Is it a red flag if a guy (Law Firm Owner) from bumble asks me to a very expensive steak dinner for a first date?

[Anonymous]

[Lliam]

Probably not. He's probably used to eating expensive meals all the time and thinks it's normal. So he just wants to take you to a nice place.

Drive your own car and meet him there. Let a friend know where you are going and who you are meeting. Have your phone with you.

Aside from that, it's your responsibility to be clear about your boundaries, limits, and expectations. Don't do anything you don't want to do. Don't think you owe him just because he chose to treat you to a nice meal.

If he doesn't respect your beliefs/attitudes, he's not looking for a relationship with a nice girl. He's looking for a hook up.

I hope it turns out well. Have fun!

[NamerOfStars]

I wouldn't say so- it's likely just what he's used to. If you're particularly concerned, try countering with something like "That may be a bit much; how about [something more modest that you suggest]?". If he responds to that by agreeing, or making another reasonable suggestion, you're good; if he flips out, avoid him.

[Asker]

So far he seems great. I’m crossing my fingers!!

[NamerOfStars]

Good luck!

[annabananna]

I don’t think so. If you are interested in him go and get to know him in person. When you meet someone in person you’ll get a better feel on if you get red flags or not. I don’t think that alone is a red flag though unless he said I’m gonna take you to a big fancy expensive steakhouse that most guys can’t afford lol

[Anonymous]

If he's a law firm owner, then I'm Kate Middleton 😂 Joke, but seriously the fact he flaunts his wealth and social status like this, is pretty susp. Either he's not who he claims to be, or he's not looking for a genuine connection or has some ulterior motives

[Asker]

No no not at all. In his profile he was actually SUPER humble and his title only said Attorney at Law Firm. I looked him up on the web and he owns the law firm…idk I’m getting big dick vibes already lmfao

[Asker]

Oh and his phone number matches.

[coachTanthony]

Maybe high value men like myself where money is no issue would just like to have a decent meal getting to know someone. Sounds like this could be the case.

[avenger560]

@coachTanthony A high value person wouldn't never make such a statement. if you were as successful as you claimed, you wouldn't feel the need to brag about it online. Arrogance is definitely an unattractive quality in a partner. You're like the Pakistani multimillionairest dentist of Gag (one of the most famous trolls of the site): a joke

[coachTanthony]

@avenger560 When you are as high value as me these comments happen. I appreciate you nonetheless. Thanks for the comments.

[Anonymous]

I think it is a red flag that he says that he is a law firm owner. If he really is one, I'd be suspicious that he might be married or something. That or he isn't really a law firm owner and is just using that as some sort of pick up line. Do you know who this guy is yet, or have you just been corresponding online so far?

[Asker]

I looked him up and everything matches up and is legit. On his profile just says Attorney at Law Firm, but I looked him up and he’s actually like a huge guy. He’s 36 and I’m 26. Anyway I’m still proceeding with caution.

[Opinion Owner]

Ah OK. The red flag that *might* be there is that he might "expect" something from you if he treats you to a real expensive dinner. On the other hand, things might end up being fine.

[Asker]

Thank you! Yeah I don’t get any vibes like that from him though. My radar is usually good. Unless I show up and he acts like a completely different person.

[Asker]

I hope he doesn’t expect me to pay my half because I really can’t afford it.

[Opinion Owner]

When is this date going to be? Post an update when you get back from it and let us know how it went.

[Asker]

Sounds good! It’s on Friday. I don't know what to wear!

[Angel_ica]

If he invite you he only wants to brag with his money

[Shamalien]

Women overthink all the wrong things and ignore actual red flags. So wack. He’s putting his best foot forward.

[petitedollbabee]

I don’t see how that could be a red flag.

[Asker]

Yeah I guess it’s just kinda flashy lol

[Saamee]

Lol have a nice day