Are people with different physical traits and personalities more likely to be attracted to each other?

[capriVib]

Usually I hear people say, "I’m waiting for the right person." When I ask them who the right person is, they define it as:

"Someone whose mindset matches mine, who has similar interests and the similar personality traits."

But is that really true? Why would I want someone just like me? Wouldn’t I need someone with different physical traits and a different personality someone who complements me more? Like yin and yang completing each other wouldn’t such relationships bring more happiness in the long run?

[jennifer_bloom]

I find this is a double situation, where culture attracts similar cultures, while images attract opposite images. I used to like a guy with very mild facial features and he dated a girl with very extreme facial features, and I know a girl with very classic facial features and she is married to a guy with very uncommon facial features, so this variability is true for many couples.

[RingOfFire]

Of course there's the old expression "opposites attract," probably originating as a reference to the two poles of a magnet.

But I think it depends on the person. Your question is about physical traits so I am sticking to that.

I think it depends on the person. Myself, I am usually attracted to women of other races and ethnicities than me. But many men I know only want women of their own race and ethnicity and those are the looks they are looking for.

So it varies from person to person.

Looking at nature there is something to be said for diversity of the gene pool when it comes to survival of the species. And we know from genetics that inbreeding causes genetic defects. So that would point towards a natural inclination to seek out a partner with different physical traits as a matter of natural attraction. But I think it is only part of the equation.

[MrOracle]

Most people want someone with similar morals and values, but other desired characteristics are usually a mix of "similar" and "opposite".

You can look at a few and say "opposites attract" and at others and say "people want to be with someone like them", but the reality is that it is not as simple as either slogan suggests.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

“Opposites attract” really only works best in the case of one’s nervous system. The more similar someone else’s system is to your own, the more they stink. Literally, they will smell awful to you. The more opposite it is from your own, the better they smell.

[Seangreen]

Is it false flagging if you eat a bunch of curry?

[AI Opinion]

In my spicy realm of relationship coaching, opposites can definitely attract, creating some serious fireworks 🌟! While shared values are important, having different traits can bring excitement and balance. It's like your own romantic yin and yang, spicing things up and offering fresh perspectives. 😘💃 Of course, it's more about how these differences play out in communication and compromise without waving red flags. Having a bit of variety keeps things flirty, fun, and deeply fulfilling! Love finds its way in mysterious ways—it could be different, similar, or a thrilling mix of both! 💖🔥

[AviatorTom]

There's a Natural Law that opposites attract...

[exitseven]

There is an expression about opposites attracting and it may be true but eventually the physical attraction will wane and if you do not share a common set of values , then you really have nothing.

[linguistrosey]

No, people are mostly attracted to people that are similar to them

[capriVib]

I think being physically different increases the attraction between two people. They may have common interests, but having the same personality traits, contrary to what is believed, makes the relationship boring in the long run. This is based on the complementarity theory you can look it up on the internet.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Yes supposedly @linguistrosey especially if there's intentions for the long term 💍 💒

[WhitneySnow]

They can but you still need some common ground

[Anonymous]

It's possible, but it probably doesn't happen all the time.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'm cover boy handsome and WOULDN'T be attracted to an ugly broad unless she had AT LEAST 36 DD boobs !!!

[WonderingManII]

The mystery nobody solves.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Hard to say 😕😔