Stealing a girl from her boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I really like this girl and I'm smitten. She is on the same course as me and she's super gorgeous. she's an international student.

But the problem is that she has a boyfriend and I know she really loves him. But the thing is that her boyfriend is a creep and they are an inter racial couples it's not going to work anyway? she's South Asian and he's Jewish and white I'm assuming so it's not even a legitimate relationship?

I mean he's definitely a very good looking guy but he's always up her ass and won't leave her alone.
he's not a student here (is an alumni) but works at a shop and an NGO. However, he keeps coming to the university when he's not working or when he is off work early and he won't let her be with her friends.

I've flirted with her in front of him to which he reacted really negatively which shows he's pretty aggressive. A red flag. I ve also seen he is a creep who gropes her a lot, plays with her hair and I'm sure he's only with her because of sex and the fact that she's pretty. He saw me staring at her and ever since then he has been visiting to the university a lot and is always spending time with her. He glares at me, doesn't talk to me and hates me.

I really like this girl and I want her. What can i do to get her? he's Jewish so he isn't going to marry her anyway? I'm sure he's using her for sex and beauty so I think I'm not wrong.

Any help?

[serious]

I will answer in parts:

1. "But the problem is that she has a boyfriend and I know she really loves him. But the thing is that her boyfriend is a creep and they are an inter racial couples it's not going to work anyway? she's South Asian and he's Jewish and white I'm assuming so it's not even a legitimate relationship?"

First of all, it is very cheap and highly immoral to even think about stealing someone else's girlfriend. Hence honestly speaking your thinking is highly inappropriate and it only indicates that instead of looking for other right ways to find yourself a loving girlfriend, you are instead interested in who is already taken.

Secondly I don't know based on what you are questioning the legitimacy of their relationship? I mean if they are above 18 and who knows maybe their families know this as well and are okay with it. It seems that you are perceiving things and assuming that it won't work out between them.


cont...

[serious]

2."I mean he's definitely a very good looking guy but he's always up her ass and won't leave her alone.
he's not a student here (is an alumni) but works at a shop and an NGO. However, he keeps coming to the university when he's not working or when he is off work early and he won't let her be with her friends.

I've flirted with her in front of him to which he reacted really negatively which shows he's pretty aggressive. A red flag. I ve also seen he is a creep who gropes her a lot, plays with her hair and I'm sure he's only with her because of sex and the fact that she's pretty. He saw me staring at her and ever since then he has been visiting to the university a lot and is always spending time with her. He glares at me, doesn't talk to me and hates me."

Okay, from this information. I understand that this man is far from being an ideal boyfriend, or a man whom a woman can admire and look up to. However, who knows this man might have some really good qualities and plus points that his girlfriends really likes about him. In a relationship if the good qualities, the positive qualities exceeds the flaws and drawbacks then it is good enough for a relationship to work out and last long.

Yes, agreed the info you have given does indicate that this man might be possessive and may be controlling of her as well. However was he always like this? it is possible that he has become like this ever since he knew that you are around his girlfriend. Some men are very competitive and so I think he sees you as someone whom he should keep away from. May be he is just being protective towards his girlfriend, in an aggressive and possessive way though. However, you know some women do like such boyfriends who are a bit possessive about them.

[serious]

You say that this man is pretty aggressive and reacts negatively when you flirt in front of him. Fine, but then what are you doing here? is your behaviour appropriate? You are flirting with a woman who already has a boyfriend? is that not inappropriate?

What you are doing here is very cheap.

If his behaviour is wrong then your behaviour is equally wrong, morally wrong as well. Another point is I have not seen where you said that his girlfriend is having a problem with her boyfriend, so unless she says anything or objects one has to go on face value that she loves her boyfriend for who he is and how he is. There is nothing you can do here. In fact you shouldn't.

You clearly need to stay away and respect her choice which you don't seem to do so.

[Asker]

Ok answer this

Sex and ex girlfriend? ↗

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Honestly you're the one who sounds like the "creep" in this scenario. You're only a few steps removed from hiding in the bushes outside her house to watch her get fucked by her boyfriend. You have no business being this involved in-- or presumptuous about-- a couple's private affairs. There's about 4 billion other women on the planet, go "steal" one of them from singlehood.

[neurolove]

This is how people get killed because of jealousy or temporary insanity. You should wait and let her make her own decisions. Respect her and her choices. Until she is free, back off for your own safety.

[AllAmericanGirl99]

If you steal her it shows that you are a shitty person and if she let's you steal her she is equally shitty and your relationship will be shitty.
Maybe try and be honorable

[AzureGirl]

Dude, respect the fact she’s in a relationship and back off. You sound desperate. What they do and don’t do in their relationship is not your business.

[Asker]

But I want her

[AzureGirl]

And you can’t always have what you want. Move on.

[Asker]

That guy isn't nice

[AzureGirl]

And if there were issues in their relationship then they’re perfectly able to deal with them themselves. But out.

[JimboGB]

You're making a lot of assumptions. It is not possible to steal a girlfriend, you simply pushed a hoe over the edge. Don't forget it only takes someone better than you for irony to hit and to find yourself at square one all over again.

[Liam_Hayden]

He's creep because he caresses his own girlfriend and he's aggressive because he doesn't like that you flirt with her in his presence? Dude, are you even for real? Take a good look in the mirror. YOU are the jerk here, not her boyfriend.

[Libido_]

I think it's her choice u know u should not get involved in their affair... I know u think u r better and u would be good for her but , that's ur perception only,

[spartan55]

If you feel like getting your ass kicked then go for it.

[btbc92]

Like your any better...

[NewZion]

Can't you get pussy elsewhere?

[In_Trance]

Too much work. Find someone free and clear.