Do people who are more reserved have more trouble creating attraction for the opposite sex?

[red324]

I constantly hear this from girl, I just don't feel a spark between us. I mean I always feel like the date went well and we always have great conversation and usually always get a kiss at the end, so then why do they come out of left field with I don't feel a connection or I don't feel any spark? This is always after a date or two. Rarely do I ever get a third date.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Let me address one thing first-
"I constantly hear this from girl, I just don't feel a spark between us." You said yourself there was no connection or spark there right? That's why!!

While reserved people might have a slightly harder time with dating, as others might assume we're: prudes, uptight, uninterested, indifferent... you get my point- Around the right person, or after people get to know us, we open up as well.

She probably picked up that you two were not connecting, so she stopped talking to you. It sucks, but that's dating: trying to find a person you feel a "spark" or connection with.
She, and most people, will give it a few dates to see how they feel you and try to build a potential connection. And if they don't feel it? They move on.

Don't let that discourage you from trying! Just keep trying and when the right woman comes among, there will be a spark.

[robbo]

I don't know if I’ve encountered the right person. Well there is one guy I have an easier time talking too, and he is severely addicted to some bad drugs so that is prolly why he is easy to talk to I imagine cause he’s not as shy as all the other guys cause he’s always going on something. That’s the problem too is all the guys are really shy too. And that coupled with my major walls, no one is going to get to know me.

[SphynxUK]

You can’t make someone like you. The women had a nice date but didn’t feel any attraction for you. If they weren’t quite sure how they felt, they’d see you again.
Someone can be good ‘on paper’ which is why you meet up; to see how they are in real life.

[Guy13]

It is definitely your personality as one has to be edgy, irreverent, or some kind of way to get their interests percolating. Consistency in the way is consistent though. One can't go bad boy into nice guy as it does not follow and this too will kill the dating vibe.

[Summeroflove]

Because they might not be the right person for you. If someone starts trying to change you or you find yourself trining to change them. Take it as it’s not mean to be. Because this is not healthy.

you'll find someone

[Avishh]

The definition of date going well for you might not be the same for her. She wants more than a conversation, you gotta make a different move. Set a dinner date to start with, while on a date let her do the 80% of the talking. Don’t get into the deep conversation, flirt with her, tease her, touch her, keep your eye contact. If get chance kiss her while you’re on the date. The idea here is to sexually attract her towards you at the same time be mysterious meaning don’t talk to much. While on date hint her to move things to your place see what she responds to that, if she is resistant spend some more time and ask her again. Leave long conversation for after sex. If things doesn’t end up the bedroom after date, there will be no spark. She is not gonna do that, she is just gonna play along if you make your moves right. Be a man take a lead.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You mean reserved as in shy or don't talk much?

I'm going to assume you mean shy, if you aren't willing to meet women then you have no chance to get a woman.

At barely minimum you have to be willing to talk to women at least a little bit.

[robbo]

I am more reserved and I have never been on a date. Yeah, they are prolly looking for someone who is more emotionally available and can crack a joke. That is my experience.

[PinkRose24]

No. I think it's just your personality. A date can go well and not feel any spark or attraction to the guy. Maybe she didn't feel a spark when you kissed her?

[Anonymous]

Often. I'm reserved but more outgoing than I used to be. I've never asked anyone out/been asked out partly because I get cold feet, I haven't had my first kiss, or even been 100% sure anyone has even liked me

[KathrynTaylor]

I don’t think so. I think you need to keep looking to meet the right women.

[Purpul]

[Yes, more-so for a man. Because one does not want to initiate, make a move, or simply outright interact most-times.]

[melanieeeB]

Nope I don't think so, it wasn't the right match for now

[Dargil]

Yes, but we live decent, civilized lives. Our guest list is just shorter.

[Anonymous]

That doesn't help.

[Pohjolan]

Yes.