Older men - if a younger woman was interested in you what qualities in her would you be looking for?

[Anonymous]

He’s 15 years older than me and we get on extremely well.

I really like him and I’m scared to mess it up.

[MCheetah]

PERSONALITY:

1. (Mandatory) Strictly heterosexual
2. (Mandatory) Strictly monogamous
3. (Mandatory) Politically moderate; not too liberal or conservative
4. (Mandatory) Loyal/faithful
5. (Mandatory) Respectful/classy/ladylike
6. Kind/positive
7. Intelligent
8. Strong sense of humor
9. Strong work ethic
10. Accepting/nonjudgmental
11. Open-minded
12. Patient; not easily offended or bothered
13. Artistic
14. Nerdy; into video games or superheroes

PHYSICAL:

15. (Mandatory) Strictly female
16. (Mandatory) Feminine style
17. (Mandatory) Good hygiene
18. Curvaceous; big boobs, big booty, thick thighs, etc.
19. Great smile and good teeth
20. Tall: 5'9" to 6'5" (6'2" to 6'5" is ideal)
21. Redhead (or strawberry blonde, or blonde)
22. Young: 23 to 30 is ideal.

All of these would be the perfect woman, but I want at least 11 of these traits; all the mandatory ones and 3 optional ones.

[WindAtMyBack]

If you are 30-35, then 15 years older isn't really all that much. I wouldn't even worry about the age difference except maybe one thing. At 45-50 he might be starting to think about retirement. That can potentially change a lot of things. He might have plans for a lifestyle after retirement that is not compatible with someone who is still working.

He's probably pretty well settled down, or at least more so than you. If things got serious, would you be joining his settled life?

[MadKez]

It's still a big age difference. No different than if she was 18.

[Avicenna]

Id want to see that she understood relationships and was confident in herself. But above all, that she’s in it for the long term

[SnowedIn]

It's not a long list. :)

• Willingness to carry on a conversation.
• Willingness to help me understand the nuances of her generation.
• Willingness to be open to understanding my perspective and the nuances of my generation.
• Understanding that 15 extra years of life experience is a lot -- just something we'd both have to watch out for.

Congrats though on finding a guy! You won't mess it up! :)

[lightbulb27]

at your age, there should be no problems.

we are all looking from what is inside of us, for what is familiar.

Ideally, fun, enjoy being with, stability, good values and character, communication, compatability and interests. "has their stuff together".

[slatyb]

At 30 something? Has her life in reasonable order Something interesting to say.

How would you "mess it up?" Here's probably thinking "I wonder if she would date me? She probably thinks I'm to old."

If he hasn't already asked you out, he's probably thinking he's to old for you to be interested. A as k him out yourself. Even better, invite him to your place for dinner. Dress attractively but not in lingerie. Then kiss him.

[Finchie40]

Treat him how you want to be treated , Make him feel valued and your top priority , Most men want a loyal and faithful girl that stands by his side , a girl the removes selfishness for him a girl that resists temptations for him , When a girl learns to respect her man she will be respected in return. You treat him like a King he will make you his Queen

[SpokenTruth]

What qualities? That would be hard to put into words. I'll tell you from my own prospective although I'm not quite sure I can't put my finger on it. They would do something to me no one else can something about them that pulls me in and keeps me there. The best I can describe it would be they give me a fuzzy feeling within when thinking of them and being around them.

[Adam1978]

Her values and how she treats me and people around her.

[Berethor]

You 30-35, so he likely expect you to be old enough to be ready to become a mom.

[Shamalien]

well, in my experience, the maturity differential can be a problem. Try to take things slow and not make rash decisions out of anxiety. Have some trust

[Iron_Man]

Loyalty awesome, moral values still able to have children

[Surely]

Maturity, self sufficient, no exes in the picture and financially stable. Along with loving and not taking life too seriously.

[Anonymous]

Jennifer is this you? Just tell me how you feel lol I like you too

[Summeroflove]

Just ask him out

[zagor]

Smart, not ditzy, straightforward about her interest, of legal age.

[BJP21]

How you treat other people, your family and yourself.

[dazzinu69]

Go for it.. I had a relationship with a younger girl and I messed it up by being insecure...

[In_Trance]

If you're scared to mess it up, you'll most likely mess it up. That's no way to approach anything

[CuriousMufuxka]

Not being scared of messing it up. That will happen eventually :)

[Figurine89]

Can't you find someone your own age though? Of the same sort of personality and looks. Why does it HAVE to be older like that?

[cootjuhh]

a girl just have to be sweet and understanding thats it.