She has a boyfriend yet she's sabotaging my potential relationship

[Anonymous]

There's this girl in my bio class who I started talking to. She's really nice-looking, but then she mentioned her boyfriend during class, so I was okay with just being friends with her.

This other girl in my bio class started to like me: it was really obvious, she'd always talk to me nervously, touch me on the arm, ask me to "study" with her, text me and ask me if I got the texts, etc. So when she began sitting at the same table as the first girl and me, the first girl pretty evidently got jealous.

I say this because the first girl noticed the attention I was getting from the second girl, then started calling her my "Girlfriend" in every sentence, got visibly upset when I decided to do a lab with her instead, and then started to complain about her stealing our lab secrets. Then one time when I studied with the first girl, she kept asking me questions about the second girl.

It really started to annoy me. This girl already has a boyfriend, so why is she trying to sabotage this potential relationship I have with this other girl? None of the stuff she says is tongue-in-cheek or joking, it's always mean-spirited and she always tries to get the other girl in trouble or make me feel bad about reciprocating that attention.

It's gotten to the point where the girl who has a crush on me is afraid of sitting at the same table now because of the rudeness of the first girl

[SgtvonMinden]

Set the boundaries between the first girl and yourself, firmly. It sounds like she is used to getting her way all the time, and doesn't know how to respect others.

Let her know the next time she pulls something like that, that she has gone to far. Stand up for the second girl, not only will the second girl appreciate this immensely, she will find you even more attractive, and will help build a strong relationship once she sees that you can protect her.

She will also see that you have a strong sense of morals for doing this. The first girl hasn't seen any sort of deterrence from you, so she may see that as a go ahead to do it again. You have to stop this. It isn't right, and you obviously like the second girl.

The second girl seems like girlfriend material, where as the first girl sounds like a brat.

Go for the second girl, and put the first girl in her place.

[PikaPerson01]

I doubt the first girl liked you. Telling you she had a boyfriend was a pretty sure sign you had no chance with her, either because she really did have a boyfriend or because she doesn't respect you enough to tell you the truth and wanted to make you jealous.

In short though, you gotta put Girl #1 in her place. Tell her to back the hell off, either in private or public, and also try to spend more time with Girl # 2, specifically when Girl #1 isn't around.

[sweetnsassy23]

You should just ignore the first girl and stop being her lab partner...and also since she has a boyfriend...even if you do like her you shouldn't date her cause she has a bf...you should go with the second girl..she sounds nice, uncomplicated and doesn't crave attention from every guy around her...the key is to remember when looking for a girlfriend you wanna go for the girl with the least amount of drama and who will focus on you and not seek out attention from other guys...this first girl obviously just likes the attention...and put yourself in her bf's shoes...you wouldn't wanna be that guy whose girlfriend is always trying seek out attention elsewhere and sabotaging other peoples potential relationships...yikes! Good luck!

[shery274]

You already asked this question, didn't you? Did you not find what you were looking for in an answer yesterday? What do you want us to say? Do you want us to say that this girl likes you or something?

It is probably because just like guys become competitive for a girl (even if they have a girlfriend) so does a girl. The girl wants to be the desirable one, and doesn't want anyone else to take over. Is this girl that likes you as attractive as the other girl?

[Xenophobia]

Quit asking questions and answer the question....

[shery274]

I did answer the question and asked my own. It is a reasonable question anyway.

[brightermoon]

The the committed girl to back off. She has a boyfriend, why should she be jealous. I'm not sure why you're letting this happen. If you really are into the other girl, then why aren't you sitting with her? What's the point in sitting at a table with a **** block?

[pianoist]

Common sense dictates, the first girl is a bitch. The second girl deserves more attention.

[Xenophobia]

Girl #1 needs to be put in her place. She's a jealous girl...who wants what she can't have.

[Anonymous]

all girls crave attention =T They are coniving sluts =T

[BlackSuperman]

TELL THE FIRST CHICK TO FCK OFF