+1 yAs a breakup coach, I can tell you that long distance relationships are very difficult and it's not just difficult for the relationship to survive but it is difficult to be in the relationship. The one you love isn't available. You can't wake up to them or pop over - or meet for lunch on a whim. Night after night, texting gets old. I deal with a lot of long distance relationships that have broken up and it's even more difficult for them to get back together. For a while, both are motivated to travel a lot to see each other. But as the newness and the fireworks wear off, motivation to make the drive or flight wears off. I'd avoid it if possible. Or move. At least, know that it will be difficult and that you should work hard to keep the romance alive.
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I am trying to. She doesn't want to but she wants to be with me and just turn down somebody who wants to be with her who she could see more often. I don't want to lose my opportunity for happiness but I also don't want her to need me and I'm unable to be there instantly. The thought of me not being there made me tell her to stay single for now in regards to me. I don't want to fail her.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI have dated someone who I met on line and was 2 hours away. He didn’t have a license or a job. We dated for 1 month and I got tired of always going to see him. Then one day he should up at my place (he took the bus) and we dated again. 5 months into it I got pregnant, he refused to move in with me (I couldn’t move due to my work) at around 4 months pregnant, he disappeared. Still have no contact with him or any child support. I love my little girl tho.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yOur relationship would already have to be at that super serious we're in this together for life level for me to take on a 3 hour drive every time I wanted to see them in person. I don't want to date someone through a computer screen--not my thing, so basically no sans the former.
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+1 yIf I liked them and trusted them - then yes.
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+1 yYes. I wish my girlfriend were that close.
00 Reply3 hours ain't too much to be honest, one of my exes lived about 4 hours of travel with 2 trains away, and i had to get picked up because no busses to her. We met about almost each weekend and vacation if we had money to do so, i also tried sneaking a lot on the train, but the 2nd one was allways hard to sneak on haha.
Honestly (imo) distance shouldn't really be counted in time, but in how easy and cheap you can get there. Like if you can only travel to your bf/gf once a month beacause of money, no way to travel or whatever, is kinda more important. Unless you have car, then i guess it's just money and that the car works that counts? Hehe10 ReplyTried to date a guy who lived 1 hour away and I still got awkward and complicated trying to figure out when he actually wanted to meet me or were and then he went off back to uni and that was even further and we faded apart and he was massaging me less so I figured he wasn't that interested and gave up.
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+1 yIf it was a rural location then that maybe could work. Calming drives along winding roads, beautiful scenery, and lack of cars.
But, if it's a metropolitan area, then absolutely not. Too much traffic that you always get stuck in, working your way around said traffic, constant planning, et cetera. Too complicated.00 ReplyDepends if you started dating without ever have meeting in person. If a relationship was built from the start online then it has a good chance. If you met someone in person and are trying to date, there will be levels of anxiety with it. However, in day and age... i think long distance relationships have a better chance then it did before webcams, texts, sms and facetime...
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+1 yI do date a guy who is 40 kilometres away from me but we still see each other everyday. And I have highschool and work too. Distance doesn't matter if you can see them. Then It doesn't matter If you woke up at 5 am just to see him ar 7 am for one hours before classes.
00 Reply I dated him when he was 3.5 hours away, but then he moved over seas and was an air plane ride 14 hours away. We got married though. We were serious about each other.
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+1 yNo too far and I've done the long distance thing before. I'm over that now and it is so much easier to sustain a relationship when you can see each other every day.
00 Reply687 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I don't think that would be too much of a problem for me. Maybe a little challenging but not nearly as difficult as dating someone on the other side of the country or the world.
00 ReplyWhy not? If neither one has a problema with it and both can commute back and forth without an issue. I dont see why 2 people who are attracted and liekd each other can't see each othr just because the "transportation" obstacle.
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I'd date someone a bit further away distance and time wise. But understand that those sort of relationships can be straining.
So long as me and the hypothetical other shared the traveling it would be fine.00 Reply1.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. There would have to be a very strong connection for me to start dating, and continue with it, if they lived three hours away. If I loved them, and they had to move, it would work.
00 ReplyThats a bit far for me. Maybe if I had a better vehicle. I'd have to be nuts in love with her though.
I don't like driving anymore. I've hit two deer and rolled a car, been rear-ended by a guy doing 90, along with other mishaps.00 Replyits veeeryyyyyyy hard to do it but it is possible you just have to have a lot of trust in eachother my ex moved to texas and i lived in minnesota we made it work for a couple months but i found out he was being sextual with other girls
00 ReplyI’m dating someone that live 7 hours away and it’s been going almost 3 years. I’m driving down to see her November 2nd. We see each other regularly
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yIf you only want local people it will be harder to find someone you think is special to you. Also the chance of having a job 3 hours away is also possible in most countries. So if a job is worth it and the relationship is great then yes. I would.
00 ReplyYeah? That isn't terribly far? Mose of my friends are 3+ hours away and if I don't have much work I'll drive up to their place on weekends
00 ReplyNop. I'm not even sure I want to date this guy that lives like 1 hour away. It's just too complicated :(
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+1 yPersonally, I don’t mind not seeing my significant other often which might sound rude but I enjoy my solitude a lot, so I wouldn’t mind.
00 ReplyI don't really like distance relationships but if iam already in love with him then yes even if it's 300 miles away tho I'd like to stay single as long as possible
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+1 yI date someone who's more than 3 hours away by plane
10 ReplyDefinitely. I even plan on trying to date one of my best friends (while in college in 2 years) who's gonna end up living about 5 hours away (but still in the same state)!
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+1 yThat doesn't sound too far, we could meet up somewhere in between so we both only drive about 1.5 hours. Its not even bad to take a Saturday or a Sunday to meet her.
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+1 yIf I were crazy about her, yes. If it grew stronger, to where we'd want to live together or be together, we'd have to be willing to sacrifice to make that happen.
00 Reply Hell yes. You will build trust or it will fail quickly
00 ReplyNo i wouldn't unless I was dating them before they lived that far away
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+1 yYeah because I am in a relationship with someone in a different country.
00 Reply1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I do. But I haaaaaaaate it. I love him. But the distance is most challenging.
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+1 yNot that much distance so yeah I would date someone like that
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+1 yThere is no limit to what I would do for someone I really loved. 3 hours or not, am there.
00 Reply 6.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Possibly, but I would be making plans to be closer.
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+1 yYes I would if they where worth it I have done it it was pretty successful we where together a year
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+1 yI dated someone who lived half that long away, but even that was a bit of a strain.
00 ReplyI'm trying to date someone who lives 8 hours away... by plane.
00 Reply408 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Probably not its too far away , but meaby who knows
If u play to live together in a 6 months - 1 year then u can handle that but longer nope00 Reply
+1 yHmmm... 3 hours away is a bit far. I suppose I could, but I would STRONGLY prefer she live a bit closer.
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+1 yMy boyfriend is 2.5 hours away by plane 😅 I wouldn't mind if he was 3 hours away by bus or by car.
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+1 yNot ever again, me and my ex boyfriend broke up because of him living in another state
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+1 yWouldn’t be able to see them much except weekends and would be costly if anyone is that far from me since I’m in New York so I would rather not
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+1 yWell, the nearest major cities are 3 hours away. Riverside/San Bernardino to the west, Phoenix to the east.
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yYes I would date someone who lived 20 hours away with flight if I really liked him
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+1 yHave loved someone 2hrs away🤣🤣🤣. An extra hour maynot hurt more than not being loved
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+1 yI'm reluctant to date someone on the other side of town.
00 ReplyIf the trust is there and ur able to met up go for it !! I dated someone 5 hours away was together for 3 years
00 Reply307 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I might. I travel half that time to get to a job I dont really like, so 3 hours for a wonderful woman would be worth it.
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+1 yIf you can see one of you moving to the other in 5 years, yes. Do it.
If not, you'll be stuck like me and my ex-girlfriend... Put on pause...00 ReplyYes I would I would love to get to know you better and make love to you all the time none stop day and night 🌙
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yI'm dating someone that lives in a different country and is 13 hours away by plane
10 ReplyOnly of you are both willing to compromise and work things out as hard as they get. Long distance relationships can work but only if you both know the stress that it puts on the relationship.
00 ReplyI dont know I would have to know more about her first
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Anonymous(18-24)+1 yYea, I'm dating someone a lot farther than that so.
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+1 yMy school was 3 hours away + traffic. Sure. I'm used to it
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+1 yex fiancee was in fla, ex girlfriend was in nj she complained about the drive which was 1 hr...
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+1 yMy s. o. lives six hours away so yes and contrary to what people believe our relationship is amazing
00 Reply857 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I had a crush on a girl who was four hours away before.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 ymy boyfriend lives 11 hours away..3 hours even a question?
00 ReplyYea i m in relationship the distance is sometimes good for the relationship. You missing more
00 ReplyIs there a reason soeone closer isn't in your sights?
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+1 ysure. I used to date someone who lived 3 1/2 hours away from me so it can work.
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