out who he was, followed him on Instagram and started posting raunchy pics on her story. I confronted her about it and she said she just ‘wants to be friends with who I’m dating.’ But I don’t trust it because she’s done it to me once before. How do I stop her?

[TaureanBull81]

I had a mate like this who would try to do the same with women I dated in the past. The best thing to do is to set boundaries in place such as not telling her who you're seeing, lessen contact and don't socialise that much with her anymore. She will start to wonder why you're keeping her at a distance.

[TaureanBull81]

Thanks for the MHO 😊

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know why people act like this. It makes no sense to me. I think maybe you should cut toxic people out of your life to the best of your ability.


You might still have to interact with them sometimes. But have boundaries

[Asker]

Because they have issues

[Summeroflove]

I couldn’t have said it better myself 👍 💯 🎯

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Cut ties immediately and never look back. I've done this several times with several "friends" and I don't regret about it.

Toxic friends like that can either influence you, or bring you down.

[Alwayreckles93]

Sadly our generation there's a lot of jealousy and envy.

[Asker]

I know, it’s sad

[Alwayreckles93]

I would advice you to cut her off completely. That friendship is toxic. I had to cut off people I went to school work with so much competition. Seems like your friend is a narcissist.

[Guccigabbana18]

I agree that OP's so-called "friend" is a narcissist. I had a friend who was definitely a covert narcissist and behaved in similar ways.

[Asker]

@Guccigabbana18 I don't know

[Alwayreckles93]

@Guccigabbana18 Right you can tell right away when they are a narcissist.

[Guccigabbana18]

Exactly, The red flags are envy, competition, compulsive lying, obsessed with attention and hiding who they really are in public/being two-faced. It's easy to spot once you've been close to one before.

[Guccigabbana18]

+ a lack of accountability. Watch out @OP, I would stay far away from this girl.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Guccigabbana18 Yes her friend must be a poser.

[Guy13]

I would block her from everything and she would not be my friend. But that's just me.

[Guy13]

What did you decide to do going into a New Year?

[Asker]

Thank you. I decided to ghost her. It's bad, but I didn't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing why.

[Guy13]

Oh, I see. Backing away fully without issues and see what happens, right. Be safe 😎

[HighValue]

Try to only date an actual good man, because a good man can't be stolen since he would be loyal. Also, try to find someone that doesn't care about social media.

[Asker]

I agree

[Laracroft12234]

This ^^

[es20490446e]

She's not your real friend, she's a fake friend. Aka the most problematic kind of enemy you can have.

Real friends don't flirt with the dates of their friends, even if they find them sexy.

[Asker]

I don’t think she even likes them or wants them, she just wants to prove something to me tbh

[es20490446e]

Her problem.

[Haaa135]

Sleep with her boyfriend. Then she'll know how it feels.

[Laracroft12234]

No don't do this, don't stoop to a girl like this's level!!!

[Alwayreckles93]

It's best if she cuts this so called friend of.

[CubsterShura]

You don't stay friends with a person like that, period. I can't imagine trying to steal a man, jeez. I don't have many friends but they all know better than this.

[Laracroft12234]

Girllll your friend is envious of you.

Girls do this to each other when they want to prove themselves as desirable as you.

At the end of the day, no one can be 'stolen" just think of her weeding out the people not right for you.

Goodluck

[Guccigabbana18]

Cut her off completely. She's not a friend but a snake and is probably jealous of you. And people like this rarely if ever change because there's some big insecurity inside them that makes them act out like this

[zagor]

I got a friend who spends his life

Stabbin' pictures of me with a Bowie Knife

Dreams of strangling me with a scarf

When my name comes up he pretends to barf

I got a million friends

That sounds like your friend.

[7offman]

Seems like she had issues with her self esteem. Cut her off from your life until she figures out what’s wrong with her and start acting normal.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Shy_Steve]

I don't think you will be able to stop her so just stop being friends with her and stop hanging out with her because it is toxic and will negatively effect you even if you don't partake or encourage her.

[Miles1354]

Just stop speaking to her. This is not your friend.

[Miles1354]

I've had my bro in HS do this to me. He was jealous because I got girls and got into college. I just knew it was his problem to bare and he wasn't my mate.

[Miles1354]

If a girl went, it was her problem and she was a cheater anyways. In a way I used my snake friend as a filter to see who the hoes were.

[jshm2]

She ain't no friend if that is her behaviour, kiddo.

[BeyondBirthday]

She isn't a friend she is an enemy. She is jealous of you and when she takes your things it makes her feel better than you. Ditch her.

[aaron210419]

The best way to stop her is to stop messing with her, there should be lines between friends that shouldn't be crossed.

[slatyb]

If she steals a guy from you, he was never that into you.

[Asker]

True but she also tells lies about me

[slatyb]

The people around you probably know that.

[Asker]

Nah she's a convincing liar,

[ZenJen444]

@slatyb thank you !! Like the asker don't want to accept the fact these guys aren't into her. Apparently her friend looks better and has a better personality

[Asker]

@ZenJen444 You're a bully. Get off my question. Bullies be gone!

[Miles1354]

@ZenJen444 You can't talk.. lol

[Asker]

@ZenJen444 I just know you're insecure and projecting your insecurities onto me. I'm not the one! So back off

[Asker]

@Miles1354 thanks!

[ZenJen444]

@asker none of these dudes want you. Lol you're mad at her because these men like her and not you. You're the problem. You're jealous of her

[Asker]

@ZenJen444 I'm not going to reply to bullies. Get help.

[ZenJen444]

@asker you get help work on your appearance. Maybe you'll get blessed like her. For now quit hating on her.

[Asker]

@ZenJen444 I really don't care what you think tbh, I know you're coming from a place of pain and insecurity to be talking like that.

[ZenJen444]

@asker obviously you do lol. Work on your insecurities, appearance and personality. Stop hating on her. These men don't find you attractive. Get Over it. She's better than you.

[Laracroft12234]

@ZenJen444 I've read through this thread and you are pathetic.

[LegendaryDater]

You can't. All you can do is beaware of the behavior and protect yourself when it happens.

[OddBeMe]

Darwinian. Survival of the fittest. If you can’t cut it stand aside.


Just kidding. She’s a bitch. But why are your men flocking to her? Are you picking her bfs and not yours?

[Asker]

They aren’t flocking to her. Well one of them did, but the others didn’t. She actively seeks them out to plot against me I guess

[Sasha0426]

Block her on everything. Have your boyfriend block her too.

[Asker]

Thanks girl. I decided to ghost her and have removed her as a follower hahah

[Bklynbadboy12]

If she's tryin to steal your man she's not you friend

[Vegasrunner]

Ummmm welcome to planet earth. Women all fight for the same type of man so her going after the guys you like is just a coincidence.

[Alwayreckles93]

That kind of behavior never happened with people your generation everyone is nice and friendly to each other. Now a days millennial are jealous and envious with each other it was hell in high school fighting over a parking spot why this person has a better car then I. That never happened in your generation. I bet there were no fights at the time when you were in highschool.

[Vegasrunner]

@Alwayreckles93 Woman have always fought over the same minority of top tie guys since the beginning of time. It just seems different to yoy because you haven't really expirienced enough of life to see paterns repeated in generations after you.

[Anonymous]

spread a rumor that she has an STD.

[Opinion Owner]

tbh, it may not even be a rumor lol

[Asker]

I don’t want to become like her though haha. But thanks for that suggestion!

[Anonymous]

Hang around short men, she won't be trying to steal them.

[Asker]

Unfortunately I don’t think it’s about the men. It’s about me

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats not a friend, ditch her.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Easy... Unfriend her...

[hothirldoll]

She is not your friend

[jimmy2]

Man that not a friend