Asking someone out who lives a 3 hour drive away. Thoughts on the distance?

[Anonymous]

Hey so there is a girl I'm interested in. We've talked on and off with for a while, but I never ended up asking out. (Been a crazy year and didn't have time to date)

We've been a bit more out of touch the past few months (I went over seas and didn't have a phone plan that worked) so we haven't talked much at all in those months. But life for me has cleared up this year, and I was thinking about reaching out to her and seeing if she's still single/interested, then finally asking her out.

Anyone have any dating advice for a first date with the distance? In the past asking someone out I just text a girl a few messages then ask her to meet for coffee in one short texting conversation. Then I would normally talk to face to face, and plan future dates in person. Any longish distance relationships I've had started close.

She lives a 3 hour drive away so it's not terrible, and maybe I'm just overthinking things, but I don't know a first date at that distance feels like it needs a bit more planning then just saying "hey I enjoy talking to you want to grab coffee".

So I'm looking for any first date ideas/ ways to reach back out to her.

[Selene1600000]

Start simple reach out, catch up a bit, then be direct: “Hey, I’d love to see you would you be up for meeting halfway for a coffee or lunch?” A 3-hour distance just means you plan a slightly longer, low-pressure date (like brunch + a walk) so the trip feels worth it without turning it into a full day commitment. Don’t overcomplicate it if she’s interested, the effort will feel natural on both sides.

[Nikki1989]

Too far for me.

[LiamJHayden]

Too far for me.

[In_Trance]

I think you're wasting your time but you do you