How to deal with a girl trying to steal my boyfriend?

There is this girl that my boyfriend months ago said he thought she was attractive and who "was just friends." I've recently found out though that a couple months ago they had been texting, messaging each other on Facebook... etc. etc. And it was not "just friend" stuff. She would call him babe and hun and baby. And she actually convinced him to make us go on a break with each other. She actually texts him saying how she is "so horny" and that she is going to come visit him and sleep over (He did invite since we were now on 'break').

This was a month or so ago. We're still kinda on break but I was obviously pissed cause I trusted him saying they were just friends. And this was while we were dating! So I questioned him about it. He admitted and what not but told me he was honestly just attracted to her sexually. (I mean she sounds like a whore).

He actually cried because I was so close to breaking it off with him. He told me he cares about me more than her or any other girl and he really did think that what he did was wrong. I told him I forgave him cause he told me he wouldn't talk to her again, at least nothing like that. I feel like a bitch telling him he can't be friends with her... but... I wouldn't be able to not freak out if I knew or saw them talking.

So although I am hesitant, I am choosing to give him a second chance. But I don't know how to deal with the girl. How should I act about her. I mean I see her a lot around campus, and what if she talks to him again. I know me telling him to not talk to her will start a huge fight. What do I do? I want the slut to back off!


Most Helpful Guy

  • you walk up to her with brass knuckles and point it at her and say "Hear this slut, back the phuck off" then back away slowly while and mean dog eye her until she pees herself.


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What Guys Said 2

  • First of all he knows he shouldn't even mess with her if he wants this relationship. That being said he should honestly have no contact with her or else she will try to persuade him to do it again. You should just draw the line and say no.

  • To be honest, someone trying to steal your boyfriend isn't a problem if your boyfriend doesn't... you know... TRY TO GO FOR HER

    The problem here is your boyfriend

    • I know. And if this had happened now I would've ended it. But it's in the past and he told me he now realizes how important I am and how much he doesn't want to leave me. I just want to make sure she backs off.

What Girls Said 2

  • If he loves you so much...

    Why would he give this slut the time of day?


    I would ponder that if I were you.

    Guys can lay on guilt trips and cry, but at the end of the day...

    Actions speak louder than words.

  • Since you gave him a second chance, make it a condition that he should not speak to her. And if he makes an issue of it, he doesn't really love you. Although, if he really loves you, he should know to back off that slut. And you should just try to avoid her and act normal, that will work on her nerves. If she sees your mad, she'll know that you still see her as a threat.